About Yourself, an Honest Opinion
@sumofalltears (3988)
United States
May 22, 2008 9:53pm CST
I have been on mylot for a while, and there have been many heated debates about lots of different things. So do you avoid these discussions or do you jump in with your true and honest opinion regardless of how others respond? Do you temper your answer so as not to be in disagreement with your friend if it is a friend's discussion? If it is your discussion do you answer everyone regardless of their opinions? Are you capable of disagreeing with someone friends included without becoming biased toward them? Honestly how tolerant are you?
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@lovenluck (1068)
• India
23 May 08
I have been mylotting For quite some time now and honestly I just see the discussion and If it's worth a view i through my honest opinion ,it really doesn't matter whether it's my friends discussions or someone else's. i try to be as genuine as possible and if i feel that it is hurting the emotion of someone i just apologize but I continue with the discussion honestly .
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@sumofalltears (3988)
• United States
24 May 08
Quite a valid viewpoint and I agree. Different opinions are what discussion sites are all about.
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@greenline (14838)
• Canada
23 May 08
I participate in the topics I am interested in or the topics I have knowledge about. But, I am certainly very interested and value the discussions proceeding among all mylot members !
I support all the discussions.
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@sumofalltears (3988)
• United States
24 May 08
Thank you greenline...participation is the name of the game here.
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
24 May 08
I always give a true and honest opinion regardless of how others may react. IMO if someone does not want the truth then they should not ask. I am extremely tolernat on myLot and in real life. If everyone had more tolerance the world would be a much better place.
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
24 May 08
That is really funny if you don't know if you are telling the truth then who does????
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@sumofalltears (3988)
• United States
24 May 08
Very true, if you don't think you will like the answer don't ask the question, but by the same token I am not so convinced that my opinions are always the truth.
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@sumofalltears (3988)
• United States
25 May 08
An opinion is not necessarily about truth, it is only a factual statement of how one feels about something. I know I am telling the truth, but it is only truth as I see it. Others may see things differently so my truth is not their truth.
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@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
23 May 08
i give my honest opinion in a certain discussion. some discussion about abortion and religion ( i think this two discussion is really firery discussion) people really get a lot of mis understanding. i respect everybodies opinion for we have right to our own opinion, but i always say that to each his own. not because you believe in something that means what i believe is wrong. i can tolerate almost everything or anything as long as people wont call me names or tell me that i am stupid. i think that would really be foul
@sumofalltears (3988)
• United States
24 May 08
Good point name calling is never a good sign, and when the discussion descends to that level it is time to bail out.
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@spalladino (17891)
• United States
23 May 08
I'm pretty new here so I don't have to worry about taking sides in a discussion and I probably wouldn't keep my opinions to myself even if they went against a friend's views. Opinions are personal and we don't have to all have the same ones. I have been participating on discussion boards for many years tho and do know how to have a difference of opinion with someone who is not a troll without resorting to nastiness. I believe that any discussion brings important views to light, some that I may not have considered so I learn in the process.
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@sumofalltears (3988)
• United States
24 May 08
Excellent insight and I totally agree with you, trolls are always aching to fight so I just leave them under the bridge where they belong.
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@kaezy_kulet (2465)
• Philippines
23 May 08
honestly i hate being in a debate not because i cant defend my opinion i just hate starting an argument which is not worth all the trouble. i just believe that everybody here in mylot is entitled to its own opinion so why contradict a members opinion if you do not have the same opinion as the other one. i had this experience lately i just said that this is the end of the discussion and i will not persuade them to believe what my point is. i would just rather give up on repeating my opinion than start a heated discussion. I think knowing how to give up is much better than to be involved in an argument.
@sumofalltears (3988)
• United States
24 May 08
Another good point, play your opinions like a poker hand, know when to hold them, know when to fold them, know when to walk away and know when to run as the song says.
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@Jemina (5770)
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23 May 08
Honestly, this is very difficult to answer. Although I tend to avoid arguments most of the time as I'm not good at it.
If it's in my discussion that someone disagree, I try to be calm and leave no comment as much as possible.
There are things that I will fight for my opinion if I am speaking from my experienece.
