Is A healthy Relationships brings jealousy?
@celestial052506 (2914)
Philippines
May 25, 2008 7:10pm CST
Well, Some said, that it is normal to get jealous if you love someone. Others also said, if you love someone, you have trust on him/her and there's nothing to be jealous of?
Do you think the relationship is healthy when
jealousy exist between couples? Well, I think not!! It would make them mesirable. But some said, it is normal when you love someone you really felt jealous. Is it true with you?
What do you think about it?
I have friends who lived in jealousy. And later, they got separated.
What is you idea about this?
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16 responses
@YoungInLove (1254)
• Canada
26 May 08
lol uhm theres no way that anyone is ever not jealous when they're in a relatinship. It doesnt matter how much i trust my boyfriend, its like, impossible not to ever get jealous
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@celestial052506 (2914)
• Philippines
27 May 08
WEll, they said it is normal to get jealous but not to the extent of making bad scene because you are out of control of the emotion. You have points here.
Thanks for sharing.
@YoungInLove (1254)
• Canada
27 May 08
OH i just thought you meant getting jealous in general, sine its human nature its impossible to never feel that emotion. But now i know what you mean, and its unhealthy. When I get jealous i make a joke bout it, so my boyfriend kinda..catches on that a certain thing is bugging me, but i dont make it a big deal, thats just asking for an unnecessary fight.
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@basilus (78)
• Czech Republic
26 May 08
I believe that jealousy is not good for relationship. Anyway, there will be relationships, where a bit of jealousy is okay, sometimes. But in order to still consider that as relatively "healthy", it must not be overdoed, I think. For example, I've had a girlfriend once, who said to me during break up, that the reason was that she didn't feel least sign of jealousy on my side.
"How can I know that you care for me, when you seem to be so confidend about me?" she said.
I think that was one of instances when someone lost (or be lowered) sensitivity for feeling love in his/her partner (although it is still steady). It will be fail on his/her partner's side, of course, yet not always...
Anyway, I believe that the best alternative is when relationship should do with no jealousy at all - when it is unnecessary, as both of partners know how to display his/her love AND how to read it in his/her partner...
I hope that what I wrote makes sense to you, I belive so...
@celestial052506 (2914)
• Philippines
26 May 08
Well thank you for your reply I appreciate it.
have a nice day then...
@basilus (78)
• Czech Republic
26 May 08
Oh, I forgot to add that as we often just can't get the ideal things instantly, sometimes our relationship is not... um... let's say "mature" maybe... to do without at least slight short sting of jealousy from time to time, of course.
Then whe best would be to learn about myself - where lays the reason for my jealousy, why I am uncertain maybe... and how to "tamper" with me to get rid of it, or, at least, don't let it affect me in any negative way (and I believe that almost all the kinds of such influence are negative).
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@celestial052506 (2914)
• Philippines
26 May 08
correcrt!! I agree with you.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
@mykmari_08 (2464)
• Philippines
26 May 08
I used to think that in order to show someone that you truly love him or her; jealousy should play a vital role in your relationship. But based on my personal experience, I could say that I've learned it the hard way. Our relationship of more than three years ended partly because of my constant checking up on him and inquiring about his itinerary on a daily basis. I guess he got exhausted because of my actions and felt suffocated by my jealousy but he has his faults, too. He still courted other women while we were going steady without my knowledge and consent. Well anyway, I really regret having done that to him because somehow, my being jealous and skeptic backfired on me now. I'm already married for a little more than five years and my husband is always suspecting that I'm doing something illicit in his back.
I really believe that to have a successful and happy relationship, both should have an open mind and understanding heart. They should also avoid miscommunications by keeping their lines always open with each other. Love should bring out the best in you and not overwhelm or smolder you by suppressing your natural actions.
@celestial052506 (2914)
• Philippines
26 May 08
You have very good points here. Checking and giving too much doubt with out partner does no good. Open communication is the best thing to build trust to each other and jelousy will have no part of it.
Thanks for sharing.
@jczvrse (169)
• United States
26 May 08
I think it is human nature to feel some sort of jealousy when it come to the one you love. It all depends on how far you let the jealousy take you either you trust your loved on or you dont. I think a slight jealousy is healthy but not one that causes you problems.
