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All I can say is that I really and truly feel that whatever your gut feeling is telling you more than likely that's what you need to listen to. I honestly don't think that it would be a good idea to accuse some one no matter what the circumstances are because only god knows what may really be going on. Just be careful and whatever you do don't snoop around lookn 4 the info cuz that's the worst thing that u could possibly do. I feel that if its meant for you to find out that whatever is done in the dark will come to the light eventually.

You've made your decision too early. A cheating needs proofs, we wet-caught it or at least we have the photo shots. I wouldn't let my curiosity takes control over me before I found the fact out by myself.

You need to know the signs of cheating, before you could apply it on your partner. You know when someone start behaving abnormally, different to that one normally do, it means something is wrong somewhere. You need to watch the other fellow's activities very closely. To my mind, it is not easy to cover up a lie, if your partner cheats you, he/she would tell you plain lies and for telling a simple lie, he/she will have to speak hundred lies. So probe and prode him/her, if you have any doubt, but before probing, gather all your evidences.

Talking about cheating, I can't say that I know what to look for but I have to confess my own part in it. I was actually the 'other guy' at one time. I actually took home a married women and had my way with her and we carried on the relationship for some time. We went different places and spent time together but I knew it wasn't going to last: it was just a piece. A nice hot girl in a tight skirt looking for some fun. What should one look for: time spent in other purposes, money spent, and a rapid change in attitude. I was once there and I hope people think twice about involving themselves in such a thing.

For me it was a gut stabbing...which was always right on target. Wish I could help you more. Marsha

There is no set rules or guidlines. I find most people will tell you to snoop around. But if he is acting funny, first ask. Don't come right out and say "are you cheating" But ask what is going on. Tell him that he is different and ask if something happened. Tell him to be honest. If he backs off and says nothing or gets upset, something serious may be going on. The worse thing to do is to be caught up going through stuff and nothing be going on. You could actually harm the relationship or just end it. He could just be having tough time with something. Don't be afraid to ask the questions. It is the answers you need to worry about. But what is worse? Not knowing and going on and both of you being unhappy. Or knowing and having a chance to be happy else where.