Un-insultive comebacks?
By 8ink8blot8
@8ink8blot8 (45)
1 response
@jillbeth (2705)
• United States
21 May 08
Ask the person to repeat what he said. He may say "you heard me" and then you can say, "yeah, but I wanted to see if you had the nerve to say it again".
Or he'll insult you again, and you can say, "that's what I thought you said", and walk away.
Or you can agree with him, "you're right, I am pretty lame" or whatever the insult is.
Any of which will take all the fun out of insulting you.
I've been there, and I know how hard it is not to show that you are offended, but if you learn to not respond in a hurt manner, people will stop bothering you. Returning insult for insult just lowers you to their level. Take the high road and make the other person look like the fool!
@jillbeth (2705)
• United States
21 May 08
Miriam is the one who was rude! I can understand your dilema, though, if you had moved then you'd look like a pushover. Too bad she couldn't have asked you politely to move. Sounds like she's the one with the problem!
I was the unpopular one in school, too, but I think I am better off for it now. Instead of hanging with the popular crowd, and wasting time loitering at the mall or going to parties which could end up in trouble, I spent my time doing things I loved to do and was good at. I read a lot, wrote a lot, enjoyed swimming and bike riding,taught myself to sew and crochet and do other needlework, and found my self-esteem in being an expert in those things, and not in what other people thought of me.
So my advice is to just let insults roll off your back, and feel sorry for those who put you down, because it's there way of feeling better about themselves. And just hang in there, high school doesn't last forever! When I went off to college, and met people who didn't have some preconceived notion of who I was, I found that most people found me a likeable person and made lots of new friends who treated me right!