have you ever had a crush that looks fine to you but not to others?
By secretbear
@secretbear (19448)
Philippines
May 16, 2008 10:46pm CST
i hope you won't think that i am stupid. i already feel that way. ^__^;; i just can't contain this anymore. i want to talk about him every now and then because i keep thinking about him. well, this always happen when i have a crush and i seldom like a guy on a degree like this. i still call it a "crush" because its too early to call it love and i don't know him that much and i just like him based on a few shallow things like he's good at basketball and volleyball, he makes a cute and funny reaction while playing the two sports, he's tall, and the way he says my name really sounds so sweet! 
so about the topic, my crush looks so fine to me, he has this boyish appeal and i like it. a lot of people also thinks the same but there are those who think otherwise. someone even said to me that he's rather thin and should put up more muscles here and there. and another one told me that my crush's father is handsome and he is not.
well, i can see it too. i mean, he looks fine to me but i can see that he's thin and not that handsome. but i like him because of it. i actually call him "chicken legs" because he has thin legs. and i really like making fun of him not in a mean way but in a friendly way because it makes us more familiar with each other. and i just so like it when he gets embarrassed when i tease him. 
i just like everything about him and it hurts when i think that he might already have a girlfriend somewhere. .
so about the topic, my crush looks so fine to me, he has this boyish appeal and i like it. a lot of people also thinks the same but there are those who think otherwise. someone even said to me that he's rather thin and should put up more muscles here and there. and another one told me that my crush's father is handsome and he is not.
well, i can see it too. i mean, he looks fine to me but i can see that he's thin and not that handsome. but i like him because of it. i actually call him "chicken legs" because he has thin legs. and i really like making fun of him not in a mean way but in a friendly way because it makes us more familiar with each other. and i just so like it when he gets embarrassed when i tease him. i just like everything about him and it hurts when i think that he might already have a girlfriend somewhere. .6 people like this
27 responses
@MGjhaud (23240)
• Philippines
17 May 08
Yes, so many. Every each of us has its own type of men or women. I noticed that I have a different type of guy from a friend and when I tell them that I have a crush on somebody, they usually say that he's too old for me or we're not physically compatible or something. I would just laugh. Anyway, it doesn't really matter to me. hehehe..
Anyway, it doesn't really matter to me. hehehe..3 people like this
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
23 May 08
hi mg! it doesn't really matter to me now too whatever people say about him. i like him and i want to continue liking him because it makes me happy. 
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
17 May 08
hehe ^_^ Wat matters is your opinion, not your frenz, as u are the one who's gonna be with him, not them.. hehe.. SO it only matters how u think, if u think he's fine and good, than let it be.. Because that's wat u like about him and he shall remain as wat he is..
Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.. haha.. And u should understand wat i mean here.. LOL =D Yeah, teasing and making fun is part and parcel of courtship while others may see it as flirting(if one of your fren is interested in him too).. hehe..
If u are scared of losing him, then u should make the 1st move.. DUn regret when he has really decided to stay there for good :(
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
24 May 08
yeah. i would really regret it if i wouldn't be able to tell him my feelings and his family decided to stay in the US for good. just thinking about it makes me wanna cry. 
beauty is really in the eye of the beholder. too bad i'm not the only one now who sees his appeal. its making me jealous thinking that there are other girls who like him. 
beauty is really in the eye of the beholder. too bad i'm not the only one now who sees his appeal. its making me jealous thinking that there are other girls who like him. 2 people like this
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
28 May 08
i don't have a clue if i "appeal" to him too kun. that what makes me frustrated. 
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
28 May 08
haha.. There's nothing to be jealous about, secret.. If really, there are others whom like him also, that means he isn't as abd as wat your frenz make him out to be.. He may appeal to other gals, but wat matters most is u appeal to him ^_^ hehe
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
28 May 08
I had, for me he was very attractive and handsome, super cute. My friends confirm that too but they have of course comments about him but my teacher that time, who is very close to me thinks that he is not that attractive and wondering what in the world I have seen in him..LOL
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
9 Jun 08
oh i see. so that explains it! she has different taste in men.
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
31 May 08
was your teacher a guy? maybe he got jealous! and if your teacher was a female, then maybe she also had a crush on your crush.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
1 Jun 08
Mt teacher was a girl and her boyfriend is handsome too..LOL, My crush that time was quite rock..she prefer serious looking!LOL
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@williamjisir (22819)
• China
17 May 08
Hello secretbear. No worry,secret bear.I won't think that you are stupid.Instead,I think that it is very normal for one to have crush on someone before they both fall in love with each other in the end. This is human. So be brave enough to chase the love you are fond of.May I wish you all the best and good luck!