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@celestial052506 (2914)
• Philippines
27 May 08
another good points!! that's right!!!
Thanks for sharing!!
@gloreymay (882)
• Philippines
27 May 08
Jealousy can bring no good to a relationship it will only lead to quarrels and misunderstanding. Healthy relationship need not to be jealous all the time, trust must keep them bound together. But we can't avoid to become jealous, always think that if the person loves u he will not allow temptation to come in to ruined the relationship.
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@celestial052506 (2914)
• Philippines
27 May 08
Exactly right!! I agree with you.
Thanks for your reply.
@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
26 May 08
Jealousy when it too much is bad...in a relationship jealousy is always present if love is in there or even among friends is it not??i really can attest to that...it becomes bad if it will be the reason for parting of ways bet. partners and even friends..or it become too much that will cause of frequent quarreling of friends and couple
@punlonnjack (1308)
• United States
26 May 08
i think it is caused by insecurities and if you have loved and lost someone you loved in the past if they were unfaithful. i trust my husband but i still have a slight jealous problem i keep to myself i dont let it be known to him.
@celestial052506 (2914)
• Philippines
26 May 08
Yeah I think you are right. Once a person was a victim of unfaithful partner in the past would felt jealous. right!!! I got your insight!!
thanks for the reply.
@rirbry (353)
• Malaysia
26 May 08
Its okay to get jealous a bit, there a phrase 'jealous is the sign that he/she love you' but being OVER jealous that is dangerous, i have a friends like that too and they got separated also but lastly they got back together and get married, maybe the LOVE overcome the jealousy...
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@celestial052506 (2914)
• Philippines
26 May 08
That's right!! love overcomes jealousy.. but I hope it works to most people who are in this nature.
Thanks for sharing.
@TheManager24 (1302)
• Philippines
26 May 08
Love, in its purest form, is never envious, never jealous.
I dont thing it is healthy if there is even a spark of jealousy in a relationship. That seed tends to grow and eventually lead to hatred.
Move away from that... and be happy.
Good day... Love people in its purest form.
@NuclearRabbit (650)
• United States
26 May 08
I get jealous sometimes every now and then. I just have to remind myself that that's no way to live.
If I acted all possesive and controlling my boyfriend would leave me for sure (and with good reason). I give him a lot of freedom and space and he will always be mine because nobody else he's dated in the past would allow him such freedom. :-).
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@celestial052506 (2914)
• Philippines
26 May 08
aw!! ok!! that's a good idea too.. you are smart ha? yes I heard that to others that the more they will give freedom to their boy friend, the more they are theirs. Well, good for them but it's a little bit scary if you are not yet really sure if he is faithful and true. But when you have a good bonding already and both of you really know each other pretty well, this idea is very good. At least your boy friend would not meant to hurt you because you trust him.. Cool!!
thanks for sharing this.
@celestial052506 (2914)
• Philippines
26 May 08
correct!! I agree with you. No room for jealousy in a healthy relationship.
Thanks for sharing.
@openmind08 (7)
• United States
26 May 08
I have to admit I am the jealous type more so than others.i for one know it is ok to be a little jealous however, there are limits that if one exceeds then it can be dangerous.Don't confuss jealousy with love.So just know the norm and enjoy the relationship and if you see the yourself crossing the limit try and receive a little counseling if you think the ralationship is worth it.
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@celestial052506 (2914)
• Philippines
26 May 08
That's right. you have good points here.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
@delacerna_amadeo (17)
• Philippines
26 May 08
If both partners reached at the aged of 30 above, that will be the time of jealous because one of them is getting hotter and aggressiveness specially the women partner,now the men is getting lower,the women partner needs young and aggressive men so they will both satisfied their needs . The men now cannot compete the wife and jealous comes up to it, that was some stories i heard from the radio hehehehe.
@delacerna_amadeo (17)
• Philippines
26 May 08
If both partners reached at the aged of 30 above, that will be the time of jealous because one of them is getting hotter and aggressiveness specially the women partner,now the men is getting lower,the women partner needs young and aggressive men so they will both satisfied their needs . The men now cannot compete the wife and jealous comes up to it, that was some stories i heard from the radio hehehehe.
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