Loans to family or friends

Thanks Salonga, I agree with everything you have said I've prayed about but sometimes I am so angry that I wonder if God even listen to my prayers. I really do not want to go the court way as you said she is my sister and I dont wish to be the one to change the closeness that we enjoy as a family. I hope she will see soon that she is obligated to may me whether I need the money or not, and trust me, I NEED IT! Thanks again for caring.

Holycee, please always remember, do not ever doubt God! He certainly answers prayers but sometimes we need to wait patiently because he answers prayers in different wondrous ways. the Bible says in Psalm 40:1 - "I waited patiently for the Lord and He inclined unto me and heard my cry." Sometimes God's answer is "Wait" to teach us the virtue of patience. Just to give you more idea on how to receive answers to our prayers I wish to quote to you more verses from the Bible. Mark 11:24 says: "Therefore, I tell you whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have receive it and it will be yours." This is where you are lacking because you have doubted if God ever listens to you at all. Of course, I understand your feelings but remember that it is not God who wronged you so you do not pass the blame on Him. Just remember that you need faith because as it is written "Without Faith it is impossible to please God" (Hebrews 11:6) and in James 5:16 the effectual fervent prayer of a righteous availeth much." Ms. Holycee, be free of doubt and always lead a righteous life. I appreciate the fact that you value your family relationship. Keep that feeling, and never give up. Pray even more and pray that the Lord will not only touch the heart of your sister but for the Lord to bless her. Soon you will see how the good blessing will also come to you. That is proven! God has wonderful ways of blessing his children. If your sister will not pay God will be the one to give back to you even a hundred-fold. Just keep the faith and trust. God bless!

Howard96h thanks for responding and for understanding too. You are right I don't want to take her to court because we are a close family and I really do not want to be the one to change things. Still hoping that her conscience will allow her to see that I am in need of the money.For sure I've already vowed never to lend or do anything for her again! She has promised to pay but its the if-and-whenever-I-have-it attitude that irks me. Thanks again.

Thanks much for your advice and rest assured that she will never ever loan her or anyone money again! I am a kind person at heart and always try to help in whatever way possible, I just didnot expect this from this sister whom I've done so much far in the past. I tell you her attitude to this debt stinks, sure won't be riding that stupid train again though! Thanks again.

Thanks mikeysmom for responding, I agree with you that as you said she feel justified to have me wait forever, simply because we are related. Talk about taking a person for granted! She has promised to pay but waiting forever I cannot do and her nasty attitude I cannot take. Certainly have learnt a valuable lesson from this one!Thanks again.

Thanks for your response sisterjinx and your advice.

Keasling thanks for responding. We didnot have a formal contract but everybody in our relatively large family including our mom and dad knows all the details. Living writing off the money is not an option. She promises to pay but its the if-and-when-I-have-it and nasty attitude that makes me mad.

Thanks for ur suggestions, had to chuckle at the suggestion of having her pay my car pymts! could just see my car getting repoed!By the way she has been acting. don't think she would give a damn. Thanks again though.