If someone hurt your feelings would you cry or get mad?
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
United States
May 20, 2008 9:35am CST
Most times when I get my feelings hurt, I get mad. Mostly, I get mad, so that I don't cry. Sometimes when someone's being a bully you have to bully them right back or they won't stop. Tears will just push them forward to say more hurtful things. It's like they see blood and go into some kind of frenzy. You might imagine that being nice and crying would make a bully stop picking on you. But, it doesn't usually work out that way.
Of course, sometimes people say hurtful things by accident and they're not out for blood. They're just having a bad day. So, I try to keep all that in mind. And, I guess it just depends on who is saying the hurtful things. If my child is saying mean things to me, then I know she doesn't have any real concept of what she is doing. She's actually having some kind of pain or maybe she's just tired or hungry. And, I try to help her through her issues to a happier emotional state. If it's a complete stranger that is being mean for no apparent reason, then they have no excuse.
What do you think? If someone is being mean to you, or saying hurtful things, do you cry or get mad at them and push back? How do you handle a bully?
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@poisonivez (504)
• Norway
20 May 08
i would definitely cry if someone hurt my feelings but i dont show it to the person. i would not even show it to him that im hurt. but, if it really really hurt me badly, as if my heart is crushed, i would cry infront of that person. sometimes, i would pity myself because im crying infront of the person who hurt me and then he/she did not do anything to make you feel better.
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
20 May 08
Sometimes I cry in front of my spouse when he is being insensitive to my needs and he suddenly stops and looks bewildered. Honestly, he has no idea he's being insensitive. I don't think most guys do. They just go around in their own little worlds, thinking they're the only one in bad situations. They have no idea the impact their words have on their loved ones. Thanks for dropping by and sharing.
@cooly832 (2)
• United States
16 Dec 08
i cried in front of a bully and they knew i was mad. the next day, they didnt mess with me i guess that they probably got the message that if they were going to mess with me again i was going to beat them up or something. But i'm mad at my self for not sticking up for myself and that my supposed to be friends didnt even help me out. i dont like crying infront of people but i did. What can i do to not think about or bring up the past?
@schilds (410)
• United States
22 May 08
I usually get so mad I am speechless, so I start to cry out of frustration. Then I get so mad that I'm crying when I want to be screaming that I start crying harder. And, yes it does depend on the situation. My 4 year old tells me daily that I'm mean to her and she doesn't like me anymore, which is the worst thing she know how to say. I know though it is usually just nap time, or because she wants a popsicle for breakfast. It has been a long time since I have had anyone be mean to me just for meanness sake. I would hope I would handle it a little better now than I have in the past.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
1 Jul 08
I will usually get mad before I start to cry. It usually depends on my mood as to which way I will react. I know that it's better to push back but that's not always good.
@gloreymay (882)
• Philippines
21 May 08
I do both... and thinking of that situation over and over again until I decided that I'm done with it. There are people who are too tactless that they are not thinking of the people they may hurt.
@jordan04n (463)
• United States
3 Dec 08
Both..cry and get mad...get mad and cry....I am tender hearted and it happens often. So I stay away from foolish people who make me feel this way. I have legs, and wheels on my cay so I just leave...it isn't worth the pain'''not everyone wants to live like me...it is a fact and I am a simple person...
@carlaabt (3504)
• United States
20 May 08
I get mad and dish it right back out. Sometimes certain people can make me so mad that I cry. I rarely cry because I'm hurt over something that someone says, though. Unless it's something being said about my child and then watch out! I get really upset and rally mean then!
@kezabelle (2974)
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20 May 08
I wouldnt cry infront of a bully I would not give them the satisfaction of knowing they had upset me. Getting mad at them wont help matters either, id rather walk away never did me any harm during school etc and as an adult now I dont really encounter any bullies but id do the same I wouldnt let them upset me
@killerpinx (417)
• Philippines
20 May 08
i cry and at the same time get mad. ^________^
i sometimes push them back though if i had the guts. haha!
naahh.. im just not that typical pushBacker. XP
@Kierstal (142)
• United States
21 May 08
First, I consider how well I know the person. If it's a stranger or someone I'm not really familiar with, I don't even pay any attention, because who are they that I should care what they think? They don't know me and theGranted, I can do this a lot easier over the internet than I can in real life, but it's been years - since high school, really - since some stranger tried to bully me. But I'm very insecure when I'm out in real life, especially in crowds.
But if the person that hurts my feelings is close to me, and someone whose opinion I respect, then I'm more likely to cry than anything else; but it takes quite a lot to get that far, since not much actually bothers me enough to get to the point where I'll become upset by it. Certain people who know me well enough know how to push my buttons, but generally I don't get close to people who would exploit that in the first place.
