away from home
By baleleng2008
@baleleng2008 (917)
United States
May 24, 2008 8:30pm CST
When I decided to came over here in the states (me and my son),living our family and friends back home is one of the hard decision I made ,but I did it anyway.I did it bcoz I want to settle down,get married and build a simple /happy family.
The harder part being away from home is when you found out that the man you married whom you think give you a moral support is the one who put you down and didn't treat you as a wife , instead he treat you like a slavery and it's too late when you found out that he just using you for his own needs and the other worst part was he did not fix our papers so then we stuck with him!
...but I have to face the reality that I married a wrong man.I didn't give up right bcoz we have one daughter during our marriage and also I wanted to keep our marriage intact as long as I can take it.I just cried in the four corner of the house and bite my lips everytime he hurt me and call my names infront my kids.
3 yrs past our realtionship getting worst and it comes in the point that I got tired of it so we end up into divorce.
So far me and my son we have legal papers already with the help of my friend and now I can say I am more happy now living a simple life with my kids.Me and my ex we are still in the process of divorce and fighting the custody of my daughter with him.
The hardest thing is that my kids are the one affected in the whole situation ,but I don;t want also my kids grow up in an unhappy family.I don't know is I make a right decision but I guess it's ture that "LIFE is what me make it!"
6 responses
@longbangod (1785)
• Philippines
25 May 08
Part of life is to experience hardships and challenges. You've been through with it and you are in the process of improving the life you have now after those troubles. I believe you are a good person and with a BIG heart, because I see God has blessed you with so many wonderful things this time and all through your ordeals He is there always ready to help you.
God bless you Leng and dont forget to call HIS name always...
@arlene05kang (277)
• South Korea
25 May 08
That's true leng, he gave you trials because he knows that you are a strong woman. You have passed so many tests and most of them, you did it well.
@baleleng2008 (917)
• United States
25 May 08
tahnx a lot arlene.ur right that GOD give me trials bcoz i know I can do it:-)and I do it!yeeeeee
@baleleng2008 (917)
• United States
25 May 08
thanx long.I always thanx to the LORD for HIS instrument that HE send to me...
@baleleng2008 (917)
• United States
25 May 08
thank u for ur comment sunying.I think evryone deserve to be happy,isnt it?:-)
@tholitz (1127)
• Philippines
24 Jun 08
I'm sorry to hear that my friend. Sometimes we work hard to save our marriage not only for our benefits but most especially to our children because we know that they deserve a happy and intact family. I think you have already done the best that you can to save your family, but like what they say, it takes two to tango. I think you did the right thing because you're husband is already hurting and physically abusing you. I just pray that you'll get the custody right for your daughter and finally you will attain the freedom and happiness you deserve.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
23 Jun 08
Hi baleleng, I admire your positive attitude towards your precious situation and your toughness...ANyway, for me, it was the best decision and living with him for the sake of so called "complete family" will just add more problems, I know your kids will understand that better in the right time, we also can't blame them being affected since it was their father..I know, right person will always come in your way!
@teka44 (3420)
• Brazil
23 Jun 08
Hi baleleng, I am sorry to know that. It is a hard situation to live but I am proud about you. You made the right thing and I am sure that you will win the custody over your daughter. Living alone in foreign is more difficult for you I know but it is a prove of your courage so you will live a very happy life in the near future because you can overcome it.
The best luck for you my dear.
@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
23 Jun 08
Well, it is not easy to be in that situation specially when you are in a foreign land where you are alone... you can not run to anybody for help or advice because you are in a different culture. It is just sad it happen to you but I hope you will meet the right person at the right time. It is not yet late,,,Just pray about it.
Have a good day.
