Better to have loved and lost or to never have loved before?

I'm quite ignorant about that "love" you're talking about. But then, all i can say is it's always better to have loved and lost. At least, you've learned some lessons, haven't you? Those may help you in your next relationship. :)

You may be correct. the idea of being loved i sgood. atleast that love may not linger forever, but you will atleast experience some nice part of that love, when that breaks , there are obviously pain.

Awww one of my favorite saying that i totally have always agreed with..This is how i think about this with my little braina nd my own experiences..For all those that totally meesed with my head and heart and lied..cheated..stole..hurt me physically..emotionally and mentally..to all those that think they got away with it..and think im still sitting here crying over spilt milk...you all can KISSSS MYYYY GRITTTS!! LOL as Flo used to say in Alice lol lol..and ya know what else? if it wasnt for them alll..i would stillbe the stupid..innocent nieve girl that trusted everyone with anything..and never listened to my intuition..i learned with ALLLLL THOSE HEARTACHES THIS...when your partner says this to you.."ITS NOT YOU..ITS ME..." damnnn right it is ur problem!!cuz i didnt do anything to deserve what they did!And what they got..soo i leanred to never ask or beg for them to come back like a dog..thats just killing who i am..also..when they come hoem late without calling..and they smell like booze..smoke and mayybee a hint of perfume on the neck and hands...THEY WERE NOT JUST DANCING..they got it on too!! get an UV light it will show those little SOLIDERS STILL ON HIS UNDIES!! OHH YESS FOR UP TO 2 DAYS LADIES!!!! LOL LOL..i can go on and on about all th4e bad i have learned..but there are alot more good that override alot of them..and its takin me along time to find myself and relize thatnot everyone is teh same and that also includes men..not all of them are scuzzbags lol..just alot more than we need..i trust anyone until they give me ANY REASON NOT TOO..and then its on and my private investigator self comes out to play lol..and lastly..to never love ever at all?? thats makes me shutter thinking of all those beautidful times we had that never would have happened wether we ended up splitting up..or whatever..every realtionship starts new and fresh and happy..and alot go down hill afterwards...but again..think of all thise greattimes u did have and wouldnt have if u never fell in love...Sooo thats my opinion..:) have a good one!! April

Nope I have to say I disagree,I have had some disaster relationships...including the one I am in now but I think it changes your personality you seem to be wary of everyone judge them too soon and not trust anyone,its the bad people out there that make you stereo type everyone,if that makes any sense,I wish I had never had all my terrible relationships but thats life,I tend to be a bit sour because of the messy relationships I have had I guess I wish I would have just waited a little longer before jumping straight into a relationship that was destined for disaster.Best of luck

I believe it is better to have loved and lost. It's these relationships that teach us. Most of us go into a new relationship not knowing what we really want. We have a idea of what it should be but is it realistic? I've had a few good partners, more than my share of idiots and nutbars but I've had only one excellent relationship. That was seventeen years ago and it's still going strong. When I look back and remember the years we've been together, I can do nothing but smile and thank God for another wonderful gift.

I think your right. It's better to learn from your pasted relationships so you know what to do and what not to when you decide to start another one.