when does a relationship for a married life starts to fade?

I think this happens when one or both of the partners decides not to give it their all. If marriage is treated as a 50/50 arrangement it is doomed to fail. To paraphrase an old saying - "Ask not what your husband/wife can do for you, rather ask what you can do for your husband/wife." :)

The answer to your question is when they stop listening to each other and stop wanting to make their partner happy. (Don't say, "What about my happiness?") Anyone who has been in a relationship remembers how it is in the beginning...all you can think about is this special person that you love so much and you do little things for him/her to show your love. After a while couples start to take each other for granted. Not that they treat each other badly but they stop doing the special little things to show their love and expect their partner to just know that they are loved. But, here's a newsflash...everyone likes to feel special and loved from time to time. It doesn't have to be anything spectatular and expensive...any little gesture, word, deed, a hug even, to show your partner that he/she is special to you and that you appreciate him/her. If you do that, your marriage will stay fresher longer.

The likelyhood that a relationship will fade one day depends on the foundation on which it was built. If a relationship is built on lust (hormones, emotions etc.) then it will fade at the first sign of trouble. If a relationship is built on love, a couple's mutual acceptance of the good as well as the bad, and that they will get through it together, the relationship will NEVER fade.

I think that a lot of marraiges fail because the couple do not think of eachother as friends firts and lovers second. If you care for someone as a friend, you probably won't screw them over in a relationship. I think you have to keep things spiced up and interesting to make a relationship last - and don't give up when things get tough.

yes i have seen this happen to so many couples, when all is great and suddenly things start fading away. there could be two reasons, either one of them meets someone else who they find more inetersting or they just start taking each other for granted. That is the worst you can do in a relationship. start taking each other for granted.

I think it should all start with your relationship when you're not yet married. Getting to know each other is a very important process so you'll be aware of your partner's imperfections and for you to scrutinize and gauge yourself as to what extent can you live with it once you get married. but for those who are already married? i think the common reason for the love that "seems" to fade away is complacency. they get used with their spouse's presence always being with them so they never realize their worth or they never thought of how it would be if their spouse is gone. no more sweet nothings, no more exchange of sweet conversation. it may sound shallow but it really means a lot.

i think it will all start when the couple finlly realiz that they are not contented with each other anymor...its becos they been blind to define what love is.its the reality, that when we feel sumthing different for sum1,we defy it as love already,sumtimes without considering the personality of each and every1,like we are just willing to accept whats in the personality of the person we thought we love...only when your together ...living in the same house and you will see and found out whats the true personality of that person,then you will loose the courage to make him/her better,(turn-off),and sumtimes even if we try to understand that person...we get tired...and why we get tired?...becos wer not really in true love...thens thats when we compared taht person to our ex,then your partner will compare you too...then you will loose the respect,,,so the rest will be history for both of you...its sad but it does happen... so i gues we shud know our selves first...so atleast we would know when to get involve...