could you be in a relationship with someone that you knew was ill?
By only1shi
@only1shi (404)
United States
May 17, 2008 12:51am CST
i know that it seems like a strange question, but it's something that i go through every day. my husband has sickle cell anemia and he is only the second person that i have met that has this ailment. we've been together for six years now and most days, i don't even remember that he has it.
but i remember in the early stages of dating, when i would mention to my friends and family that he was sick, they would all ask me if this was something that i really wanted to go through with. if i thought that there could ever be any real future for us? what about kids?
for me, i always saw past his illness and saw him, but its not always that easy for everyone. but, if you knew from the beginning that the person that you were seeing was ill, would you stay in the relationship?
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5 responses
@stevenfalcao (1)
• India
18 May 08
hey i would say hatz off to u ....u may not know me . but let me tell u that what uve done is ....... i have no words for it .... wish u all the best for future ...
regards,steve
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@asawanialvin0611 (1877)
• Philippines
17 May 08
why not? You can never choose what to feel for a person
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@sincere4frdship (2228)
• India
18 May 08
I don't care about health . What is it ?
I like persons by their inner quality and not give too much importance to outlooks or present problems .
Thanks !!!
@souless_tragedy (259)
• Canada
17 May 08
Being the "ill" one in my relationship kind of gives me a different perspective on this. I think that love is love no matter what the conditions of the person are. I would love my Fiance no matter what, and I know he feels the same way about me. I can understand the naysayers that may feel the need to remind you that a healthy person may be a better choice as a life partner in the beginning, but the heart wants what it wants. We don't always have a conscious say in the matter..
@applefreak (3130)
• Singapore
17 May 08
life is always so unpredictable. so are you going to give up The One because of sickness? how then can you be sure to find someone who will remain perfectly healthy till the end of time?
health, like beauty and wealth, cannot be guaranteed to last forever. as it is, it's already not easy to find The One. are we really going to scrutinise our partner for every single flaw to make sure that he / she is perfect? then again, are we perfect to deserve a perfect partner?
to me, the most important part about staying in a relationship is the feelings i have for the person. i can accept almost everything if i truly love him. of course that doesn't include major character flaws like violence.
learn to treasure everyday you have. afterall, we are all living for the moment. do you want to have children with someone you don't really love, just because he is healthy? or do you prefer to give up the privilege of being a mother for your true love?
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