Would you give yourself time to heal before jumping to another relationship?

yeh you should wait.. its unfair to us.. k im a man you know im not a toy.. just tell the one who loves you that you are not ready yet coz you still love your ex.. be strong girl.. don't worry maybe his not for you... You know its hurt when i fall in love to a girl that doesn't love me... but beware of some guys who says he love you but what under their mind is you know.. don't be a victim! be sure! ask him, ask him and ask him... the best way to get a man is a believer! Good Luck!

I would definitely take some time. You need time to heal, and time to think and reflect on what went wrong in the previous relationship. Jumping right into another relationship wouldn't be fair to you or the other person. You could develop the friendship with the person who wants more, but let them know that you aren't wanting anything more right yet. This is just my opinion. Good luck.

It all depends on how you feel.if you have found someone that you feel comfortable with then why not hang out with him/her.but if you are still deeply in love with an ex and being with another isn't what you want, then don't do it. I don't think there is a time limit on these things. and I don't look down on people who are with a new friend right after a break-up.You should do whatever you are comfortable with.

Time to heal after a relationship is very important, but like any bereavement, that is relative. One person can take a month to mend a broken heart and another can take 6 months. It depends on the intensity of attachment between the couple and, most important, the degree of self-love one has. Many people don't love themselves very much and so when someone leaves their life, it is a traumatic time as they feel an acute sense of rejection because of it. There is no one around anymore to love them as substitute for that self-love, so that is a very painful thing which enhances their sense of rejection. But when we love ourselves, mending that broken heart becomes easier because that person was the icing on the cake, not the cake itself, and icing is not compulsory! I think there is no harm in making friends while you are healing, but seeking another relationship when you are not quite ready isn't fair to you or the other person because it won't last. You really wouldn't be able to give that person the attention, the feeling and the affection they deserve because you would probably be still stuck back there in the past relationship, still feeling the pain and still yearning for the old friend. Deep down this new person would only be a stop-gap to you when they might be seeing the relationship as something more solid. So, it is best to give yourself as much time as possible, but there is no hard and fast rules about the length of time. That is entirely down to how you feel. However, the best advice for healing a broke heart is to allow yourself to grieve for a SHORT while then get out of that negativity and into something positive as soon as possible before the bad times take root and make the feelings harder to overcome.

Personally, I would give myself time to heal before even looking for someone else. Your ex left a part of your life empty, and if you are just looking to get with someone new to fill that emptiness, then you are getting with him for the wrong reasons. Take some time for yourself, enjoy being single, and mend your broken heart. Only you know when that has happened, and when you are ready to move on and find someone new.

Hi, mickeycat, I hope you will get through this tough time soon. As for your questions, I think there is no right or wrong in it. It's much depend on your own preferences and how you think of it. Don't live and too care about others opinions. As long as it's not a crime or sin, just do it follow your heart's desire.

Well, I think you should take time for thinking about your demands and your stand for your coming relationship. You have got break up just now , so there should be any problem from your ex or you and you should think about that and do plan for your coming life ... Otherwise you will again choose a break up before starting relation ...Thats all I think ... Don't know about others !! Thanks !!!

I think that your farther ahead to just be friends for awhile and give your heart some time to heal. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~

i know relationships are hard and they unfortunately end ...in some way...u told u lover him and a new relationship is hard to tell for u right now..i have been there and still not willing to give up that she will come back one day but on the other hand i sometimes believe i am just fooling mysself and try to move on knowing how hard it is to forget someone u love and start to some new one...time is always a cure to any pain but it sure takes time...u need to fresh your mind and dont leave any feeling left cus they will not only make u suffer also effect your new relationship just give yourself some time..

Why bother? If a new replacement shows up, it's a good chance or you'll miss it. Besides, if you feel aching from previous relationship, that new one is a good way to heal the wound, right?

I think it is a mistake to jump into a another relationship beofre you had a chance to analyze what happened in the first one, and what you are really looking for. If something was meant to be with the guy who says he loves you he will wait.

hello mickeycat, sorry to hear about the break up i know what it is like and how hard it is to move on specially if it's fairly new. anyway, i am happily married now but way back then LOL i always give myself a time to heal before i entertain the thought of the new one. for me it is not fair to have someone as a form or a rebound or if i know i am just fooling myself in the process. i prefer not to rush to something as special as this one coz i want the word "i love you" to be as meaningful and as sacred as it is when i says it to someone. i also dont like to use someone and hurt someone for selfish reason of "forgetting" the one i truly love. it is not fair and i cannot bear the fact that i am hurting someone the way i am hurt to me that is not right and i always want the feelings to be special. anyway, i hope this passage helps you somehow. "true love cannot be found where it doesnt truly exist nor cannot be hidden where it really does" "if there is someone worthy of your love... he will surely come" good night!

give it time, and make sure you find the right one

its up to u.. but for me, u should give ur self time to heal.. its fgodd for both of u ( u & ur future BF).. if u go for new relationship now, u will be haunted by ur 'ex'.. u'll keep compare them.. then, ur new BF will be so pathetic.. so, make friends first.. soo, u'll realize whicb one u want to keep be with..

i think that waiting for a while is good but i know people who just wont give up their ex even when they were treated horribly or cheated on so its sometimes jus better to try and start a new relationship which can help you to get over the other one but i know it can be hard and just want to wait and i dont think thats so bad either

I guess it would be best to give enough time for yourself to heal. For me there is nothing wrong with dating a new one in that case, you will be punished yourself from staying in your room and all you will remember is you ex. Go out and enjoy life though, you are still in pain, talking and meeting people is very healthy and with that, you just don't know you will gradually move on and forget him and if you are ready, you can start a new one!

well i am sorry about your situation i do know that it is not easy i personally need the time to heal before i start another relationship but i do know that there are other people that a part of their healing process is to start and meet other people, i know that it helps them move on. i guess that each person does know what is the best for him and there are no real written rules about it.

You need time, for one thing, it is possible that you two will get back together. I say that because in the heat of the moment a lot of stuff comes out. After you are apart for a while, one or both of you may have a change of heart. If one of you is moving on the other party may not take the step to say "I am sorry that we broke up and want to try to patch things up". Good luck.

they said, the only way to heal a broken heart is to find someone new to love. but for me, doing that would just like jumping into something you're not sure will work. ive never been into a situation like this because when my relationship with my bfriend was into "topsy-turvy", and was trying to move on without him, things was strengthen up and was back into normal. But if i would be into a "break-up" and was really hurt badly, i would give my time to heal and accept the fact that everything we shared - good and bad - would be remain memories forever. I would probably give myself time to forget the person, and wait until i am sure that im ready to love and commit to another person.

Hi Mickey I think you should give yourself time to heal. Because jumping into another relationship won't be a smart move. I've done that before and at first it seems so nice to be with someone else. But after the couple few months you realized that it was a bad decision. Not that the new guy won't be nice and everything, but you will still be missing the other person and comparing the two of them. And if you really loved your ex, the pain of you two not being together is going to show in your new relationship. The other guy is going to see or senses that you haven't gotten over your ex. And your going to make him feel uncomfortable. And that can cause a strain on the relationship. Take it slow, spend some time with yourself, go out with your girlfriends, Start back enjoying you.