should i move out?
By teszler
@teszler (4)
United States
May 21, 2008 10:17pm CST
I am 17 years old, and I am about to start my senior year in high school. I currently live with my parents,and my brother, who is now in college.Me and my family don't seem to match. We share different views in ethics and life, I am always in trouble with them, and feel like a total outsider. My question is do you think i should move out? I was hoping for someone who has some experience with what I'm going through or any ideas of what I should do. Personally I want to move, but I'm not sure if I could make it when my parents aren't paying for anything, and I have no car to transport me to school or to work.
4 responses
@grnbne (13)
• United States
22 May 08
I moved out when i was 17. I was HARD!!!! I would recommend that you stay at home , finish school, and save,save, save money. living cost is so high now. Plus, it might hurt your parents feelings. My relationship with my parents was never the same and it still isn't. I am 25 now and i wish i would have stuck around long. i put myself into debt moving out unprepaired. wait till you go to college and the state pays some of you liveing cost. that away its not so hard on you.
@luningning (43)
• Philippines
22 May 08
a healthy sharing of views is what makes life worth living. however, do not always insist that yours is the right one. try also to consider their views. weigh everything. moving out is one way of avoiding the concerns and issues of the family. after all, to whom are you going to turn to in times of trouble, if not to your family?
@rosettaresearch (1285)
• United States
22 May 08
Of course you feel like an outsider with your family. You are 17. That is normal.
No you should not move out. You are only 17. You have NO CLUE what it is like to live on your own. Your parents take care of the bills, make sure food is on the table, etc. You would have to do all this yourself. You are really not ready to handle this. Also, as you pointed out, you have no transport to school or work. So, how would you stay in school -- which you most definitely need to do. As for work, if you can't get to work, you can't pay your bills to live on your own.
There is no reason to move out other than normal teenage growing pains. Stay with your family. Finish your education. Grow up a little more ( which you will also find that your family is not so odd anymore), then move out.
@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
22 May 08
If you do not have the money to support yourself to live on your own do not move out. Everyone goes through times like this and I am sure they will pass. But to move out and have nothing it will be very hard and you will end up having to move back home cause you can't afford it. You are only 17 and do have alot of time to think about things. If you truly want to move out I suggest get a roommate or two to cover all the costs that you will have.