Regardless, I respect everyone's opinion.
@sumofalltears (3988)
• United States
24 May 08
Respect for others is a good thing shows tolerance in a good way.
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@katalina_shadow (160)
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23 May 08
if i like a discussion... (like this one :P) i normally tend to just be honest about things. i don't mind if people disagree with me cause thats what makes a proper discussion (at least thats i what i think), i think i'm pretty tolerant unless we're disscussion something stupid like "is smoking bad for you?" cause everyone knows the answer to that is yes... that was the disscussion me and someone else were haviing. it was just annoying... he was in denial that smoking is bad... is was just pretty much a pointless discussion cause whatever i did i couldn't get through to him.
@sumofalltears (3988)
• United States
24 May 08
Sounds like you just have to let him live with his problems. Everyone has an opinion and you can't possibly be in agreement with everyone, you can please some of the people some of the time but not all of them.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
23 May 08
Well I am going to be completely honest in saying that I try to temper my discussions if at all possible. This includes disregarding them altogether. I am here to have fun and write, I do not feel that I should compromise my feelings towards anyone nor should I make it where I am compromised as well.
I do try to respond to all the people to whom respond to me, but I do not if I feel I may become a bit heated in my responses to this person.
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@sumofalltears (3988)
• United States
24 May 08
well done, that shows a respectful tolerance, I too avoid ones that are just looking to provoke.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
24 May 08
It is so much easier to do that then to respond to those only looking to provoke you.
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@cross10 (506)
• Indonesia
23 May 08
I make all my discussion according what is onn my mind, so i almost do the things here honestly, and without making any other thing that not on my mind, and also if i'm not agree with someone opinion, then i will say not agree, but then politely and try to tell as soft as i can
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@sumofalltears (3988)
• United States
24 May 08
Very good way to go about things, shows tolerance.
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@sherlock27 (913)
• United States
23 May 08
I'm a very honest person, so honest that I have hurt peoples feelings, not meaning to do so. Sometimes the more opinions people get may help them to sort out the bugs so they can make a decision, you know, the pros and cons.
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@sumofalltears (3988)
• United States
24 May 08
Absolutely, there are pros and cons to all issues and people should be open to them. The more input you have the chances for a good decision is that much better.
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@lieanat (1137)
• Malaysia
23 May 08
Hi, I'll try my best to reply responses posted on my discussion as long as I got the time. But I tends to overlook it sometimes. So, if I reply the response late, it only means that I overlook it and busy.
Well, if the comments is negative and fake, sure I'll rate that comment negative. So, I join this site is really share out my thoughts and make friends. Whilst earn some money here. So, I'll try my best to behave properly here. Not just simply respond to every discussion even though I might not have the right answer for it.
@sumofalltears (3988)
• United States
24 May 08
Being honest in your replies and tolerant of others responses is a good way to go.
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@celestial052506 (2914)
• Philippines
26 May 08
I really don't like to dwell in arguments because I don't want to be hurt and I don't want to hurt them too. I just select the discussion I am interested to reply with. If there are people who argue with me in my psotings, I will just tell them that, everybody is intitled of their own opinion.
I am here in my lot to learn from others and to share what I know too, but I difinitely shun from arguments. I don't want to ruin my day and I don't allow others to do it either.\
So the best thing I do is stay away from them.
@sumofalltears (3988)
• United States
27 May 08
The sharing of opinions is what this community is supposed to be about, argueing is not sharing and so I don't contribute to someone that wants to argue.
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@nupats (3564)
• India
27 May 08
i have my strong opinions...i may be the oddest one out but if i think i m right i will stick to it..i dont get pressurised at all..i m not biased...some people may feel i m terribly rude but i m sorry i dont have the art of gift wrapping and telling...but i m true to my friends ...will always stick around...u can count on me..
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@sumofalltears (3988)
• United States
28 May 08
Loyalty is a good thing too. Opinions right or wrong are still your own for the keeping and if you believe then no one should be rude enough to try and dissuade you. Listening to others opinions without bias is being tolerant, I would never discount someone else's opinion just because I didn't agree with it.