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
23 May 08
hi william! nice of you to say that. i hope what you said about falling in love with each other in the end will come true.
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
27 Jul 08
you're lucky to have that happened to you mycharm. i am on the unlucky side. oh well, better luck next time for me.
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@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
23 Jul 08
Yes dear bear i agree with sir william here c",) Things like that do happen... and it happened to me once.
take care dear
take care dear1 person likes this
@jannijanni (866)
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28 May 08
i'm easily attracted to gruff-looking guys so i always get that disapproving/disgusted look from my friends...
about your crush, hey, don't worry, someone else will hopefully come along...or if you really want to keep in touch with him, agree to write each other emails or exchange im addresses :)
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
28 May 08
that's another thing i am frustrated about. it seems he's not much of a computer nor an internet person. i can't find him on friendster!
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
31 May 08
i can't imagine him writing a letter! ^__^;;1 person likes this
@vianneyanzu (908)
• Philippines
18 May 08
Well, I think the rationale behind this is the "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" saying...
What is good-looking for you may not be that good-looking for others.
I've experienced that a lot of times. Especially with guys that I like at school. Some of my friends agree with me about him being cute and all. While some ask me, "What did you see in him?" So I guess it's all just a matter of preference :)
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
24 May 08
thanks for your response vianne. indeed, beauty is in the eye of the beholder and its just a matter of preferences.
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@metal_monkee (930)
• Philippines
28 May 08
hi vianneyanzu...hi secretbear....
@vianneyanzu i was going to say that! hehe well you posted first...
so i just change to "dont judge a book by its cover but by its content" lolz
@secretbear just what i said maybe those people commenting bad things just judge by outside appearance...you on the other hand saw much deeper inside the real character of that person ryt?!
according an article i have read attractiveness is not just based on outside appearance alone but the character of the person is made of
so your on the ryt track...
GOOD LUCK!!!
@secretbear just what i said maybe those people commenting bad things just judge by outside appearance...you on the other hand saw much deeper inside the real character of that person ryt?!
according an article i have read attractiveness is not just based on outside appearance alone but the character of the person is made of
so your on the ryt track... GOOD LUCK!!!2 people like this
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
28 May 08
thanks metal monkee. i guess i really did see something in him that others didn't see.
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@makaira (1158)
• Philippines
13 Jul 08
YES! always actually... hahaha.. i have a weird taste! im not more of the physical appearance, im more of attitude and intelligence... when i was in college most of crush doenst have good looks but have strong personalities in our school. i rarely have a crush on someone who looks really good.
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
14 Jul 08
hi ate! well, i think guys with strong personalities are really attractive. super turn off if they are weakling right?? like, when you're walking inside a mall, he'd seem like an "alalay" rather than a date and you'll be the one leading the way and you'll decide on everything. gosh. what a sissy.
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@keep_onwatch (2680)
• India
9 Jun 08
Sounds like u really have a huge crush there, but dont worry or take things of others , just continue to see what makes you happy, and if its him, then its him. And it seems like you have a friendly relationship, and you abssolutely love it. I hope he doesnt have a GF, any where and does come back to you...well that thought might still be disturbing that he might stay there if he gets ajob! But lets hope for the best...
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
9 Jul 08
he was so insensitive. i wasn't happy with things went. i never felt for a single moment that he cares for me. and i gave up on him. i'm giving up on him. i maybe still hoping for a chance but i keep on telling myself that he's not the one for me. he doesn't like me back.
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@gmakesmoney (2923)
• United States
28 May 08
That happens to me all the time! I tend to get a crush on someone more based on their personality traits than anything else. So while someone might seem super cute to me, they might not even be attractive to my friends.
@bagumbayan (2705)
• Philippines
26 May 08
Crush is just infatuation. It will go away later on. If you will be the nice couple to be then do something. Maybe youre still young and many more handsome men will come your way. You still have the time to look for someone to love and will love you.
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
28 May 08
i wish this is really just an infatuation! i wish it would go away! soon! because its really very troublesome!
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@travibabiesgirl (1690)
• United States
9 Jul 08
I never care what others think about someone that I like. I just blow off what others say and continue to see the beauty in them that I see. Good luck with your crush and don't let others get you down by their comments.
