If girls dont want you, what makes you think I would?

Whenever people say that (I've heard it from females, too) I just think of how dumb and poorly thought out it is. Do they tell females that they are not attracted to, "you better not hit on me or I won't talk to you anymore!!" It's like you said, don't flatter yourself. I just think (men especially) are struggling with SOMETHING inside. Maybe they don't ever want to compromise being seen as "macho" and "manly" by others and they think hanging out with gay people will do that. Maybe they are struggling with their own sexuality...

I guess they feel that a man should not hit on a man. But not realizing that it's done everyday; for both men and women. I too still don't really under stand that fear of gay men and straight men either. I know that when it is a discussion you see the dislike all over their faces.

I think for men it's a 'macho' thing, but it's all stupid. Just like if a girl hit on a guy and he wasn't interested, it should be the same way if a guy hit on a guy or a girl hit on a girl. I've been hit on by girls before and actually even when I've been out w/my fiance. The girls tell him "your girlfriend is hot, your lucky..." or "damn if she wasn't yours I'll try that". Number one, it doesn't tick me of. I think it's flattering, plus we always end up getting free drinks out of the flirtations heehee.

Well, I often find most heterosexual men to be idiots anyways. Really good at putting their foot in their mouth. No offense, just seems to be the norm. And I say this as a heterosexual woman who likes men. Gay guys, however, choose their words more carefully. They don't seem to be as callous. But, yeah, my quick phsych 101 eval for this type of comment would be...... Homophobic, so has homosexual tendencies that he does NOT want to acknowledge.

I know exactly what you mean! It's so frustrating isn't it. I don't understand the people who can't separate these things in their head - just as you pointed out not every straight girl hits on every straight guy or vice versa, so why on earth would it be like that for people who are gay?? I've met some facist people in my time and this is just one way it culminates, along with racism and sexism which are equally as disturbing. Though sexism, which I am most grateful for, is slowly working its way out. Homophobic people are generally those who are unsecure about their own sexuality or are just plain facists. People who believe everyone should be alike, like themselves, and that anything deviating from this norm is 'wrong'. This comment that people use could also be a social thing, securing their status as heterosexual. As in a it's ok I'm open minded, but go no not THAT open minded, keep them away from me... Each way it's all narrowmindedness and it's so very annoying!

I don't know how to respond with anything less than a laugh. This one made me smile. I actually don't understand the homophobic I'll beat them up if they come near me attitude and can't answer your question. Maybe they are afraid they are going to turn gay. LOL Which some have been known to do.

I've bee harassed by a gay guy because he told the school administration that I was stalking him.But take note.I'm the girl and girls like me don't usually stalk.Well,he hit me hard because the panelists believed him because he looked so harmless.I wish I could get back at him anytime soon.

Now that really is funny! Gay people simply don't bother me at all. I don't understand why people are so afraid of a gay person making a pass at them. It's not going to change your sexuality,is it? If a woman made a pass at me, I'd be flattered! I'm happily married, so why on earth would that be threatening? If people tried to understand more, they'd be less afraid. My husband shares my attitude, too. What's the big deal? More tolerance and understanding and a lot less hate and fear are what we need. That way we can ALL share in our Saviour's love. BTW, so glad to hear you are in a good relationship. I'm trying to help one of my daughter's roommates get away from his abusive boyfriend right now. Thanks for sharing and God Bless

My husband has been hit on by men quite a few times. Once on a deployment, in Books A Million... He takes it in stride. His first time in New Orleans he was wandering around by himself. A man walked up to him and started flirting with him. My husband politely told him that he was straight. The guy laughed and pointed; saying that unless he doesn't mind getting approached by gay men he might want to stay on the other side of the street. I guess he wandered into the "gay" half of the street. I have been there many times and it really is cut in half by an invisible line. We go over "the line" all the time. We found one of our all-time favorite Chinese restaurants over in the "gay side" of New Orleans. I told you in another one of your discussions that my husband is military and does MMA. Well, there is an Airmen that wanted to go and train with my husband and his friends. He is obviously not openly gay (military, duh) but really..there is no question. My husband told him, "Yeah, sure come on out." Now the guys that he trains with are like 20 year old kids and have a bit of an ego so he went and told them that they were all going to train with Airman C. and they were going to treat him no different than anyone else. They whined for half a second and then got over themselves. Airman C. came out and he showed heart. He didn't give up. They rolled around and did their "fighting thing". The guys that were apprehensive at first were really impressed. Of course that went around my husband's work the next day. He had people running up to him every 20 minutes asking about it. "Did you really roll with Airman C?!" "Why would you do that?!" Airman C's own supervisors were questioning him about it. It was so stupid, it is like high school there; and has been the same at all the military hospitals he has worked at so far. My husband asked them, "Why do you care so much?" The typical responses were along the lines of "Well, he is so weird!" The other guy that trained (one of the initial apprehensive ones) works in the clinic with my husband too, he also kept getting questioned. Airman C. has thanked my husband in the past out of the blue. When he questioned why he was thanking him, he answered "Because you treat me like a person and you aren't running around talking about me behind my back." It makes me sad what this kid has to deal with. I swear, people need to get over themselves!

