Fault

May 17, 2008 7:30am CST
Do you ever feel like you did something wrong and that is the reason that your child has downs?
1 response
eihdra
@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
17 May 08
I'm sad about your kid but then you have to hold on for him, because without you by his side,the real world is so big for him and he needs you more than ever.. My son has hydrocephalus and spina bifida..without going into much details, we somehow have something in common - we both have special kids.. There are a lot of factors which in some ways affected your pregnancy..It may be age, medicine you drank while pregnant,genes and many more... Try checking the net for reasons why some children are born with down syndrome, that is if you haven't checked yet.. You shouldn't allow your self-pity or your pity to your kid to set in..because if that happens, you can't move on and you won't be a good help to your kid.. There are many ways to cope with this situation..There are support centers specifically for this..You can't do this alone. You need the help of experts..You need to know how to give your kid a chance to live in this world..
ldavis1019
@ldavis1019 (10)
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29 May 08
Thank you, but I know that I am really not the blame for what has happened its just that some days i feel that way especially when things get rough but I never let him know this at all.
eihdra
@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
30 May 08
if you cant help but feel that way, just go to another room and pour it all out.Sometimes, we cant help but cry and it wouldn't help much if you'll keep on thinking if somehow this has got to do with you.Whenever I look at my son at night when he's fast asleep, I sometimes cry too. I definitely know that this was not my fault, but when I see his disability, I'd like to go back in time and correct if possible whatever it is that made him like this. But, I would then smile, saying to myself that I still want him to be my little boy even if things had gone right..Treasure your son and let him feel your love and that no matter what happens you'll always be there for him...I feel for you and now I'm crying too. I hate to see kids suffer and we don't have any idea what else to do..I know you have already uttered the words "if only I can take away his sufferings or that you pray It would all go to you and spare your kid"...You're a good parent because you chose to let him live and not send him away to some institutions..You chose to care for him and that makes you unique too..Have faith in God and ask Him for guidance. You can send me a message if you need a friend to talk...take care..