What age should kids be allowed to date?

Hold on wait a minute we are talking about dating not getting married. she will date with or without your permission, she will begin to change her attitude and she will close down alot with you. Our hormones as women start jumping around about 12, This is a physical change for us. You do not want your daughter to date until she is legally an adult, so the question you asked was "what age do you think KIDS should be allowed to date" Dating is usually innocent trips to mcdonalds, the mall, the movies with friends. I would allow this at 15 myself with rules of what a date is in my eyes. I believe when we dont compramize in these situations children will go behind your back and do it anyway causing lots of trust issues. I can imagine her point of view being you wont allow her because you do not trust her. Just my opinion!

My dad was pretty strict when I was growing up, but I was allowed to date at 16. I've always used that as my basis for what to do with my kids. Now, I'm not as strict as my dad was and my mom always said he was too strict, but she agreed with him about the dating age, so I guess that's what I think. 16 is a good age. I just look at it this way, if I hadn't been allowed to date then, I probably would have tried to sneak around and date anyway, better to know and meet the guy than not, ya know?

I was never raised with any rules about dating, no one in my family was, and it really wasn't a big deal at all. I'm not sure why some parents are so against teenagers (middle schoolers) dating in the first place. It's natural to be curious and if you make a big deal out of it, only then does it become a big deal. I would say that as long as you send your child out with common sense and a knowledge of what's going on, it doesn't matter what age the dating really starts. Kids are not going to take your word on it, they need to experience things by themselves, and if you restrict them, they're probably going to do it anyways. And yes, 18 is way to strict!

I think that it is all based on maturity. I think that kids should be allowed to date as soon as they like, there is no harm in going to the pictures or for lunch with someone that you have a crush on. I had my first boyfriend when I was in year 8, which would make me 13.

I started dating at 15, a week before my 15th birthday actually. My parents were adamant about the 18 year old rule up until I got to middle school, then they got much more lax about it. I've been friends with guys all my life, so I think that helped. At 14, I was allowed to go out on group dates, but only did it once or twice, then at 15 was allowed to date exclusively. I don't think there is anything to bre worried about as long as you keep a communication channel open to them about what's going on in their relationship.

it depends. not all person matures at the same age. that's why only the parents have a say in what age they should allow their children to date. it's because they're the only ones who really know their kids.

18 is right

I think it depends on the child and the situation. They have to respect your rules.You have them for a reason, but listen to what they have tio say too. Every family's rules are different. I know one option that works is to only allow group dates. It is a compromise that way. They do have to earn the right and show they are responsible. That silly line about "everyone else is doing it", never works with me. I just say well that was their parents choice, and you aren't "everyone else".

Well, I am with you and my girls know the rules for dating in our family already (the oldest is 7). They will not be allowed to date until age 16 and then it is only group dates until age 18. Of course I realize this is different from what many others do and I respect their right to set the rules for their own children, but as for us, the rule sticks regardless of what their friends are allowed to do. I was allowed to "date" at a young age and all it did was bring me life experiences I would have been better off not experiencing.

I'm with you I say 18 too but honestly that would be unrealistic, its all a matter of what you feel is right. I let my girls start semi dating in middle school semi meaning school dances and boy would visit her here at home supervised until she turned 16 then they were allowed to actually go on a date. They have homecoming prom bonfires and such in high school I wouldn't want to place a rule of dating at 18 and have them miss out on prom and such. I am always in fear when they date but hey thats parenthood.

I Personally think the Best at for 1st date is 17 cause you know what's right or what's wrong overall its all depends on there Friendship

I'm sure I'll be the strange one out here...but in our opinion (my husband and myself), children should never be allowed to date, they should be courted. The first kiss and the first EVERYTHING should be with your beloved spouse!! Ok, I know people are snickering and thinking I'm nuts, but that's ok. I like it here! :) There are great advantages to not having any "experiences" to bring to a marriage, believe me. Every family is different! Every child is different. Best of luck to you!

Erm in my opinion, i think kids should be allowed to date is 16 and above. I think high school is okay to start dating with someone. Nowadays, even your kids is 8 y/o, don't be shocked when you find out that actually they're dating with someone;) Now everything is advance.

I think if she want to do so,you can't stop her.I'm 26 and I know what would happen if the parents enforce their kids to stop dating. It's terrible.

I actually went on my first date when I was in 8th grade, BUT his older sister, who was in her early 20's at the time, took us and supervised. This was also a family that my parents have known and been friends with for years. Alone on a date was not allowed until I was 16. I worked a part time job, baught my own car and paid all my own bills, so I think my parents figured if I could handle all that I could handle going on a simple date. I think if my childen show me that they are mature enough to be allowed to go on a date at the age of 16 or so I will let them. As for being younger then that, maybe supervised dates only. Have you considered supervised dates? I personally think 18 is a little old. We had tons of dances at my school and I always had a date and they always came and picked me up. My parents met everyone of them. I think that helped as well. Im just thinking about if you restrict them from the simple thing like dating that they may do things when they are away from you at like a dance or an after school program. I seen so many girls having s ex in cars in the school parking lots simply because their parents wouldnt allow them to see their boyfriends whenever they wanted. Just stupid things like that.

I think 15 is a better age, and it's never good "forbid" a teenager to do anything, because it makes them all the more determined. I'm a teenager who's soon to be a 16 year old, and my parents have begun to allow me to date. It your job to teach your kid about responsibility and then let them out into the world to practice. You can't protect them from everything, forever. And from what I've seen, if you give kids a little freedom in the teens, as long as you've taught them well, they actually learn things that prepare them for when they're college age, and in their twenties, buying their first house, etc.

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I think the kid should be allowed to date in the age of 16. Most of the kids in age 16 could take care about themselves. They have their own opinion of love. The parents would not only allow them to date but also teach the kids to know what is the true love and don't be cheated by other persons.

I think that they should be at least 9th graders and be able to prove they can be trusted and that they are reliable. I am saying this however without being a father but i believe i would probably be worried too if i were you. Well, you could allow them to date but under certain terms so that you won't force them to look for tricky ways of getting a date without you knowing about it.

I think 16 is a good age for most people, I think 18 is too long. Your kids do have to learn to become independant and get to know the world they live in. Ofcourse the age may differ from person to person, some people are just grown up faster than others. About grade 8? I don't know that system, how old are pupils from grade 8?