Did you grow up with.
@sophiasmom911 (1345)
United States
May 19, 2008 3:27pm CST
Your parents married, or were they divorced while you were growing up. My parents divorced when I was six. Then my father decided to sign away all rights that he had to me. This was probally the most traumtic thing that has happened to me in my life. I'm as ok with it as I'm going to be. So how about you Did you come from a broken home and if you did or didnt tell me what it was like if you can!
Please share!
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@Elixiress (3878)
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27 May 08
My parents have never been married, so I was brought up with my parents being partners rather than a married couple. I don't know what sort of home you would call that as it is not a married home or a broken home.
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@sophiasmom911 (1345)
• United States
28 May 08
I would consider it more of a married home even though they werent technically married they did things together and raised you together. That is more and more common now.
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@amyandrob501 (240)
• United States
27 May 08
My parents are still married to this day, they have been married for 33 years. I very rarely seen them fight when I was growing up.
@sophiasmom911 (1345)
• United States
28 May 08
wow! 33 years! its almost unheard of these days!
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@only1shi (404)
• United States
28 May 08
my parents divorced when i was three. they weren't very friendly to each other, but they still insist on being involved in the other's life. my dad even helps to take care of my mom's other children because their father isn't involved. my mom actually gave up her rights to me in the divorce giving my dad full custody.
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@luvstochat (6907)
• United States
26 May 08
I grew up with both of my parents married the whole time my dad was divorced when he met my mom and he had three kids from a previous marriage but they lived with their mom.
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
26 May 08
Well I grew up with my aunts and uncle, when I was very young... My mother was living up until I was seven years old.. We moved to another area and My aunt was staying with us, and my three cousins and sister.. So, that is that.. My home was pretty much broken, because of my aunt. She would try to get us into trouble all the time. She made my grand mother have strict rules on us.. It was so ugly. I was glad to see her get married and move to another city.. We all threw a happy party when she was gone..
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@jannijanni (866)
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21 May 08
i'm sorry about what happened sophiasmom911...but i'm happy to hear that everything's well now for you =)
as for me, i grew up with my parents together but they almost separated when i was younger. their fights were very traumatic, imagine myself waking up in the middle of their fights....i'm just glad they got out of that phase.
@sophiasmom911 (1345)
• United States
21 May 08
I'm sorry you had to witness those fights. Thats one things I wish some parent would learn would not have extreme fights when the children are in the household thanks for sharing dear!
@jannijanni (866)
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22 May 08
amen to that...sometimes parents tend to forget that everything they do infront of their kids has some effect. as for me, those incidents made me a stronger person ^_^
you're most welcome and have a great day ahead of you!
@ambkeb (782)
• United States
20 May 08
My mom and biological father were never married. My mom got pregnant with me when she was 16 and he didnt want anything to do with her or me afterwards. When I was 6 my mom and "dad" (stepfather) got married and he has been my dad ever since. He was there when I was born because my mom and him have been friends since they were little kids. So he has always been around. I didnt know who my real father was until I was 16. I was at an aunts house and my cousin and a friend of his walked in. My aunt looked at me and goes "thats your brother" and from there...lots of terrible stories came out. That was almost 10 years ago...I have still never met my real father, and I have no real urge to meet him.
When I was younger I always envied my friends who had the "perfect" family. But as I got older I realized that it never really matter who your mom and dad were. If they were blood or not...all that mattered was that they loved you and showed it.
@sophiasmom911 (1345)
• United States
21 May 08
I know it used to bother me that I didnt have a perfect family as well. But then I had a baby, and its letting me relive my childhood again, and it makes me feel better.
@webeishere (36313)
• United States
19 May 08
My parents were always married. Now as far as siblings go....I am the only child in the family that has been mat=rried only once and stayed married. My younger brother married twice and divorced twice. My older brother was married 3 times with 2 divorces and he is still married to this day. My sister married once and is divorced. I like the fact I sem to be the only one that can hold a relationship.
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
@sophiasmom911 (1345)
• United States
19 May 08
I'm glad your marriage has lasted grandpa bob that is a wonderful thing to be proud of!
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
19 May 08
I grew up with my parents married. they got divorced when I was 16. It was probably the worst thing that could have happened without being raped. My father was/is horrible, verbally abusive, emotionally abusive, physically abusive, rude, mean, and very much into favouristism. I wish every day that my mother had had the guts to divorce him much sooner. She thought, like most do, that you should "stay for the kids". I call that a load of bull. I firmly believe that no matter what, if there is a problem in the marriage and there is no definitive resolution, divorce is the answer. Children should NOT grow up in that environment. Never.
