House husband, what do you think about it?
By Bebs08
@Bebs08 (10681)
United States
May 16, 2008 3:51pm CST
There are husbands who are staying in the house while their wives are the ones working. The husband will do all the household chores, taking care of children and everything the wife supposed to do. I know of a friend who has this situation. It is because the wife has high position in her job and if she will quit and the husband will be the one to work, his income is too far below the wife's income.
For me, It doesn't matter. Even if the husband is staying home as long as he is doing all the things that he supposed to do including the manly work at home it's fine with me.
I don't know about the others of they would agree on this situation. do you?
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13 responses
@chrysz (1602)
• Philippines
17 May 08
I don't see any thing wrong with the setup. It's practicality that we must consider nowadays. There was a point when my husband has to stay at home to look for the kids rather than hire a nanny because it will be more expensive to have a nanny than for him to go out and work. He prefered working at home and right now, we both work at home so we could look after the kids. I am also about to go back to school so I cannot work outside.
@chrysz (1602)
• Philippines
19 May 08
Oh yes he does, the moment I stepped in our house, it will be my turn to look after the kids or prepare the table for dinner and wash the dishes afterwards (I work in the afternnon as tutor) and it will be his turn to play or surf the net. There was even a time when I have to compete with PS2, PC, etc.
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
18 May 08
Good idea!!! I do think also that there's nothing wrong with it as long as he is working at home not sleeping all the time... lol... Yeah!! there are some husbands that are staying at home but not working the house chores.. maybe just watching TV or playing their favorite game while the wife is working.
Do you believe on that?
thanks for the reply
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
2 Jun 08
Hello dear Bebs. I don't care much about staying-at-home husband, doing household chores and such, if my wife is more capable in making money than me. Instead, I would be very happy to take care of the house and spend some time online every day after finishing doing housework. I would try to make my family life more comfortable for my wife and my kid if I had such a chance. Thank you for your discussion, my dear Bebs.
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@williamjisir (22819)
• China
2 Oct 08
Hello dear Bebs. Thank you so much for the best response. I appreciate it very much. Enjoy your life.
@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
26 May 08
yeah!! you're right it depends upon the individual. But most commonly the husband should be out for work if possible except when he is unable to work.. but if he is strong enough and capable of doing work why not? But if the wife is more comfortable to work than her husband.. it is fine.. it depends upon them as what you said.
thanks for the reply.
@mtrekster (179)
• United States
2 Jun 08
if he is the type to be there for the kids and help you out 24/7 , who cares what the so called critics say?
i know of a friend of mine who has a hubby who is disabled.
he has a bad back and cant work.
she works as a therapist at a hospital.
he helps her out by keeping an eye on the child she has with him, and the child is about the age of 6.
it may be odd among the neighbors when she is working and he is with their daughter 24/7, but he would never have it any other way.
(PS. he gets a pension due to his disability , before he was on pension he worked fixing bus motors in a bus garage)
@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
26 May 08
well, that's fine.. if he helps the household chores and taking care of the children? it is good!!! then he loves you and cares for you too, you don't need to do the work when you will be home because he is doing things for you? wow!! that is nice. But for those wives who are working and when they arrived home they will still work? oh!! that's unfair..
Well, thanks for the reply.
@iamnes (324)
• Philippines
3 Jun 08
for me it's okay if the husband will stay at home as long as he is doing his responsibilities as a house husband. if i have a bigger salary, enough to sustain the entire family, it would be great if my husband will stop working and attend fully to our kids. kids need guidance and attention of parents and it's hard to do that if both of the parents are working.
i would love my husband even more if he opted to become a house husband because he had the guts and the humility to give his better half a chance to succeed in her career, there are very seldom men who are like that. i have friends who grew up in the same situation and there was no difference in terms of our attitude and upbringing. it is also a good thing if you're husband is managing your home instead of working out, you wouldn't have to worry about his late nights at the office and gimmicks. you would always know his whereabouts. you get to succeed in your career and at the same time enjoy your married life! a success in both is hard to find!
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@smooch091784 (973)
• Philippines
3 Jun 08
House husband sounds sexy to me. I'm not married but when I get the married someday, I want my husband who can't do home jobs. Some women might not want it that way, cause they feel like men should be doing the work instead of stay home. Having a husband doing chores is great. But rather prefer if a husband can work in the office and work at home. It is still great to see couple who works together as a team, that not only the wife does the work at home but the husband helps his wife out as well with everything.
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@smooch091784 (973)
• Philippines
3 Jun 08
I mean I want husband who can do home jobs.* Sorry for the typo errors.
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@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
16 May 08
it wouldnt matter to me either if i had a very high paying job and he stayed at home with the kids etc. i once wanted to start a website with an actual stay at home dad and write a series of articles on that subject, but the dad ended up going back to work. (something about his ego lol!)
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
23 May 08
Really? what do you mean by that? you agree or dis agree about it? well, I respect all the opinions I get in here. we have our own mindset. There are people who are agreeable to one thing there are some who have another idea about it. that's what I like in here because we will learn variety of ideas from people.
thank you for replying.
@mychattime (1013)
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16 May 08
When I had our son, my hubby became a house husband as he has back problems, my friends husband was also a house husband so it was nice for them. Although I worked I still did some of the house work as I feel sometimes it needs a womans final touch, sexist maybe ut thats my view. I also did the night feeds with my son as I regarded that as quality time and mine and my sons special time, it won't last forever! I loved my job and my hubby knew that, it didn't bother me that he looked after the house etc. I agree with house hubands, the times have changed and women should be treated equally to men in certain respects and vica versa!
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@ruby222 (4847)
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22 May 08
I dont think it makes much difference at all.If both husband and wife are happy with that arrangement then let them carry on..i see no reason why a man cant do the job just as well as a female can ..maybe in some cases they could do a better job!!lol..but if my hubby had said years ago that he wante to stay a home and me to go out to work i wouldnt have minded one little bit.
@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
23 May 08
yes you're right if both of them have a good arrangement there's no problem. But for me, if the husband is more qualified for a job with good pay, he should be the one to work, or me, to have a part time job to supplement our income.
But if I have to work hard then my husband stayed home? i don't know how I would feel if he really is able to work hard more than me outside home.
Anyway, it depends upon the situation that works with anyone.
thanks for the reply.
@killer_r (42)
• Indonesia
22 May 08
If that's the best for the family, why not? I don't think it has to be the husband that has to work, but it should only because that's the best solution for the family, not because of the lazy husband or other bad reasons.
@chennai_b02 (1735)
• India
3 Jun 08
It depends upon the couple, and also this situation how it happen,
-- she knows the same and at this situation they get married
-- after marriage due to some problem her husband left the job
-- due to accident or something he may not be in a position to go for a job..
-- due to the Ego problem the wife go to job, the husband is at home doing the home works..
-- Since he is not educated, wife is more educated, and capable to earn more..
-- Wife feels that she is superior than her husband and went for the job..
For your questions the reply will get differ for the above different situations..
And also, if the husband at home, and earning the regular income through his investment and the trading activity through phone, in this case also you can espect some problem...
Even though the problem raised out of any of the above situation.. To avoid this problem, only by the husband and wife sit together and discuss and talk openly and take the final solution.
This is only the solution for this matter.