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
30 May 08
I'm not very assertive and can be very intolerant so I stay away. I'm not good at expressing myself when I'm annoyed or disgusted and so I stay away. But I gotta say, there are a couple of people here that blow me away and I would love to tell them what I think of them but I just can't. I also can''t believe how many friends agree with them in every way. Sheesh!
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@sumofalltears (3988)
• United States
30 May 08
I can understand your response very well...I can think of some that really need to get a life as they say.
As for all the fools being on the same side I really couldn't agree more, that is so on target.
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@sxrxnrr45601 (1171)
• United States
30 May 08
I know how you feel on this one and I have a few words to share with you I found kind of funny lol so here goes " Sometimes the majority only means that all the fools are on the same side" lol lol lol
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@BarBaraPrz (47279)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
23 May 08
I'm fairly tolerant but I tend to stay away from the heated discussions, mainly because I don't like really long discussions, and the heated ones tend to go on and on...
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@sumofalltears (3988)
• United States
24 May 08
So very true, there is always someone that doesn't know how to let go of the bone.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
30 May 08
Most heated discussions I avoid like the plague, no matter who starts them, even a good friend, but I've been known to start fairly heated ones myself...LOL. I really try to respond to discussions in a diplomatic fashion without being nasty or flaming...but might surprise me will be an "Innocent" discussion and out of the woodwork someone gets on my case..sheesh.. Once I responded to a friend's discussion about interracial marriages...I pointed out that there was a bit of interracial blends in my own background as an ancestor of mine, an "anglo" married a Native American and this was in the southern states (Virginia)...it was actually against the law for a white person to marry a person of "color" in most southern states up until 1968--I made the comment that my ancestors must have had a rough time of it, as for so many years people would still view Native Americans as savage heathens...well yikes...next thing you know this yoho attacks me...saying I should be ashamed of myself, that she was Native American, and an honors student and proud to be a Native American, and called me a bigot for saying savage heathens...like Huh? Well she might have been an honors student but I think she forgot one thing...how to read...I mean didn't she read the part that I'm of Native American blood???
My tolerance level is FAIRLY high...but was ticked off one time (to put it mildly) when I voiced my opinion about that other website, Yuwie...well since I dared to say anything negative about it, I was jumped on by one person, and he outwardly called me lazy, stupid, and a failure...well I diplomatically replied back to him, but he wouldn't let up...my friends came to the rescue here and defended me, but he even attacked them...fortunately he's no longer here...aww..what a shame
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@sumofalltears (3988)
• United States
31 May 08
I am usually civil to a fault, I respond to a discussion with my own opinion and sometimes people find it unworthy, which is just fine by me because my opinions aren't meant to please everyone. Some people are downright rude in their disagreement, as is their right, and I just leave them to their opinions. As they say opinions are like a$$holes everyone has one and I was taught to respect that. I did have one instance where I was attacked outright by friends of the discussion's owner because I failed to agree with him, I have not responded to that person anymore. As long as I am not forcing my opinions on anyone I feel my right to express them is a given. Fortunately I am able to read and understand that which I read, so I understand that our constitution gives me the right to free expression.
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@frontier2002 (630)
• Malaysia
23 May 08
I have little tolerant when it comes to debating or disagreeing about something. However over time i will change accordingly because tolerant open up your minds and accept other people opinion can bring you knowledge as well. If you disagree for everything and think that everyone is wrong only you are right because you have the proof and facts who knows you might be wrong. There are other things which you never thought of about the particular things where others have done so.
Therefore i think it would be good to be tolerant in many things.
@sumofalltears (3988)
• United States
24 May 08
Opening your mind to others opinions may just provide food for thought for you and that is not all bad.
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@sumofalltears (3988)
• United States
24 May 08
Be true unto yourself for the most part because trying to pander to other people just leads to trouble.
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@Libra67 (11)
• United States
8 Jun 08
I feel that if you have something of value to add, be honest and open. You can disagree with someone without being rude about it. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. If I have a strong opinion different from a friend, if I am asked I will reply honestly and hope that the friend understands that everone has thier own opinion and friends don't have to agree on everything.
@sumofalltears (3988)
• United States
8 Jun 08
well...said a true friend is able to handle agreement as well as disagreement.
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