Best friends... best lovers?

Too many break ups i heard today. First me. Then my friend Alex and his gf, then Mike. Well, for Mike, his gf was his bestfriend. And well, the girl wanted to do something that Mike didnt agree with, so they broke up. Here's the thing, they were best friends for 6 years and became lovers. Then because in love relationships, there are a point where one becomes jealous because of a situation their lover is in. When you were friends before, maybe you dont get jealous but when you do become lovers, there is a part of you that opens into insecurity. Then that becomes a problem. Actually, lovers to work out is how they both compromise, whether you be best friends before or not, it does not matter what you're previous relationship is, but what matters is how both of you compromise things. If not, bestfriend or not, there is no difference to it. Most of the people i know, were lovers then became best friends as lovers. Not the other way around. The sad thing now is hearing Mike say he not only lost his lover, but also his bestfriend:(

It can be. love starts with more or less friendship. in many cases best friends become good lovers. they already have some common points.

There are relationship that succeed as being best friend and become best lovers. It really depends on how the feeling is between the two friends. There are cases that the girl is not ready for a romantic relationship and considers a friend as a friend only then that won't work as becoming lovers but there are this that develop into romantic relationship that they become lovers. So it really depends on how each one treats each other.

Some best friends will stick to be in their best-friendship. Because they feel insecure about losing one of their best friend should if they broken up. That's a rational reason. But some may take the chance to step into the lover path. It's their decision. Anyway, all has the same chance. Nothing is better, but trying also won't make them lose the worthy value of the friendship, some even successfully brought into their marriage life.

hahahhaa...maybe sometimes itz true,but it all depends on the person involves,

depends if they are willing to scarifice the friendship. also depending on what emotional level they give to each other. for instance, a guy calls her bestfriend like a sister to him so if they become lovers.. that would be weird..and also, if they are meant to be best friends, they wouldnt romantically think of each other, however if at first they are attracted to each other yet remain friends, and became best friends because of constant talk and hanging out, then there is a possibility that the two of them considers each other as lovers, just that they had to put in friendship first. but if they decide to be couple then that's it, that's when they move it to a level where friendship is sacrificed to be lovers. however, if they do break up, it may be very hard since they already established two kinds of relations, lover + best friend.

Maybe yes, maybe no. I guess it depends. On my part, it is true. You see, my husband and I were bestfriends before we became steady, and eventually got married. Since we are bestfriends, we treat each other not only as each other's partner but also the best friend that we could share stories with. We now have 2 children. We still play games like we do when we were just friends. We take care of each other like the best friends that we were. When we have differences, we listen to each other's woes not as husband or wife, but as best friends. Somehow, for now, it works. I just hope it will still work in the years to come.

it depends...coz' sometimes they both know each other very well the relationship becomes boring. there are times again they know each other for so long that they can handle each others bad attitudes.(of course o one is perfect you know!hehehe)