age of moving out?
By pudgles
@pudgles (414)
United States
May 21, 2008 8:50am CST
My kids were all graduated and 18 when they moved out,,,but my last child, will be 17 when she graduates...she said she can move out then for she is out of school? is this true?
I don't think she is mature enough to do so, and regardless, i thought you can't move out until you are 18 even if you graduated before then,,
I just don't want to see her go off at an early age knowing she isn't ready even though she thinks she is.
I might be being selfish, for it hurts every time one of my children leave, but she is the last of my 5 and I truely don't think she is ready to be off on her own,,
she started her first job, after 2 weeks they let her go saying she wasnt ready for the work force yet,,,so how is she suppose to support herself? i know she wants to move in with her boyfriends family, but they can't even support themselves for i keep helping them with gas money, food,etc...how can I tell her she can't leave without getting her angry with me?
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4 responses
@skirvsatthird (35)
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27 Jun 08
Im 17 and am planning to move out but in with other roommates and the legal age in michigan is 17. But i also have had the same job since i was 16 and have had to rasies and pay my own bills for my car and insurance and gas and still have extra to buy food myself and clothes and still haver extra so i geuss you should talk with her and make an agreement or something where like she has to have a job for a certian time and be able to pay all the bills associated with moving out
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@pudgles (414)
• United States
25 Nov 08
My daughter tried a job, but has anger issues...she got let go...she attends anger management once a week, and seems to help, but she still has alot bottled up from the past of bad experiences...once she overcomes this, then she might be able to keep a job,,,until then she is staying here. thank you
@Gemmygirl1 (2867)
• Australia
23 May 08
You cant say anything to her without her getting angry.
I didn't finish school - i also moved out before i was 18 & i believe here (in Australia) it's ok to move out around 16 or earlier depending on if there are other circumstances.
I know it's hard to hear BUT you have to let her make these decisions for herself, if she moves out & has a problem then she'll learn from her mistakes - you cant tell her what she's doing is wrong, she has to learn them for herself.
I hope this helps some but if she moves out, things don't work how they should,she will come back if things get too hard.
@pudgles (414)
• United States
30 May 08
I agree, she will get angry either way, but I rather not lose her like that,,
I guess if need be, then I will let her learn like you suggested...I know she will be back,,,,I hear all kids do return home at least once in their lives and even multiplied...but for her sake, I do pray she waits on that even more...
thank you ..
@beutfulmama6701 (1718)
• United States
21 May 08
Well i for one was 17 when i graduated and i couldnt even bare the thought then of moving out of my mothers house. I too have had jobs and they were not for me.. i wasnt mature enough then to keep a job and was still dependent on my mother. I became pregnat when i was 18 and then moved in with my boyfriend and even then with him having a full time job we still depended on my mother . i wasnt mature enough then either.
In my state the law states the without permission she cant move out until she is of legal age. so as long as YOU dont give her permission LEGALLY she cant move out. it all depends on you until she is 18. I would definalty go by her maturity level. Who says she wont be ready when she is 18?? just play it by ear. let her get angry and GNORE it dont let it get to YOU. you are the parent and she is the CHILD YOUR CHILD until she is 18 then if she stillw ants to go let her.. i can GURANTEE if she ISNT ready she WILL be back. good luck
@pudgles (414)
• United States
30 May 08
Thank you..
I am sorry you moved out at a young age, and found out the hard way you werent ready.
I pray she understands why I am sticking to my grounds and won't let her go until the legal age....lately though, the way her grades have been slipping, I wonder if she will graduate before 18 now..
I agree though, I don't think she is of mature mind to...in too much of a hurry to play house,,,,