As a gay man I would never hit on someone unless I knew that a) they were gay or b) knew that they were interested. However I am in a 4 year relation myself so all you straight hunks out there are safe LOL

It always astounds me when I hear something like that... I should stop having so much faith in humanity and accept that the majority are ignorant, bigoted idiots. At a burger bar I worked in at a fairground (yes, this little animal lover was forced to find work in a burger bar) we had some exchange workers. We sent people to Italy and a company over there sent people to us. I think our lot got the better deal... We had three Italian guys the summer I worked there. Have you ever been to Italy. Not that I usually like to generalise but; suleeeeze! I quote another friend; "All the men there either try to run me over or hit on me... and one guy tried both!" Every young man there wore leather, carried a comb... I swear they all thought they were the Fonz! So, these three guys, though nice enough, were slicked back, tanned, well dressed fellows who honestly thought they were God's gift to the human race. Apparently, that made them gay in the eyes of the male workers... and they were terrified! They wouldn't even turn their backs to the Italians. "What is wrong with you?" I asked my supervisor. "They're gay." "How on Earth do you know that? And so what if they are?" "What if they fancy me?!" "What makes you think they would?" "They're gay!" "Yes...?" "I don't want them looking at me like that." "Do you look at girls like that?" "Well... yeah." "And how do you think they feel?" "It's not the same!" *sigh* A lot of of people have spoken about these people's fear of their own sexuality. I agree with that in a lot of cases. I also think it is a fear of others assuming they are gay (because er... being gay is a bad thing? Er...), just because another gay man was near them. Is it catching or something?! Mind, I've been hit on by some very ugly lesbians in my time and the line "don't knock it till you've tried it" has come my way... *shudder* (seriously ladies, if were attractive you'd have half a chance, if I wasn't already in a relationship). But I don't fear or hate them (try anything once, me). Why should I? Isn't getting hit on a compliment? Well... that was a ramble...

wonders never cease. i hear what you are saying. i guess some people are just paranoid about certain things and they have big mouths to boot. i love the way you expressed yourself here. i got a chuckle out of your description of this guy. very vivid. i can almost picture him....anyway wonder if he ever hooked up with anyone? just kidding.

I read that discussion and it really made me think that whoever posted that discussion has made a mistake of saying that he has nothing against gays! If he has nothing against gays why is he so afraid of gays hitting on him? It's like gays have deseases or something? I have seen this news about a gay boy who was killed by his classmate because he told his classmate that he liked him. That is so sad because in my opinion we are all humans and we have the right to tell what we really feel. so, what's wrong if some gays tell some straight men that hey like them? right? God is not a cruel person. I believe that he treated everyone equally whether you're gay or not. Some poeple just don't have an open mind to understand that we are all equal. They are missing out on the reality that a lot of gay poeple rules or have ruled the world. A lot of gay people have been successful and have shared their success to the world. I hope poeple will understand that gay people are normal. The world was onced believed that it is flat and galileo was excommunicated by the church because of that. So, why did I say that? A lot of people are wrong about their insights about homosexuality. I know they will be proven wrong. Maybe not in this lifetime, but they will be...

i think its the pride... anyways we are all different.. meeennn im out of idea.. i guess im tired.. :)

I think it has something to do with straight guys being macho or something like that. Sounds like the guy you were talking about wasn't wanted by anyone.

"I dont mind gay people as long as they dont hit on me." Most men will say that... When you hit on a straight male... it is regarded as an insult... by the simple fact that you are making the statement that we are looking gay.

I think they are afraid that they are gay and they can;'t handle it.And they are conceited.Why would a straight guy worry about a gay guy hitting on him? They can't say no?A straight guy can break it to a gay guy that he is straight. No, I think they are afraid that they may like be hit on by a gay guy.Isn't that sad?

I think straight men are just afraid of anyone who isnt the way they are. They have to make sure everyone knows they are manly. Its like lesbians, Just because a woman is a lesbian doesnt mean she will hit on a woman who is straight.By the way I'm straight. lol . Had to throw that in

I have friends that are gays and lesbians. I talk to them go to their houses, hang out outside and you know what they are more respectful than any straight person I know. I mean they don't hit on just anyone. where as a straight guy that I know would go up to a table of women and unzip his pants and say anyone want some weiner. How many gay guys go up to a table of men and say that. I swear people are to afriad of what they don't know and if they just sat down and talked to the people that they have problems with/ are afriad of. They would find out that just becuase your gay and they are not doesn't mean your going to run and jump their bones. LOL!!

well,i need to make you understand that most straight guys have a problem of tolerating gay guys and its not about fear of being scared they just have a kind of hatred becaus they are simply not tolerant ,i dont agree that they are afraid,i use to have a problem with gay guys myself some years back but now i just see them as people who also have feelings and also as human like me.maybe with a little difference