It's not that I don't like you anymore, BUT....................

Dont freak out.. everybody has a bad time .. was your turn.. Luckily all the discussions I have responded to have been commented on by the discussion starter and others as well. I thus respond to your discussion now.. How are you?? Are you sure you have notifications turned on properly for the friends whose discussions and responses you want to know about?? Check that again, To err is human.. bourne

sparkofinsanity its not that I do not want to comment on every response but at times I simply run out of time even though I am on here for hours. I do have to take breaks and find I run out of time before I have run out of the places where i should comment and respond but I do really try,honest I do.I do make an honest effort to get to my discussions as I appreciate all who take time and effort to respond to me. today its so hot here in Southern ca that the sweat is literally dripping off me and its only the middle of may.so I am really slow in getting to all my mylot chores.

I haven't started a lot of post yet, and the ones I have started have had very little response, guess I have a lot to learn yet about what topics to use.I do however respond to many discussions. I have enjoyed my time here at My Lot and reading all the discussions. Some make my blood boil, others are enlightening, others make me stop and think, rethink my views. I just added you to my friends list this afternoon, so I am not up to date on your discussions yet, but look forward to learning more about you. I had actually joined My Lot about a year ago, read a few things, then forgot all about it until they started sending the daily digest, I had no idea what I was missing. So here is hoping we can connect here and enjoy each others discussions.

I have been gone all week in the warmth of South Carolina. I am speaking not only of the weather but of the people as well. Now I am back in the cold atmosphere of New Jersey. I still haven't turned on my notifications for new discussions. When I am here I frequently check the link for "discussions my friends started." I also have a short list of my favorite mylot people that I check on often even if I don't have the alert turned on. I do get a notification most (not all) of the time when I comment and get a response from someone to that comment. I know myself, I would get overwhelmed with all those emails of new discussions. Then I would just end up deleting them all anyway.

Sparky..this is my first notification from you..guess my emails from you will finally come through now! Since I'm a new friend of yours, I hope you will consent to let me see more of yours and not be turned off..that sounded funny but i will leave it in..LOL

heloo .... u r having in a very good judgemment lady.... its the same everywhere.. u find people not responding to you comments even if u do.... but meeh alwayz comments back or responds to whatever i receive.......

I don't know you- but I like this topic. I agree... I was just saying- either my friends are being awful quiet lately- or the e-mail notification isn't working. Usually I only answer discussions through my e-mail. Today I had some time so I ventured on to see what new friends I could make. I'm a great one to have--- only because I never post any new discussions (not this time around) I'll explain--- but I answer a lot of my friends posts. It does irritate me when I respond and respond and they don't comment- I don't expect a comment for each response-- but come on- Never commenting- means you aren't reading it! If I'm putting my time and effort into responding- it's the least you could do right? (Not you personally). I don't have the time to read people's responses to my new discussions-- I am the type that likes to read them- comment and rate them all... so because I don't have the time- I decided to not start new ones anymore. Just give my 2 cents. Good luck finding friends that like to comment to your responses and good luck with the e-mail notification

Whoa You tell 'em Sparky :)))) I understand, shoot I get so back logged in mylot sometimes I am always playing catch up even in my own discussions.... Sooo please please Sparks Do not turn me off... I am so much more fun turned on!

HMMMM! I do understand why you feel the way you do - it used to annoy me too as I always try to answer everyone who responds to me - Partly because I appreciate the time and effort they have taken to do so and partly cos i Love to talk! lol Nowadays it doesn't bother me quite so much if someone doesn't respond - I mean I prefer it if they do, but it doesn't upset me if they don't! I think we all have different perceptions of what we want from this site and some are different from others - not such a big deal as I used to think! Hugs xxxx

NO, don't turn me off! I implore you. LOL. Now you know that I work full time and will get back to you eventually, it just might not be in the timliest manner. I don't get notifications if someone has commented on a comment either. Never have. Am I supposed to? I wish I would, because I barely have enough time to answer to my email notifications let alone run back and forth between discussions. But if you have to turn me off, so be it. Sigh.

It takes me a while to get to all the notifications, but I do try to check for comments and responses to comments! I am slower at responding since the children come first, and I do get tired! I have hd to turn off notifications and may do so for everybody soon! It does not seem to be the best way to respond to new discussions! I can still find out about new discussions through the toolbar or checking my homepage! Keep on posting, it is very educational!

I do the same thing for people who can't respond to comments. You never know what they thought of your answer or opinion and that is the part that makes mylot fun. Generally most of my friends comment back so I don't run into that problem too often.

Sounds like a very fair call Spark. I tend not to start very often. However I must thank you for your thoughtful posts when I have. I much prefer reading and responding to great discussions than starting new ones. I really like the way that you take time to read all your responses. You have gotten me thinking about my own efforts. Don't get me wrong I read everything that people write to me, however there are times when I neglect to continue the discussion. Sometimes I just have trouble thinking of something nice to say! Any you do what you have to, no offence will be taken here! take care and may in every way this be a special day

I am confident that the notification by my name is still on. The thing I enjoy most about mylot is the interaction. I'll be back. Regularly.

i have it on for so many people. but i am surprised often by those people who come back. i know that i left mylot for a while and then came back. i mean it doesn't hurt anyone to keep it on so for me i am going to leave it as it is. if they post then they post if not then oh well. i have great mylotters like you who post all the time to come and reply too

I have done that also. I got to the point where if they can't be bothered replying to my response then I am not going to bother responding to theirs either. I only have a select few that I will respond to no matter what.

I used to reply to every response in every discussion but I've started only replying to those that actually need it. I like starting discussions and generally start a few each day. I also like responding to discussions and most days do a bangload of them. Replying is something that alot of ppl do for no other reason then to say thank you for responding which although is polite is a violation of the rules. If I have something to add or clarify then yeah, I'll reply to them but not just to have something to do...with all the great discussions on here I have more than enough to do. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~

It annoys me too, a lot, spark. I don't get it why people don't understand or care to think that it is a 'discussion' forum and not a question and answer session like yahoo answers or something. Discussion means active involvement of two or more people, a dialogue, not a quiz. When people do it, I like to think that they are only interested in making money and have no respect for the responders. I feel sorry for them, at times, as they miss the opportunity of real conversation and opportunity to know people better by engaging them. They don't perhaps realize that engagement is much more an enriching experience than anything else. To those who don't have respect for the responders, I usually choose not to respond. I do try at times though, every once in a while, in hope that they might have changed but usually get the same disappointment. I also have experiences where a dicussion starter is engaging others but never commented on my response, which is fine with me. I usually take it that they are not interested, and feeling unwelcome, I try not to bother them more. I still respect them for taking time to engage others though. I personally comment on each and every single response that I get in my discussion and I think that it's only respectful to do it. I don't think I have ever failed in this regard, at least not intentionally. I try to comment back and forth as much as I can even though I sometimes feel that I am bothering them and they keep replying just out of courtesy. If/when I feel it, I leave the discussion even though I may have temptation to engage further, LOL!

My notifications are wonky. I have had them turned on for you since I asked you to be my friend and only during the last 2 or 3 weeks have I started getting notifications on discussions you have written. But others like p1ke and nova and bella are always right in my inbox the minute they hit the post discussion button. And i haven't responded to a single discussion that I have not been notified of since March so you can only imagine my confusion. Grr mylot!

As I posted a discussion on how tedious it can be to reply to responses when the initial enthusiasm has waned, I shall presume that I am on your list. Bye bye. I shan't turn you off mine though. I shall enjoy reading them.