how would you help your friend to make things right?
By ericajoyce
@ericajoyce (1746)
Philippines
May 22, 2008 10:13am CST
I have this guy friend fo mine. He recenty told me that when his friends say mean things to him and he gets fed up he fights back. He really isn't the type of person who fights but, he only does fight when he is fed up. I told him that eventhough those people make him mad, he should just walk away and not get into a fight to make it worse. Im I right?
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5 responses
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
22 May 08
Hello ericajoyce, for me there are instances that we can just ignore it but there are also times that we need to defend ourselves. We can't just always allow people to hurt our feelings nor insult us or else they will always do that, but, if you will set a limit and you will always let them hear your side, it will help the relationship better! We have to have two-way communication and walking away isn't always the solution. Cheers!
@ericajoyce (1746)
• Philippines
22 May 08
Hello checapricorn. I know that we have to defend ourselves when people try to say mean things to us. Just as long as we talk to the that person and tell him that we dont appreciate what he is doing. Maybe that will work. But what if they dont meet each others point of view. What will be the best solution? thanks for responding.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
22 May 08
If by trying and trying still the other party will not get what you want him to understand, then better stop the topic and change the topic!LOL!
@Diferay (50)
• China
22 May 08
I think,you are completely right!
But everyone has their own opinion and way of action,it is not so easy to change a person's habits,so you will spend some time on chatting with him.
Maybe,you can advise him to read some books about psychology,and the most important thing for him is how to control mood himself,isn't it?
@ericajoyce (1746)
• Philippines
23 May 08
Hello diferay. Your're abosolutely right. I can't change his opinions but I can sure can find a way to help him by reading books that could him. Thanks for responding.
@magikrose (5429)
• United States
22 May 08
Hmmm, here is my thinking. You are right that he needs to walk away but the thing is if he is hanging arround this frind that frustrates him so on a daily basis then he needs to consider if that friendship is valuable to him or is it one that he needs to release himself from.
The thing is only your friend can decide that.
@ericajoyce (1746)
• Philippines
22 May 08
Hello magikrose. Thanks for responding. You're right. He can only decide if his friends are worth keeping. I really feel bad for him because when he gets really mad he asks for a challenge and probably punches him. I want to help him because he is my friend and of course I dont want him to get hurt. But he has his own decision.
@Jemina (5770)
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23 May 08
I think it's only your friend who can help himself to make things right. But of course you advise will also matter. I have similar attitude with you friend. When I get fed up I just blow my top.
It takes a lot of patience and practice.
I read somewhere that if you are getting angry deep breathe 10 times or drink water and your anger will subside.
@oyenkai (4394)
• Philippines
1 Apr 09
What kind of fight does he get into? If it's physical, then he really should just walk away. But I'm a girl and I don't really know how that affects a man's ego - maybe fighting would actually resolve their problem? However, if it's not physical and if it damages his dignity or is against his principles, then I think he should fight back. Nothing good will ever happen in our world if we keep on walking away.
Thanks for the response on my discussion!
