Why do they cheat?

I am sorry but, there is no reason anyone should cheat on the person they committed themselves to regardless of what situation they might be in. Once they have made that commitment to each other, then they have to live with it. I mean you usually have been with your partner for sometime before you married, so you have gotten to know them pretty well. That is where communication comes in play. And once you have taken those vows, you have committed yourself to being with each other, not anyone else. If they wanted to act like they were single then they should have stayed single. There is no excuse in the world for them to have cheated. I say your friend needs to kick him to the curb. I am a person who lives by my vows to my husband and he to his. We are not always, the perfect couple but, we work hard to keep our vows sacred. I have seen many marriages, fall apart because of this, even some within my own family. And I made that a part of my reasons not to get married unless I knew my husband could be faithful. If he chose to go astray he would at least confront me with it first, and I do the same for him and we could both move on. But, I also found that, I would not bring myself to sleep around with anyone until I knew a divorce was final. This way you leave the marriage with dignity, and know that you did the right thing.

I think the answer is a simple one. People who cheat don't care about anyone but themselves. They are selfish, always wanting for themselve and not caring about anyone else. It would be great if people could discovere these bad qualities in people before marrying. The Bible has a great definition of love, and you don't have to be Christian to embrace the definition. It says that love is patient and kind. It does not boast, is not proud, is not self-seeking. It is not easily angered. It rejoices in truth. It protects, trusts and hopes. If that's what love is - and I believe it is - then the opposite is what it is not. If a person is always rude and self-seeking, then there is no love. If a person is being hurtful instead of protecting, there is no love.

The wife is very nice, understanding, adorable and kind. Almost if not all of the good qualities of a man is looking for a girl is with her already but still her husband do cheats on her. And what makes his cheating worse is he seems so proud of what he is doing. The husband comes home late at night, drunk and had a kiss mark on his neck! The poor wife confronted her husband about that but the only answer she can get was he was with his boss and can't say no. WHat a h*ck! Is that an excuse? I'm goign to be brutally honest here and say that first off maybe your friend is TOO nice, understanding and kind....MAYBE what she NEEDS to do is start getting hardcore with her husband and say to him somehting like "THIS IS UNACCEPTABLE AND I WON'T PUT UP WITH IT ANYMORE!" and she needs to stand by her words...OBVIOUSLY this is NOT the first time he's done it...yet she is still there putting up wiht it...He knows that and takes advantage of it....Maybe she should seriously reconsider if this is the type of marriage she wants AND does her husband even really love her? (I'd have to say NO he doesnt)

I guess it's just on the mindset of some people, one can always be contented and satisfied. If they only know how to value their spouses, then they won't even dare to think of doing things like that. I'm not really sure though, since I'm not yet married. But I know for a fact that I've never cheated on someone, during the course of our relationship..

i think human mind is so much complex. you never f=get an ideal answer whats going oin there. i beleive some cheat by nature. they just like to do it and boost about is as your friend's huisband. some think they can enjoy both world.

There are different reasons people cheat. Some do it because they don't actually love/like the person they are with and don't have the guts to end it. Others enjoy being in a relationship but aren't committed enough. Others get drunk and can't control themselves. You'll get a different reason from everybody you ask. All I have to say for this is that those people should have some respect for the people they are cheating on. If you are bored or whatever you may be, then just move on. There is no need to stay and make it miserable for everyone else in the end.

I think partners cheat ecause they don't kow what they hae at home. People also cheat becase they wan to have their cake and eat it too, but that falls under he aegoy of not appreciating what they have at home. I would not even dream of cheating on my husband. I love him too much to ever cheat on him, and he loves me tat much too. We ae in a long distance relationship because of his work, and are apart for months at a time. When we are together (he's coming to Canada TOMORROW!!!) we appreciate the heck out of eachother!

