Have you ever been frustrated withyour Spouse?

yes i have sat down and talked to her, and it's one of those situations where she is talking, but isn't saying anything. According to her she is afraid of going to hell. i told her that the church she has just going to isn't the only way, i told her that we can go to the church we were already going to. I mean since when is one church or any church for that matter a guaranteed to way to go to heaven. She is 23 yrs old, why is she soo worried and hellbent on going to heaven now? i mean of all things she should be more worried about starting a family with me and more worried about her job and stuff. I don;t know. it just seems like she is basicly being brain washed by this other church and our so called freinds. like i said i am just my wits end.

Have you asked her what makes her do this thing she does? Is there something in her life that she is afraid of? Ask her what you can do to help her not to do this thing around you? Ask her how you can help her to do this less or talk with her about it so you can understand why she does this.

thank you for your reply i really apprecciate it.

yah i agree on that last sentence. as for taking a break, i don;t think i could ever bring myself to do that only because we rarely have disagreements like this. we usually agree with everything! Except on this one small thing.

your welcome but always know that not everything will be perfect. take a break and you know what let her get angry and upset that you want a break..i broke up with my hubby and i was upset cause we were broken up lol if anything if its not what you want to do then get out more and also "someone who doesnt listen doesnt really hear do they?" kara

i am so sorry to hear that.

i am sorry to hear that. i hope you guys can work something out together.

thanx i apprecciate your response.

lol ouch !! thanx for posting !

love hurts sometimes hehe. but its love that gets us thru it all.

thanx

4some ? hmm, is that is what i think that is, How did you pull that off??

LOL ummm, ok ! lol

sorry about dble post my computer acted CrAZy.

thanx for your reply ! and i am feeling you on that last statement ! Ya lo tengo en mano. Its been taken care of, and i was feeling the same thing which is the main reason why i was apposed to it the whole time. thanx again !

Anytime. =0)

Anytime. =0)

thanx for your reply. But i would never ever hit a woman, i am completly against that. =O)

i totally agree ! thank you for your response.

thank you soo much for your reply. The funny thing is we agree on politics, the problem now is religian. ahile ago she told me she wanted to go to shurch, i said ok fine we can go to church and we started attending the church my mm was going to. Now keep in mind that we have some so called "freinds" who we haven;t heard from in months. Now all of a sudden they are hanging out with us and stuff again. And these "freinds" decided to join some church that apparently has no name. they tried to get me to go to it, i said no thank you. then they went behind my back started putting ideas in my wifes head that their newfound religian is the only one that will make her go to heaven and all this noise. Now keep in mind that i have nothing against ppl who go to church and stuff. But listening to these freinds "preach" is like taking BBQ tips from porky pig. and on top of this all something about their new gfound religian really really rubs me the wrong way, so what the fight boils down do is, i asked her not to go and give my reasons but she doesn't realize that the same way our " freinds" personality has completly change for the worst she will eventually. Me personally i could give a @#$@ about them, the only persona i care about is my wife but she doesn;t listen. And to make matters worse, my "freinds " GF has actually sent my wife text messages putting me and the one holding her back from eternal salvation. So what my disagreement with her comes down to is go to where those two A-holes are going instead of going back to where we were going originally. =O(

Lgorge, what religion was your wife brought up into and what are your "friends" trying to pull her into. You can send me a personal message if you don't really want to discuss it further, but what I know is the journey of a person who is genuinely seeking God and the people who try to lead them onto the wrong paths. If your wife was brought up in Christianity and hasn't really firmly planted her feet in any religion, as many in America have become, you may have to break out the Bible, Lgorge. You may have to debate what she knows in her heart and what her "friends" are trying to sell her. You may have to begin to read the Bible with her, to her and for her to show her the strength in your beliefs that your "friends" are showing in theirs. You may have to begin praying with her, because I would bet they are, and you may have to fight for her, spiritually, lovingly. The battle of religion is a large one that cannot be won with just some simple words. That is why the Biblical cities have been fighting for so very long about them. Religion is, for most of us, the very place we lay our hearts, even when we don't realize it. It is our foundation, our belief system, our souls are actually invested in it, even though we don't use it every day, it is what has shown us right from wrong every day of our lives. It's a battle, but not one that cannot be won. "We do this by keeping our eyes on Jesus, on whom our faith depends from start to finish." (heb 12:2) Well, I'll be praying for the two of you.

Thank you soo much ! I need all the blessings i can get. !

thanx so much for you kind words. as of right now we have both tried to come up with a comprimise but the one she wants to do only benefits her. and she says that if she comprimises she will be giving on everything she has been fighting with me about for the past 3 days. Funny thing is that if i do what she suggest as a comprimise it would completely defeat the purpose of what i am suggesting.

thank you very much for your response. i apprecciate it. andi wish you luck with your marriage.

lol i know how you feel on that one ! i feel like i have to try and keep everything in check 99% of the time. and it does seem like when we have an extra penny or two, i turn around and it's gone ! lol

Constantly argue over kids, money (her spending of it !) The more i make, the more she spends !

thank you for your reply.

normaly i don't get this angry. and if iam putting wholes through things it because iam totally beyond words. I am usually very calm and quiet.

thanx for replying.