Have you ever gotten a gift you didn't want?
By tammyr
@tammyr (5946)
Etowah, Tennessee
May 21, 2008 11:25pm CST
What did you do?
My birthday was not to long ago, and my SO got me a watch. It is pink, My favorite color for the time being. I really like the way it looks. It is leather and silver and nice really.
I just prefer a small dainty little watch and this one is like 2 inches across. I was going to wear it while at home some and let him see me wearing it, but when I put it on, I couldn't stand it on my arm. I couldn't wear it for a couple of minutes, let alone all night while he is there!
What should I do. He will notice If I don't wear it.
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10 responses
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
22 May 08
Did he give you a gift receipt with the purchase? I give them all the time when I buy things for others so if they didn't like what I had given them, then they could return it and exchange it for something else.
If you really can't stand it on your wrist then I would talk to him about it and ask if he wouldn't mind if you exchanged it. I am not sure how he would react though as nowadays, my hubby doesn't buy things for me and instead gives me cash to buy whatever I want when it comes to my birthday or mother's day.
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@tammyr (5946)
• Etowah, Tennessee
22 May 08
NO, and I hate to tell him I don't like it, but i REALLY can't stand to wear it.
He is pretty good at getting presents. I do need a watch, and I do love pink. He did good, it is just not my style. I am afraid he would be upset if i said i wanted to exchange it. I did that once when he got me a ring, and he had given me one just like it sometime earlier. LOL
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
22 May 08
Sorry I couldn't be of much help. What would you say to him when he asks you why you are not wearing it?
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@rev1wendy (611)
• United States
22 May 08
Try using it as a decoration. lol Maybe he will think it is a chic wall deco or something?
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
22 May 08
Now that's good idea lol I have a few things my neighbor gave me and I'm not sure what to do with them lol
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@rev1wendy (611)
• United States
22 May 08
I have stapled shirts to the wall, planted flowers in shoes, and used jewelry to decorate picture frames. I hate to hurt anyones feelings, so I get creative with those 'eeww, I love it' kind of gifts. lol
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
22 May 08
Oh no Tammy that is a tough one I have to say
I really don't know what you could do
I mean would he be really upset if you told him maybe he would agree for you to have the Watch put on a Chain
I hope you can sort it somehow
Hugs to you
@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
22 May 08
A PINK watch? Please say it ain't so! I hate pink.
So I will NOT help you with your problem, no way.....!
@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
22 May 08
Geez you're a pushy broad! LOL
Ok, how's this:
TELL HIM THE TRUTH! Tell him you can't wear it and make him take you shopping for another one, after you return that horrible pink monstrosity!
How's that!?
ROFL
But then again, you could just 'accidentally' drop it in the toilet when you were putting in on, in front of him while he's in the bathroom too, doing whatever it is men do in bathrooms.......just a thought - oh and an automatic reflex of flushing the toilet after hearing that,pop,splash, might help too!
ROFL for sure now!!!!!!
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@judy43 (299)
• United States
22 May 08
When I had my first baby ( many years ago) my husband bought me a purse. It was very big and brown ,more like a brief case and ugly. He bought this so I could use as a purse and diaper bag together. Well I never used the bag as it was too big to carry along with baby but I do still have the purse and I use it to store papers and things the kids gave over the years.
@polachicago (18716)
• United States
23 May 08
I would wear it anyway. I know what you say about your preference, but larger watch is very trendy and you may look batter than you think.
It is not what you wear but how you wear it...
Silver and pink would be my favorite watch to wear with jeans and withe shirt, would stand out as my perfect jewelry....
@cjsmom (1423)
• United States
26 May 08
There have been very few times when I've gotten a gift from my husband that I really liked or wanted. I had to pretend that I did like it though so I wouldn't hurt his feelings. I've talked to him about how it would be a good idea if we made out lists of things we would like to have; like for Xmas, etc., but he refuses to do it. He says that it's not really a gift if the person knows what they're getting. I tried to tell him that I'd be surprised and happy to get something I really wanted and would use. So, I just have to deal with it I guess. It's the thought that counts is what I keep trying to convince myself.
@kamran12 (5526)
• Pakistan
22 May 08
Hello Tammy!:-)
That must be a difficult situation for you. I know it is very difficult to tell someone that you didn't like their gift even when you TRULY appreciate their kind, loving and caring gesture. This feeling and thought comes right from your own caring nature. I also know that it can be hurtful to the one who gave the gift even when they know that it's just the object you don't like, while you still appreciate their affection and kindness.
Getting a gift is a source of funny situations for me, but that's a long story. I think, if I were you, I'll take my partner in my arms and would tell her how much I appreciated her 'giving' me of that gift. Then, I would ask if she wouldn't mind if we changed it for something else as I don't feel comfortable with it. Knowing my partner, I am sure that she won't have any problem with it. It may, however, not work for you as different people react differently to same situation. I would like to believe, though, that your partner will understand.
I, personally, give the amount to my partner so that she could buy whatever she wants. But, she ends up asking me, LOL! and insists on me going with her if I am with her, or asks me what to buy, when we are in different areas, as is the case now. I must admit that I am very weak in this area, the ladies shopping area, but she still insists. It gets me confused and I go about suggesting several things, some very stupid. Most of them, of course, are rejected, LOL! So, by the end, whatever she gets, it's by her liking. So, we have never needed to change a gift item.
@edgyk8inmomma (2157)
• United States
27 May 08
Two years ago my fiance gave me a pair of jammies for Christmas. He is usually really good at knowing what I like...but these were a size too big and granny jammies!! I love the color and the material, so I wore them for a few months, then tucked them away with out of season clothes. I pulled them out a couple times, and then finally put them in the last yard sale we had last year.
A watch is probably a bit more expensive and he probably pt more thought into it than jammies, so I guess this comparison doesn't fit. If it was a piece of jewelry I would be honest with him. My man wants to please me, and if he knows he missed it be a little, he will want to make it right. We would go together back to the store and pick one out together.
Now, in my previous relationship, this wasn't so. I hated my engagement ring. I could tell he probably bought it on clearance, it was cheap, weak, and only had flakes. The only reason it was two tone was cuz his sister helped him pick it out. I lied and said I loved it, and regretted it for the next three years. It stuck out like a real diamond should have been in it. So I caught it on just about everything from my shirts to the babies clothes and my hair...OUCH.
Bottom line, I'd be honest with him. Or take the revs suggestions, that's pretty genius:)