I dont know if she loves me!!!
By kurtavish
@kurtavish (135)
Mauritius
May 20, 2008 8:51am CST
So i asked you all a question the last time and thanks for the answers but now that i have told her that i love her...what the hell...
She did not give me a fixed reply. No YES or NO!!! So how should i know if she loves me??? AM confuz this time. She talks very sweetly with me but did not really answer my question if she loves me.
How can i know? Well for a fact we just became friends 3 days ago and went to a restaurant yesterday. But I noticed her since more than 4 months ago...Do you thinks am in so much hurry?? But I do fo sure know that i love her because i just like evrything abt her...her manners etc.
Come on all you buddies give some advice..
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15 responses
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
22 May 08
I do think you should be patient with her more. If you really love her then allow her to feel that and proved that. I think girls do not give immediate answers to that kind of gestures as they want to make sure that you are sincere and you really loved them so its but natural that they would postpone her response to you. Prove your clean intention for her and for sure you'll get her heart in time. Patience is a virtue.
@kurtavish (135)
• Mauritius
22 May 08
Well since the few days she had told me many stuffs that normally she would not have told everyone...Well you know the stuffs about she had 2 boy friend before and how each of them uses and cheated her...etc.
Well I think maybe she is also being cautios but I do understand her and I'll show her that I do care for her...
WOoo today is the last exam for me...then I'm in holiday...
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@hanirose (307)
• Philippines
21 May 08
You know nobody can really answer that question for you. Some people are even unsure that they are already in love. Some people say they are already in love but still there can be a time when they realize that they have been wrong.
In any case if the girl has not given you an answer yet you should give her time because you will also be the one to suffer if you rush her and she will say the wrong things or give the wrong judgment.
like the song says "you can't hurry love"
@jawaharks (590)
• India
22 May 08
give some more time to her. hope best and much anticipated response from her. all the best.
@Mike_yy (28)
• China
21 May 08
you are so soon to vindacate your love, i think she maybe can't accept the sudden love from yours right now. give more time to her and keep haspitality during this period. she need more time to think about the relationship with you in the futher because she really,after all,know you only 3 days not 3 months that you been. keep humor,romantic and manners there and let her know all of your advantages. that's very important to remain her a perfect impression in upcoming days.goodluck!
@lady11eve (311)
• Philippines
23 May 08
patience my friend...
give her enuf time to think and appreciatte your effort...
but if you think she wants you to wait forever...well move on...
just always remind her about your feelings but dont push her to
answer you right away...give her sumtime...
@vipsupervip (58)
• China
21 May 08
A knotty problem.
I think she may hadn't make sure.
If you love her.You must respect her idea and give time to her.
So,you may no answer because it is a obscure feel about your love.
But,I bless your love will has a perfect result.Come on!
@nanayangel (7879)
• Philippines
21 May 08
Hi there kurtavish!
I think you should wait until she feels that the time is right. Don't based your judgement on how she talks to you or treat you because you might misinterpret it. Some girls are naturally sweet and some are not. Some knows what they want right away and others don't. Everyone's different so just don't expect too much so you won't get disappointed. Be yourself and hope for the best
Good luck.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
21 May 08
Sometimes you meet someone and it seems like from
the first you know he or she is the one. its
so great when both of you know it at the same
time. Give her a little time and she just might
surprise you. I met myhusband and we married just
six weeks after so love at first sight does happen.
@sanzi1201 (644)
• China
21 May 08
She love you too,or she would not go with you.But,I advice you consider more ,and know about each other for a long time,please.Love is not a simple thing.We all couldn't help you,I think.It's depend on yourself,my friend.
@ayessa (1583)
• Philippines
21 May 08
Honestly after reading your post I visit your profile to see how old are you. And I was right, you're still young and it's one of the reason why you're in a hurry of waiting for your friend's answer.
Kurtavish, I don't want to be rude to you but please allow me say some words to you.
First, you should not hurry someone to reply on you specially in that situation you posted. You just met a few days ago. The girl must be surprised or even shocked if not affraid of what you have told her. Imagine for 3 dyas of meeting you've already revealed your feelings to her. If you have to evaluate these 3 days of meeting you will know why she never gave any reply. One reason was because she never knew you that much. Another is, you're just starting the friendship with her but then you want to jump into a more deeper relationship.
Im not that old since Im just 27 but even at my age if someone I just knew for just 3 days, I would be shocked if he told me "I love you". If you wanted her to answer the moment tyou told her your feelings would you willing to accept what answer she'll about to say? Even how negative it is?
Talking sweetly does not mean of any affection to you nor to anybody. Maybe she's just that way. A very sweet young lady.
How would you know if she feels the same? In time you will know that. Even she does not utter any of the words you've been waiting her to tell you. Im sure you'll be able to feel it if she really do love you. Just try to be patient and continue on showing and proving to her you sincere feelings.
@ayrin03 (318)
• Philippines
20 May 08
maybe she was shocked when you tell them that you love her. Give her some time to think what is her feelings to you..don't forced him to reply asap to you..the more you hurry is the more you can get a failure answer that you can get ..sometimes you need to give a little time to think what is the best thing to do ..because where talking about our feelings ..hearts..just wait until she replied..remeber don't force her to answer you quickly..goodluck !!!
@mamuzo (225)
• South Africa
21 May 08
it's obvious she has feelings for you too . . . she probably just needs time to figure out what she's feeling and I'm sure she was a bit shocked or surprised that you love her. Don't worry, she would not be going to dates with you if she didn't love you, just give her some time.
• Indonesia
21 May 08
Yeah i can imagine how you feel right now. The problem is you and her just become friends 3 days and she must be surprised with your expression saying "I Love You". Girls need time to see how much you can do for her and this takes time. She dont even know what kind a guy are you by just 3 days ???
You should still friends with her, getting close step by step showing that you care for her, showing that she can believes you and tell all her problem to you. I think any girls can become your soulmate if you show your appreciation, time and care for her. In time, she might say she loves you first than you do. But for now just be close friends as close as you can be. Good Luck !
@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
20 May 08
Oh dear me, you and the girl became friends only 3 days ago, how can you expect her to say that she loves you.? No offense meant. You fell inlove with her because you have seen and noticed her for 4 months and maybe during those months, you saw something in her that made you feel that way. It's a valid reason for you. But for her, it's kinda pressing, you know. She maybe the type who wants to get to know you first before leaping into oblivion.
As the saying goes, "you can't hurry LOVE"..Dont go around saying you love her every time you're with her, because she might stay away for good and won't see you anymore. Let your friendship flourish first and get to know her more. What she likes and doesn't, her moods swings etc. You will know when finally all your efforts are being rewarded. Try to be patient and wait til she makes the next move..