Ever Have Second Thoughts about your Comments?

I feel awful when this happens to me. As you know, it just happened to me last night. I started a discussion and it got out of hand and I kept getting heated and I kept saying more and more stupid things and it does at times get out of hand and out of control. Also, some people get really nasty and vicous in there attacks and it's very hurtful at times. I have enough on my plate at home and I don't need the stress of getting upset over discussions here on a silly forum. I did feel absolutely 100% awful about the turn my discussion took last night but like you said you can't take it back because there's no delete button and even if you say you're sorry that doesn't mean much because these people don't want to hear it. On thing that my husband said to me last night made sense, he said "people say that you have freedom of choice and opinion here in America but what they're really trying to tell you is you have freedom of opinion and choice as long as it goes along with my opinion and choice." They say to speak freely on MyLot and share your opinions but then when you do you are litterally attacked for them and put down and called horrible ignorant names. It's hurtful and to be honest, it's really not worth the little amount that we make on here. I think that when discussion start to get heated MyLot should do what any boss would do, delete the discussion and give warnings. If the warnings are not met, then these individuals shouldn't be allowed back on the site. The same goes for me if I get out of hand, which anyone who has seen most of my responces and discussions on here, know that I try not to do and usually succeed. Last night was my fault because I should have steered clear of any contriversial discussions and post but I have certainly learned my lesson and I will certainly not be posting or commenting in such discussions again. As for people saying that those who decide to back down from the heated discussion is scared, I think that's a very spiteful, immature mean thing to state when one if trying to detach oneself and avoid further arguments. This happened to me yesterday and really the main reason why I backed out was because I was truly feeling awful about my post and the more I posted the more things that came out of my mouth that I regretted the minute I hit the send button. Plus, these individuals were getting downright cruel and evil and purposely trying to get an argument out of me and make me furious. One of the individuals even stated that she had purposely posted a comment because she knew she would get a reaction out of me and of course I let her. That's why I'm not even bothering to glance into the discussion anymore, since last night it nearly had me in tears and I think that is the reaction that these individuals were trying to get out of me. Some people are just so hateful these days and it's really sad...

I know just what you mean. I've had a few regrets, mainly when I'm tired and on myLot too late at night! It's usually that I could have put something better or been a bit clearer in what I want to say. Once you've submitted it though, you just know it's too late so I suppose there's no point regretting it really. (And if it's a bad error that you've made I suppose you can always submit a response straight away and explain what you really meant to say, or that you didn't mean your post to sound so offensive etc...)

Never.

not anymore I may have once or twice but since I became the target for some unkiind remarks I have been really careful with both the discussions I 'post and the responses that I make so as not to hurt someone's feelings or disrespect someone. I do notlike being hurt or insulted so do try not to do anything hurtful.

Second thoughts are for those who have time. I, am not one of those people. But really, no, i don't think I've ever made a comment that i wish i hadn't. ~Noodlebrain0

Lisa, God gave human beings a conscience for a reason; to guide us in right and wrong actions. There are imprints of right & wrong that comes into this world with us as newborns that God does not even hold us accountable for because they are like building blocks. What our parents teach us, and teachers, and society as a whole bring to us is built on top of them. Even before a person makes a personal decision regarding their spiritual stand in life they have formed a moral code. That code becomes the conscience that says this is wrong and that is right. So when a person makes a blunder that goes against that moral code their inward spirit man knows it. I believe that whether a person has come to a spiritual decision in life as yet or not, they do know when they have gone AGAINST THE MORAL CODE OF SOCIETY OR OF THEMSELF. When that happens there is only one thing to do, when possible, make it RIGHT. Otherwise, it eats at you, but especially if the person has ever accepted Jesus as their personal Savior the scriptures say [paraphrased] "that if you go to the altar and remember there that your brother has ought against you or you have ought against you brother , leave the altar, be reconciled to your brother, then return to the altar and bring your alms." I believe the Lord wants us to make things right with the people around us whenever it is humanly possible, leaving the nonhuman stuff to him. If you humble yourself to re=enter that discussion to say to that person that you are sorry, that you just realized how your reply sounded and you know that what you said had to have hurt their feelings or maybe some reader's feelings; then, I believe you have transformed yourself into a good example of divine love and you are giving the other person an opportunity to be an example of divine forgiveness. We all need to stay practiced up on both, don't we? Anyway, that is my view, and that is what I would do and have done in the past with such mistakes and will continue to do in the future. I will say this also, not one interaction of this kind for me has ever turned out hurtful for anyone, and I believe it brought Glory to God. Love Ya' sweet girl, MAMA VICKIE

of course i felt bad about myself for letting me so emotional and too harsh on fellow members here...but fortunately i dont do that...i make sure not to response to discussion when i felt im not in the mood or think the discussion is provoking me...better be silent that to hurt anyone by words....

I have twice, wished that I could take something back. The first time was when I misread the post intirely and said something clearly wrong. I added a comment to let the OP know that I had misread and I apologized. The second time was when I was feeling totally irrational and said things that were clearly irrational. The next day I commented to my reply and apologized to the poster. He acknowledged that it can happen to anyone and we are cool. As far as discussions and debates, I have had some heated debates with people who completely disagree with me. As long as it doesn't resort to namecalling, we can and will continue until we hit the proverbial wall and have to agree to disagree. That is what makes this site great. You can have an adult debate with adults.

I have not tried doing that since every time I will post, I have to make sure, I can say something about the topic means it is within my interest second, I am in the mood to Mylot, if phycially and emotionally, I am not in the mood to participate, I can tell it by reading and reading and nothing in my head is absorb, moment like that, I tend to rest and relax~

When I first started MyLot I tended to speak first and think later. My temper got the better of me alot too. I also hadn't learned to walk away. Things are better now so I haven't had that happen in a long time. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~

Gosh I am an expert at foot and mouth disease!and in all honesty the only thing that fixes it is to say sorry or to explain what and why you said it,if you ignore it things get worse and if comment on things said about your comment you get nastier and it gets from bad to worse,Sorry sometimes is hard to say but it generally fixes things like this.

Yeah i do feel like that several times , i wish i could just erase or at leasrt delete it, but it just wont happen. In mylot, we know ppl through their discussions. i mean most of the time, we rarely know that person, but we can get to know a little about them trough discussions. But as always no1 knows who exactly we r, so our mistakes would be that of our username mistakes, not us....so i just let it go...

I would love to be able to edit or delete a comment. There have been times when I've thought ive come off in the wrong manner and regreted what ive said.

I wish that mylot had an editing feature it would be so great, because sometimes I make a typo and feel like an idiot for not being able to spell a simple word, so I would like to be able to edit and spell it correctly. I have never regretted anything that I have said and nothing I have said has ever got my into trouble here.

The only time I question anything I've posted is when someone replies and it seems they've taken what I said differently than I intended it. I feel bad about maybe offending someone, but I do tell them I hope they didn't take it the wrong way and that's it. Otherwise, I don't care. Sometimes I mean things to sound the way they do.

I think perhaps they don't let us edit a discussion once it's posted because perhaps they are afraid that we will let other's comments infleunce our opinions and they don't want that. They want everyone's origonal opinion and they don't want us to be able to change it because perhaps we felt bad or we wanted to please someone else. I do understand why they may do it but at the same time it's a real kick in the butt .