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
13 Jul 08
that's very independent of you. i try to be not affected with what others are saying and just believe in what i see and what i feel. but with this guy, i sometimes hope that i just listened to what others said about him.
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@bojangles88 (649)
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23 May 08
I think I'm a bit like that. I know that my last boyfriend found me realy attractive, but the mate that introduced us wasn't as convinced. My boyfriend actually told me that the friend has commented on my chest size but had snubbed my facial appearance... Which is not very nice to hear but oh well. I think this must be the case for a lot of peopl to some degree, because everyone has different tastes don't they.
Personally I don't go for looks, but once I like someone I usually find aesthetically pleasing things about them, like eyes etc. that I wouldn't have noticed before.
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
24 May 08
yeah, people have different tastes. me and my friends have different tastes on guys. i actually find their tastes kinda off. and i think the same goes for them regarding with my taste in guys. ^__^;;
and i think the same goes for them regarding with my taste in guys. ^__^;;1 person likes this
@fumi_masaki (107)
• Philippines
28 May 08
i know wat you feel, i have a crush like that too. then my parents and my friend told me he is no good! Actually, i don't believe them, because he treats me nice, but in the end, they are right about him... I discovered that he is actually a player... good thing he didn't became my boyfriend
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
28 May 08
oh that's just so bad. i guess not we are not right all the time about the people we see with our own eyes.
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@shyloo (108)
• Philippines
27 May 08
Yes, oh yes! In fact, most of the times. My friends dont really appreciate my crushes. Maybe because mine are not the usual type of guy and they're very out of my league. Yeah, Im a dreamer and its okay for me if Im the only who knows them and not the other way around. Im already contented in that situation. Just seeing them is enough to make my day complete, I have someone to think before I sleep and things like that. Hehehe...
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
28 May 08
a.. i can't be like you. there's only two options for me, two options that i can only take. its either he tells me he likes me too, or if he doesn't, i would just forget about him and look for other guys.
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
24 May 08
i agree antianara. well, we just have to listen to our own feelings since its our business and not theirs.
well, we just have to listen to our own feelings since its our business and not theirs.2 people like this
@tyc415 (5706)
• United States
17 May 08
I am glad to see that looks are not everything to you, you are looking at him deep inside. More people need to look at people like you do. Before he leaves for the US you need to talk to him and find out if he does have a girlfriend and let him know how you feel. It will give him something to think about while on his vacation. If he does find a job and stays in the US maybe he would send for you one day.
Good luck with him, I hope it all works out like you want it to.
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
23 May 08
i think if he would confirm that he'll be going to the US, i will probably have the guts to confess to him and tell him that i like him. thank you very much for the nice wishes. i hope they will come true too. i'll be the happiest girl then.
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
17 May 08
Don't listen to others when they bring up things about his physic....it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks but you. If you have a crush on him...then just concentrate on that. Some might have just a ting of jealousy for if they are knocking his physical looks....that's pretty shallow! Go for it girl. I hope you get a chance to connect in a special way!
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
23 May 08
thank you so much jill! i hope you have the tongue of angel so what you said will come true that i would connect with him in a special way.
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@drannhh (15219)
• United States
17 May 08
Hmmmm, if this is the same guy you were mooning over a while back, don't tell me it wasn't anything serious. You sound head over heels, grrrrl! Really, who cares what other people think if you like him.
Yes, now that you mentione it, way back in high school there was a boy that I didn't exactly have a crush on, but he was nice to me and a good friend, but the other classmates made fun of his chin. I thought they were terrible for that, because he couldn't change his chin, you know, and it wasn't so bad looking, just a little different. I didn't get romantically interested in him, though, because I would never have been able to stand his mother. One has to consider that sort of thing, you know. When one marries, one marries the whole family.
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
23 May 08
hi drannhh! did i really sound like i'm head over heels? wait til you read my new discussion.
wait til you read my new discussion. 2 people like this
@gemini_rose (16264)
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17 May 08
I think that everyone always looks at another girls fella in a different way from them, I think my hubby is gorgeous, but you might look at him and think ewwww!!
It sounds like you really get on well together and you really like him, is there anything between you or are you just friends, only with you saying he might have a girlfriend it sounds like you do not know if he has or not.
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
23 May 08
i really don't know is he has or if he hasn't. i don't have the guts to directly ask him. i don't know if there's anything between us. i'm actually in the dark. anyway, i think its too early to be hoping for something because we're just starting to get to know each other.
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