Have you ever lost touch with a friend? How did you rescue the friendship?
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
United States
May 17, 2008 9:15pm CST
Sometimes I wish that I lived next door to all my best friends, so that we could talk everyday. Unfortunately, I don't. So, we keep in contact by email, phone, etc. It's not the easiest way to keep a friendship alive. But, you do what you have to.
Most times, those kinds of long distance friendships, sort of sputter and die out on their own. It's noone's fault. People grow apart and find other interests. And, then they just stop talking.
Last year, I lost one of the best friends I've ever had. She was going through some pretty bad personal issues with her health and marriage. And, she had to focus all her strenth and attention on getting well. We sort of drifted apart, even though I did not want that to happen. I think about her almost every day and wonder what she's doing.
That happens with a lot of long distance friendships. And, that's really sad, because the friendship was so meaningful. Have you ever lost touch with a really good friend? What did you do to try to rekindle the friendship?
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@mygirls9901 (338)
• United States
18 May 08
Beautyqueen, Thank you so much for this post. I was in the Army and for 7 months lived with people I will NEVER forget. I have lost touch with a lot of them. They are my family. But I do have myspace and I have kept in contact (at least once a month) with some who I would definitely consider family more than friends. However, the friends that I keep in contact with also keep in contact with the friends that I lost contact with.
However, I don't know what I would do without MySpace. I do still have most of their phone numbers and cannot call many of them because we can't afford the long distance phone charges. I know mine's not all that helpful and I will definitely be checking back in on your post to see what others suggest. I'd really like to know how to rekindle those long lost relationships of friends you'll never forget. As I said, I'll be checking on this post in the future. And again, thanks for the post because it helps me see what others' ideas are for this situation, too. :D
@mygirls9901 (338)
• United States
18 May 08
Beautyqueen, Thanks so much! I will just have to try those free chat rooms. I do use my MySpace Instant Messenger a lot to keep in contact with the ones that I can still talk to so maybe the free chat room would work as well. Thanks again. :D
@bagumbayan (2705)
• Philippines
26 May 08
Yes, I lost touch to 2 of my best friends. They are now living and working abroad and at first we were in touch but now no more. The first one I met a couple years ago, we were the best of friends, then she got married, we lost our communication, then I tried to locate her and again we were friends, we were emailing each one then suddenly the communication stopped for about 2 years. i am trying to contact her but to no avail Maybe she is busy but in due time I hope we will meet and be friends again. The other one is my former co-office mate, she also migrated to another state and later we just lost contact. I hope I can be friends with them again. I will try to renew our friendship.
@hanyixin (67)
• China
18 May 08
try to find out her telephone number... give your hand to her..
i have lost touch with a close friend...i have tried a lot of methods to connect her..but in vain.recently i have heard of everythings about her..i'm so surpriced that i cann't believe that.she really don't want our to connect her.she want to begin her life without the disturbing of old friends who know her in the past.i accpeted it..just wish her..
now i don't force my friend to touch with me.if she need my help ,i will stay her side
@Petercheung (681)
• China
18 May 08
Hi beautyqueen
Yes,this discussion reminds me something,i did lost my closest friends,but I know we have our own way and intersets now,so sometimes we just need a call or email to continue the relationship,sometimes it is really sad.but we have to accept it,If I can not contact him or her,just let it go,I know he/she has his/her own way of life,and I hope he/she has a happy life.peter
@Xdrowninghavocx (3117)
• United States
18 May 08
I do live next door to my best friend and we still don't really talk to each other. We are still really great friends, I guess. But, obviously something is missing or wrong. I don't know to handle most friendships anymore. Times are hard for me. I thought I could count on other when I was younger. I learned quickly that people put you down. I am trying to cherish my current friendship and part of me feels like I'm losing this battle.