@sophiasmom911 (1345)
• United States
19 May 08
I'm so very sorry you had to grow up in that enviroment dear, but on the plus side if you or if you've already had kids you will know thats not an enviroment for a child!:)
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
19 May 08
my parents are still happily married. june 9th will be 29 years for them. i'm really proud of them. i've been married 7 years this july and it certainly isn't easy. its a shame how many people get divorced now. i'm sorry that your dad left you.
@Modestah (11179)
• United States
19 May 08
my parents were a lovely couple. my father absolutely cherished my mother and treated her with such kindness and genuine dignity and respect.
My mother thought the world of my father and he amazed her with his integrity and charity - wisdom and capability.
He was such a gentleman and she all the woman he could ever desire.
In all my life I never heard my parents argue. They may have had disagreements but it was never in my presence so I was oblivious to them.
Daddy was remarkable, I miss him so since his passing away late last year.
@sophiasmom911 (1345)
• United States
19 May 08
wow! I think this is how every couple should be! my grandparnets was like this. And my grandfather passed away last year I miss him quite a bit!
@isaiah12 (416)
• United States
20 May 08
I am 48 years old with two grown daughters and two grandchildren. My parents are still together. Growing up I always felt safe and loved. We would always do things as a family, my parents, my two sisters and I. Whether it be going to the local pond and feeding the ducks, going to church then for a ride and out to eat on Sunday, going on vacations, or just sharing a dinner together and going over our days. I still feel as if I can go to my parents and share anything. I have people I can trust and turn to in both the good and the bad times. I feel very blessed that I have the support of my parents.
Yet I divorced my husband when my youngest daughter was one year old. So both my daughters grew up with just me taking care of them. I tried my best to support them, make sure they had all their needs. And to be for them when they needed me. I also had alot of help from my parents. Which was great. My oldest daughter asked my father to walk her down the alsie when she was married.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
20 May 08
Sorry to hear that sophia...
Well, we have a happy family. Although my father got linked to some girls during their marriage life, he never left my mother. Sadly, my mother left him last year... Because of cancer...
@sophiasmom911 (1345)
• United States
20 May 08
wow I'm so very sorry to hear about that situation neil.
@grammasnook (1871)
• United States
20 May 08
Darlin,
The man that signed his rights away was the one that missed out on the blessing. I have two boys that my husband raised and they say everyday that they are so happy thier biological father gave up his rights, if he hadnt they would never had known how to love my husband as much as they do. ( they would have been confused with 2 fathers) I was fortunate my parents stayed together my whole life until my father passed.
Do not hate the man that signed his rights, that just takes to much of your time and energy, live free and adore your sophia. Take care and remember to love is easy to hate well do I really need to say?
Did your mom ever remarry ? Did you ever have a Father daughter relationship with him if so?
@sophiasmom911 (1345)
• United States
20 May 08
hello grammasnook. No my father and I really havent ever had a realationship its been at least 3 years since the last time I spoke to him, but I think its been more like four!My mother never has remarried.
@wisconsin26 (3859)
• United States
19 May 08
I came from a family where my parents were married... I am sure though there has been times were they wanted to separate but never did.. I think the reason being is cause they had 5 kids together and were willing to make the family work as one..
@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
28 May 08
My life started out with parents who were married, but when I turned 11 they got divorced. I never really thought of my home as "broken." Things were pure h3ll when they were together, because all they ever did was fight. I was glad when they split up.
@magrylouyu (1627)
• United States
28 May 08
My parents are teenage sweethearts. The were together back when they were just 16 or 17 then time went on they both made VERY stupid choices and got back together when they were 28 and had me at 36 and here we are today! My parents have an awsome marriage! I'm sorry to hear about your rough childhood. I dont think anybody would be okay with it. My stepson lives with me and my husband. He has it hard as he only see's his mother maybe 2 days every 3 months. Good post.
@kitty_7 (278)
• Netherlands
19 May 08
My parents divorced when I was 12years old. Then I grow up with my father! I like him very much and he love me too. while my mother also keep in touch with me! I know she also love me alot!
i am in a broken family, but the love is not broken, just my parents have problem about their relationship. You can choose everything you want, only except of your parents! they give you life and they feed you up!
I am really happy I have those kind of parents, I love them and they love me too! : )
That is enough, realy enough!
@sophiasmom911 (1345)
• United States
19 May 08
Hello kitty dear! That is very interesting and you are very right! As LONG as the love between the child and parents arent broken your lucky too!
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@raclie (1732)
• Singapore
28 May 08
my parents are not divorced, but he do not hang put much...
so does it count as a broken home?
because even if we are not seprated, we are not close either,
so i feel thats worse...
a constant reminder...