Need advise!!

India
May 26, 2008 5:44am CST
Hi frnds,I need ur advises in a very important matter of my life..I m going around with a guy for past 3 yrs..we both r serious bout getting married after few yrs..but here we have a grave situation..thats our parents!!..we both finished college last yr n now into jobs..but he has recently left the job n is doing a course to get a better job,with his parents consent..since we r from different castes,there is very little hope of them accepting our marriage..he told his parents bout me n they r also not ready to accept me..M yet to tell my parents bout it..as I dont stay with them,they come over twice a year to this place to meet me!!M waiting 4 them n plan to tell them bout it after they come..as I feel this sort of talks should better be done face to face.. also we r having problems between us bout this issue n we end up quarreling.. I give more priority to my parents n dont want to hurt them coz of a guy.. I have been even thinking of breaking up..but then I really dont want to..even he doesnt want to.. plz give some advise on how to get our parents accept our marriage.. plz help..
2 responses
aowaow
@aowaow (1516)
• Indonesia
26 May 08
Try to approach her mother. Visit them regularly, don't push you over for having marriage when all has not settle yet. Parent's acceptation will grease your relationship in the marriage life. If not, your path would be rough and you may face heavy emotional overwhelmed until the parents convince themselves. But at that time, you'd wounded too heavy to your emotional. Slowly, show them your intention and patience. Parents is usually still correcting their kids' partner even though had been in marriage life. Always make a good approaching, no matter what, the iceberg will be melted by patience.
icy_ice82000
@icy_ice82000 (205)
• India
26 May 08
I would love to meet his parents but the prob is they dont stay at this place...I have tried meeting them but they r not ready to meet me..his mother dont want to talk with me even over phone...I have no way to approach them... n he is also stopping me saying that its not the right time...so the situation is quite difficult....
aowaow
@aowaow (1516)
• Indonesia
26 May 08
Then you have to wait, you've got no option. He told you it's not the right time means he needs to buy some times to convince his parents. But I suggest if you catch a chance of talking to his mother. That must be used wisely, don't waste it. It's rare. Meet her in supermarket or any place. Try to forget about being rejected, just thicken your face. But don't look as if you so want it. Just be natural when talk to her. By the way, don't use phone. Eyes contact is better. Because she can read your intention better through a direct communication. You'll need patience my friend, real patience if you hope that he is the one for you.
chivolaski
@chivolaski (969)
• Philippines
26 May 08
every love story has a conflict, i'm sure you'll get through it! it's a trial for you guys to prove and strenghten your relationship and all endings are good if not it's not the end yet! giving up on each other is the last thing you should do!
icy_ice82000
@icy_ice82000 (205)
• India
26 May 08
Thanks for the encouragement chivo...even I dont want to quarrel with him but somehow things r leading to that...lets see!!