Am I the only one who thinks it's disrespectful for a man to swear

Although I used to cuss like a sailor, I don't see why people need to do it so much. Words lose their power when they're not used correctly or timed right. In guys' territory, I don't expect anything to change but someone in my house or that's invited me somewhere should treat me with respect and that means having a little class, speaking like a gentleman. I'll act like a lady anyway, but if he doesn't follow my lead I'll cut the visit short or just tell him point blank that he's acting like an ignorant cretin.

It doesn't offend me at all. I don't believe men and women should be forced to act differently... (From your post, I doubt you swear, though.) I don't think it's unreasonable for you to not want a man to swear, mainly because I am not a man so I would never date you. If you asked me not to swear for some reason, though, I would be like dream on! I grew up around swearing, though. I still do not cuss in front of my parents... I just feel uncomfortable with it for some reason, even though they wouldn't care. When it comes to people I date, I would kind of be weirded out if they didn't swear.. okay maybe not, but if they asked me not to I would just let them know it wouldn't work out between us. I don't swear a ton, but it happens.

I don't think it is. I am not offended by foul language, but I use it. I get tickled by the guys at work who will say damn then apologize.

I think it's disrespectful too. I don't know why. I guess it's okay when they are with the guys...though I don't see why they need to do it then either. But I'm not comfortable around someone who is swearing all the time.

Well I can't say anything about swearing but I am sharing something that was taught to me in my 8th grade.[You would find it very strange but this is what happens when habits are taught young. In my class, once my teacher said that we should never use the epithet 'shut up!' because it is considered UNLADYLIKE.I did not us this till I was 45+ and even after that I would have used it may be once or twice[that too in jest].There is something that prevents me from saying this [my teacher is not standing behind me now] and this is why I feel habits die hard. I cannot tolerate vulgar language, and so you are not the only one.I have joined your club now.

I do use vulgarities and swearing as freely as i want whenever i'm with my guy frenz.. But however when i'm out with gals or in front of gals and kids, i will control myself.. I think it's just a kind of respect for them and basic manners to treat them.. As a guy, u wun want a gal to be swearing and cursing in front of us too.. And even if were to meet one, i will still control myself too..

Swearing doesnt bother me..I swear like a drunken sailor in a wh0re house LOL Its actually my husband who is the NON-foulmouthed one and my bf since finding god has been refraining from using foul language as best as possible...Me..Pfft...If I feel the moment or mood calls for a long string of profanity I'm doing it UNLESS I'm around ppl that I need to really mind my mouth with (ei: elderly, small children etc etc)..

I would prefer it if they didn't swear in front of me. It is disrespectful. I especially hate it if I am with my elderly mom. I was in a restaurant once and seated by a young man who had had too much to drink and every other word was the "f" word and very loudly. I never returned to that place.

This is a Fascinating Topic!!!!!!!! I am a Female whom uses bad language , not all of the time Mind you....But I have a short -fuse ( I'm still learning patience ) My professor is Teaching Me that Swearing Shows a Lack of Intelligence. I agree w/ him! I'm not un-intelligent so....why do I swear ? Furthermore.....Why have I swore without even acknowledging that I was swearing in the first place! Wasn't Bad Language Created for emphasis? Today we use Bad Language as if it is completely acceptable! Hey....guess what?............I AM.....................Learning!

hello, i think it comes down to what sort of manners the guy has & how much respect he has for women. i dont think your a prude or being unreasonable, i think you have a good approuch to being in a guy's world. decent men will always reframe from using vulgar language in front of lady's..

No, I totally agree with you. I do think, however, that there are so many women that swear nowadays that men don't think it's direspectful to use vulgar language in front of them.

in my mind,there is no right word that whenther man or woman has the right .

I'm a man and though I would not call you a prude I must say that I also know some women who swear. I believe swearing is offensive, whether you are a man or woman, or whether in the company of men or women, or even when you are alone. Personally I think swearing makes one unpleasant to be with and it will definately put your relationships with others in jeopardy. Okay, so some people say that letting off a few swear words does help in venting pent up frustration but, if you feel the need to swear with every sentence just because things are not going your way (which many men I know tend to do), then that's just not on. Before we let loose with all those swear words, we should first consider the people around us, and I don't just mean the women around us! I'm talking about the other men who are offended by this and the children around us who tend to quickly pick up these bad habits.

Hi anawar, You ask how I think swearing jeopardizes relationships? Here's what I think. Whereas swearing might be considered mainstream in today's society it does jeopardize relationships in a number of ways, more so where those who do not condone it are concerned. Even those who do are affected by it especially when the swearing is misconstrued to be directed at them. It portrays a bad impression of you during those times when things just don't seem to go right (and we all have those days, don't we). You end up looking like someone who looses control of situations rather too easily and this erodes whatever respect people might have had of you. Whenever we use the "F" word or any other such epithet, we need only look at the people around us to see that the look we are getting is not one of admiration. People tend to be uncomfortable with the use of such cuss words and when it becomes habitual they don't want to deal with you and thus try to avoid you when they can. Equally the use of abrasive language (I never heard anyone use pleasant swear words) often turns what might have been engaging discussion or other activity into arguments, fights or contests of wits and this contributes to the decline of civility. Whereas it may be said that people swear mostly when they are angry or frustrated, I still believe there are other, more productive ways to express these emotions which would help us get along in a more pleasant manner with those around us. One might say that I want to live in Utopia but then again I believe there are other options.

I think swearing is alot more tolerated these days then it used to be. My partner has 2 brothers and all 3 boys swear, and I accept that. I dont mind that they do, because I occasionally bust out one or two words, but if they are swearing every 2nd word, I say something. There is no need to sound like a sailor. I feel more accepted if they are comfortable enough to swear in front of me.

I realize some of you may not know me that well yet. I'm the person that deleted two people from my friend list for swearing. I'm a lady and expect to be treated with respect and no swear words around me. My husband and daughter know that swearing around me is not fine. I respect others and don't think its asking to much in return. To my friend list, if you have a problem with this post or any other please delete me from your friend list. This is one of my high standards that I have in my house. I realize some people will say I'm asking to much now.

I also think its rude and disrespectful for a man to swear in the presence of a woman even in todays let anything go culture.I do not think you are a prude or unreasonable as people who are educated should be able to be articulate without resorting to swear words, I am offened by vulgar language.

I find this attitude waning with each generation. Women swear as much as men do, so fewer and fewer of the younger generation males refrain from swearing in front of a woman. My son-in-law told me once that, to him, the f word was just another word. One that you hear every day in almost every conversation you have. But, even though his mother cusses like a sailor, according to him, that word was one that made her very uncomfortable. I think he was letting me know that it might slip sometimes in my presence and wasn't meant as disrespectful. It was just part of his vocabulary. I find this very sad. I think that an intelligent mind could find so much more forceful adjectives to use!

I've been around a lot of guys who will refrain from swearing because I am there. The reason I know is because if they slip up they apologize and tell me that they try not to swear in the presence of a lady. I always thank them and then kindly inform them that they do not need to do this because I probably swear worse than them. lol I think that it is very nice when a man is respectful in this way but for me I make sure they realize that it is not necesary for them to not be themselves. It doesn't offend me. I probably swear worse than most of them or at least within the same league. Although I do refrain from using fowl language when I'm around someone that I know it bothers or if I think it might bother them.

I'm afraid that I find it offensive when anyone swears. I hate to hear men, women or children using profanity. There is no reason to resort to vulgarity to get a point across. I think that most people don't even think about what they are saying anymore.