Do you believe in second chances?
@inapaulineabelon (277)
Philippines
16 responses
@frontier2002 (630)
• Malaysia
25 May 08
Probably!! i never experience this personally by myself because my first love is forever. It's like the first and the last at least for now while we are still together for 8 to 9 years already. I hope to build a good family someday with all the things we got.
@inapaulineabelon (277)
• Philippines
25 May 08
Congratulations frontier2002 on your really successful relationship. I'm glad you've been together for such a long time. Only few relationships last that long. Are you two married already? Do you have children?
@vermillion (887)
• Philippines
25 May 08
I DON'T believe in second chances because it's like giving the same person another opportunity to hurt you all over again.
@inapaulineabelon (277)
• Philippines
25 May 08
So does this mean you haven't given or don't have any plans of giving second chances?
@inapaulineabelon (277)
• Philippines
25 May 08
Oh that's tough. But i wish you well though. Thanks for the response.
@vermillion (887)
• Philippines
25 May 08
This just means that i have been giving second chances my whole life and now, I've had enough of it. I stopped believing. I stopped hoping.
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
25 May 08
I sure do, I have been given too many chances already and I do believe that giving a second chance is not really that big of a deal for me. I too have given second, third and many more chances on others because I also believe in forgiveness.
I am not that perfect of a person, as I also commit mistakes so I always do my best to act and think like what I should be..
@inapaulineabelon (277)
• Philippines
25 May 08
That's great! So what made these people give you second, third and many more chances? Just out of curiosity
@roanne05 (1290)
• Oman
25 May 08
yes i do believe..but only till the second chance...once is enough, twice is too much and thrice is stupidity..hehehe...although have not experience it yet!
@inapaulineabelon (277)
• Philippines
25 May 08
I like what you said regarding thrice is stupidity. That sounds really cool and downright correct. But i guess, it still depends upon the severity of his/her mistake or sin. Do you think so?
@weepinwillow (107)
• Philippines
27 May 08
Yes I believe in second chances. I gave my partner a second chance. And yes it is sweeter. We have a beautiful daughter now and she is our life.
@inapaulineabelon (277)
• Philippines
2 Jun 08
Is that so? The poetic effect of that is really nice. very interesting. I like it. I'll think of a name which also has some sort of poetic effect. Lols! thanks for that
@inapaulineabelon (277)
• Philippines
31 May 08
Your story is really cute. I hope you grow together with your daughter. Anyway, why is your name weepinwillow? Just out of curiosity. You may or may not answer it.
@weepinwillow (107)
• Philippines
31 May 08
The poetic effect of the combination of the words had much appeal to me. That's why i chose this name. Willow is a beautiful kind of tree. And to imagine a tree weeping.. that's kind of interesting. I like the personification.
@nupats (3564)
• India
26 May 08
i never belived in second chances...i knew this guy for three years that too it was a long distance relationship still very strong...due to lack of communication frm his side and growing insecrities frm my side we called it off..i wouldnt lie by saying i kept thinking abt him but yes i really thought hard wt went wrong i went ahead with my life and was having a blast with friends and work...all was normal till one day after one year i find him coming up and proposing all over again wes poke abt lot of issues and finally decided tht our parents need to b convinced then we go ahead....he took care of all the things frm convincing to marriage and today we r happily married for 8 years..
@inapaulineabelon (277)
• Philippines
31 May 08
That's a really inspiring story. I'm happy for both of you. I'm also in a long distance relationship right now and it's sort of difficult. We have petty fights, all because of me and my insecurities. But at the end of the day, we sort out the problems and get back to each other.
@inapaulineabelon (277)
• Philippines
2 Jun 08
That's really sweet. Hope you two go a long way ahead of your relationship.
@chechuva (1275)
• Philippines
25 May 08
yes love is lovelier the second time around. my current relationship survived a very dramatic break up before. but i forgave him and he also did proved that i can trust him again.
hopely, this will last forever...
hopely, this will last forever...@inapaulineabelon (277)
• Philippines
2 Jun 08
I wish the two of you success in your relationship. That's really sweet and cute.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
25 May 08
I do believe in second chances. I haven't experienced it yet. I do believe that giving a lover a second chance is a way of showing that you love him but he needs to prove to you to be mature enough this time. The first chance maybe in a roller coaster relationship because you are in a getting to know and building up trust time. The second time around is strengthening the trust and proving your worth as given the second chance. If a lover gave you the second chance, be awaken that your lover had love you ever since and still opening her heart to you eventhough you have hurt it. =)
@inapaulineabelon (277)
• Philippines
25 May 08
Good point. A really good one. But what do you think of third chances? Are they worth giving?
@flowerpower5 (96)
•
31 May 08
Yes I most certainly do. I have personally experienced it. People have to earn that second chance it's not handed over. Some people from my experience claim to be forgiving and give that second chance. In reality they never forget but say they forgive when in fact they hold a grudge and can't let it go so the realationship is always filled with bitterness and mistrust. If you give a second chance you have to forget the past and move forward or the realtionship is not going to work out. Just my own personal opinion.
@inapaulineabelon (277)
• Philippines
2 Jun 08
They really have to earn and work hard for the second chance. Thanks for opinion. For me, it's the other way around. I forgive but i don't forget. But not forgetting doesn't mean I still have these grudges. It's just that I don't completely forget everything about his/her mistake. I just keep a note of it.
@bluewhitevalen (76)
• China
25 May 08
Once I have believed that.
I parted with my first boyfriend two years ago,and in these two years,I always feel that he will come back one day.Now I have loved him seven years,perhaps I should realize that he is happy now,and he won't love me again.
Once missde,never together.
@inapaulineabelon (277)
• Philippines
25 May 08
That's really sad. Must be a really tough experience for you. But like they say, you'll just find the right one for you in the end. Just move on (easier said than done, but just give it a try) and find the right one.
@ayeezgail (18)
• Philippines
25 May 08
yES..everyone deserves a second chance...I did it Once...with my husband and now, i am happy being with him and my baby...
@inapaulineabelon (277)
• Philippines
25 May 08
That's a really sweet story you got there. I'm glad there are still love stories like that. Good job! I wish you well in your life.
@inapaulineabelon (277)
• Philippines
31 May 08
You're words are really cute and true. Third chances are also a no-no for me. It's like banging your head on the wall a zillion times. And i hate people who keeps their eyes blind over really obvious cheating.
@plumwish07 (4057)
• Indonesia
25 May 08
i do believe about second chances in love but i don't think that i can give it to all people since second chance should be really considered after bad experience in the first time, am i right?
@inapaulineabelon (277)
• Philippines
25 May 08
you're right plumwish07..You have to know and determine if the person deserves to be given that second chance. Have you given anyone that chance already?
@inapaulineabelon (277)
• Philippines
25 May 08
Well, you can stick to just giving second chance if you're afraid of that. You must have been hurt a lot of times cause you seem to be really antagonistic on second chances. Hehehe. Am i right?