I would say maybe its because they already have power over her and he wants to test to what extent can he take it with her. I guess men are like that when given with so much pampering from their wives they tend to become lax over her over time. So I guess the wife should do a little exertion of her rights over the husband. Doing the martyr acts would just make things worse for his husband would abused his authority over her.

people who cheat are the people who never know what satisfaction means..i know some people who cheats on their partners..one said its because the just don't wanna be what he wants..the girl is just too caught up with other things and she tends to unknowingly neglect the other..one said the partner just nagging him so much to the point that she wants more than what he could give and so he tends to divert his devatation to others..some said they just feel like their nothing of a good thing because they cant give them what they want and they cant just appreciate them for what they are and nothing they do just cant make them happy no matter how much they try

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most of the time, people cheat because they are overcompensating for their insecurities. there are some like that and some having cheating as their nature. i feel sorry for what had happened to your close friend. i've been a victim of a cheater to and am in the process of healing. just tell your friend that she doesn't deserve to be treated that way =) there're lots of people willing to help her... take care!

I don't know if i can give you the reasons but i can give you an explanation... a lack of communication (perhaps in general, perhaps in bed). Let's say in bed for example that you tell your partner everything you would like him to do to you (we are not talking about the weirdest fantasies of course), would not that make for a great bed experience ? So if you have a great bed experience why would you look for another one i say...

People who cheat have a psychological problem ,they shold be recommended to a psy .. seriously

am i think that the possible reason why some people cheat on their partners is that their partners dont fill in their needs to the extent of satisfying them... they became insecure... so they will find another person to fill in their needs and wants....

I have no idea, something about the grass being greener and the girl looks so good with her figure. Of course the wife is raising the children and doing the cooking and has put on a few pounds. I think the cheater is immature and he wants to have a sense of adventure. He wants to live dangerously and he has too high expectations of his wife. He wants her to look the same before marriage and the children, to never have gray hair, not have worry lines, a flatter tummy and look like a movie star. So he has the expectations of a teenage boy. That is all I think of cheaters. To me once you get married, it should be forever and that even though the wife and the husband changes, to each other he is the handsomest man and she is the most beautiful woman in the world.

I have no experience about this issue but I will just make an assumption, some partner don't have much time for their lover, daily routine, deadline from work and etc. with that, they fail to do their marital obligations and when their partner will feel that someone else is supplying that emptiness, then, cheating will start to come up! Time is very important in any relationship. But, there are partners also who are just two timers by nature!

Hi ayessa, That's a difficult question to answer, and probably varies from person to person. We are not all alike and some people have better self control than others. There should be no need to cheat if both partners are happy with the other. Blessings.

ok here is my two cents worth. A marriage and partner is never satisfied alone by those things. There might be something else that is missing that you or her are not aware of. Do I think his behavior is correct and proper NO. When people get married they should look at the whole package and be in love and have respect for eachother. It seems that her husband has no respect or care for her feelings. Thus he might not truly love her. So unfortunately I don't see the marriage lasting. Also antoher thing is there are three sides to every story Hers , His and what really happened .. Noone says everything to their friends some details are always left out. What might look to you as she is the type of wife that any guy would want might not be the case behind closed doors when there is noone around. Now I think that if he was cheating and caught and continues to do so she should lay the ground rules. One do you want this marriage if not I can file the divorce papers and then you can have your flings. She needs to take control and not be the victim here. I'm sorry if this is a bit brutal but life isn't flower and bunnies and happiness all the time Life is a mixture of love, happiness , joy, pain , sorrow and hurt .. Life is hard and you have to be ready to roll with it and defend yourself in someway.

It is not always that a partner is not getting "satisfied" physicially. Sometimes the marital relationship is not providing the emotional satisfaction that a partner needs. There are those like the guy that you're talking about that are just low-life "womanizers" - there's not really anything wrong at home, they're just scum!

I have been going through the same thing. I hate cheaters and its not right no matter who you are. I really dont see any reason in cheating.