im really in love again
By gurtinphilly
@gurtinphilly (16)
United States
May 26, 2008 3:38am CST
hi this is the first thing i ever put on mylot but im 27 years old i have 2 kids im divorced cause my ex wife cheated on me and mad me feel like it was my fault and she likes to hold the
kids against me like i only get them when its good for her shes goin out or has no plans with them and thats really tickin me off now but i now have a new girlfriend that i ve been seein her for a little over 9 months now and ive always been a little jelious because of what happen with my ex wife and i took it out on my girlfriend now i guess but shes incredable too shes has a son from a past relationship too shes the a great mom too shes the only other women i would want taking care of my kids you should she her with her son its so cool how all about him she is always doin things for him what ever he wantes she busts her but to get it for him she also takes care of her parents house rite now her mom is recovering from an operation so on top of takin care of her son shes cooking cleaning doin wash shopping for her mom dad brother son and self and still finds time to put up with me we just have a bad fight cause i found some stuff she wrote about and old boyfriend on mylot while she was goin with me and it hurt alot but and i thought speacialy the stuff she said were bad i thought of my ex wife but cause of her cheattin like i said b4 but then i realize how much different the two of them are and how much i love my girlfriend and how lucky i am the i found her shes besides my kids the best thing in my life and i can say and i thought never would i truly trust her with all my heart i know she wouldnt hurt my if she could help it so u know who elephant shoe
6 responses
@aowaow (1516)
• Indonesia
26 May 08
Please kindly use full-stop. Thanks.
You still loved you ex, didn't you?
I can sense from your writing. It's a lot concerning about your ex. I understand why you mentioned it. Well, my dear friend. We have to walk forward, your ex and you doesn't have a correlation anymore. You must close your past journal with your ex, if you want your current relationship is successful.
You also must avoid to compare one-to-another woman, especially if you bring this into your communication with your woman directly. I will give you my reason. I think you understand that nobody's perfect. Once you'd found a better matter/skill in your current g/f, you will praise her, because you think she's better than your ex. But, each human has its weaknesses. Once you'd found out your current g/f's weaknesses, you think she is not better than your ex, because your ex has the better skill. This is the risk of comparing the ex and the current, it's valid for us, women too.
You have your new life, I suggest you to focus on your current g/f. There is no guarantee the new one would not cheat on you, even I couldn't guarantee. People's heart may change due to some disadvantages phase in the relationship. If we always pour the love the woman, she will hardly to move on to the other guy. I suppose you will understand what I'm trying to say in here.
@daniellegldn (255)
• Australia
26 May 08
Well obviously she is on mylot as well,i hope you are not writing that just so she will see it?you need to show her you love her,you need to make sure she feels loved and respected,you need to trust one another,I know its hard after a bad relationship but if you cant trust her and give her some space it will never work,If you truly love her like you say you do then make sure you treat everyday like its the last,you need to show her how much she means,you need to appreciate what she does for you and help out whenever you can and even when you have been together a while longer dont let this change,if you both put in the effort and realise that you want it too last then it will,the minute you start to expect things from her and lose respect then the relationship will fall apart,my partner has made this mistake even after we thought we would be togther forever and after 5 years things have turned so sour we barely speak,i wouldnt wish this on anyone,you need someone stable in your kids life you need to make sure this one is for real before making her a permanent fixture in their life.Good luck.
@gurtinphilly (16)
• United States
28 May 08
yes she is on my lot too but thats not the only reason i posted this i just wanted to vent so thank u for reading it and responding and i agree with u about someone stable in my kids life and i know shes the one i want in there life i couldnt think of anyone better i also agree about the trusting and treating everyday like its the last i just hope she does know how much she means to me
@ayessa (1583)
• Philippines
27 May 08
Hi! Welcome to mylot! Congratulations also for the new found love! Well what should I be telling you now?! Hmm... Maybe just a few advice. Take good care of you girlfriend since you just said that she's really special. Hehehehe, nothing to say just goodluck and happy mylotting!
@Saurav2050 (161)
• United States
28 May 08
Thats greta man!!
If the first one didnt cared you....She cheated you..
U have the right to search for other and look for someone else..
Its great if i was in place of u i'd probably do what u did...
@ramyashreesk (1021)
• India
27 May 08
Hey frien i feel you both should have a good time as you love eachother instead of botherij of believeing and trustin u try to be happy and give her also happiness ok
an i tell u every human being is unique extraordinary in his own way k .....so be happy love her love her love her no question of trust may u both be happy Take care
@adrico (204)
• China
26 May 08
hey guy
i just wanna say :congratulations.. hehe
i guess you must having the most happiest time with her .i can feel the cheerfulness from what you said ...when love is coming you should learn how to cherish the love ,you know it is very important ...though i really dont have a gf yet,not having so much feelings ,that is to say my theroy is not authoritive .
best wishes to you and your gf ..hehe
@gurtinphilly (16)
• United States
28 May 08
thank you for your comment and yes we do have the happiest times together well or at least i do lol id nather be with her then anyone else in this world exsept of corse my children there tied for first then her and her son her sons my little buddy hes such a cool little kids almost as cool as mine lol
