Your kids accuse you of liking one more than the other?
By SusanLee
@SusanLee (1920)
United States
May 26, 2008 10:25am CST
One day my grown daughter must have had a case of PMS or something and decided to get something off her chest.
She informed me that I liked her older brother more than I did her, that he was my favorite.
I was floored. It's funny how we unknowingly give our children false and harmful impressions.
Once I was able to get a grip on myself, I informed her I did not favor any of my children over the other.
'I disliked them all the same'
That relieved the tension and I was able to explain to her that I didn't love one more than the other, personaly I have never heard of such a thing.
They are individuals and no I don't like everything about them and some of the things they do, but to favor one with more love than the other, never.
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@SusanLee (1920)
• United States
29 May 08
I don't know where kids get this stuff, I guess there are parents out there that do show favoritism. Of course because we're all individuals I do think some of our children are more likeable then others.
Matt had do be intertained all the time when he was real little, Mel would intertain herself.
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@Phaedra_Scythe (3325)
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26 May 08
'I disliked them all the same' 
Oh I have to '+' you just for making me laugh!
It's a shame that she feels this way. It's probably down to her self-esteem issues. Is she at a difficult age?
It's a serious issue though. My mother actually did favour my sister over me and it's given me serious problems throughout my life. Definitely made me feel worthless. I hope she snaps out of it now you've taken the time to talk to her about it.
Oh I have to '+' you just for making me laugh!
It's a shame that she feels this way. It's probably down to her self-esteem issues. Is she at a difficult age?
It's a serious issue though. My mother actually did favour my sister over me and it's given me serious problems throughout my life. Definitely made me feel worthless. I hope she snaps out of it now you've taken the time to talk to her about it.@SusanLee (1920)
• United States
27 May 08
She is 29, I think she told this to me a few years ago.
Like I mentioned earlier, it threw me because she always stuck to me like glue. Even after she became a teen. We did everything together. Anything from grocery shopping to going to the beach, she was my little buddy.
I don't know where she got this idea at. I'm sure she had some esteem issues, I think most of us do at some point in our lives.
Go figure hu, I did explain to her that all three of them were individuals and I would always treat them as such.
If one needed shoes, I didn't just automatically buy shoes for everyone just to avoid hurt feelings. This is something they were all taught from the time they were old enough to understand.
Nothing irks me more then see a child whine about one getting more than the other when they don't have the same needs.
I guess we just do what can and hope they survive.
@femmefatale_moi (79)
• Isle Of Man
2 Jun 08
i grew up knowing that my mother favors my brother more but i don't have a problem with even then because i know that they nearly lost him when he was little and i almost ended up an only child. My dad is fair though i could feel he love both of us equally... but i can't say the same for my mom... not that she don't loved me because she does only not as much as she love my brother...it's just a given thing that you need to live w/...
@SusanLee (1920)
• United States
27 May 08
when she says it is she saying it in a joking manner?
I couldn't believe it when my daughter said it, and she meant it.
It's so weird to me because when she was little and then a teen (she's 29 now) she stuck to me like glue, we did everything together. I don't know where this feeling came from in her.
@SusanLee (1920)
• United States
27 May 08
I only have one grandchild thank the Lord. I have seen a lot of grandparents have to deal with that one.
How about this for selfish, I met a woman at my mother-in-laws one day, she was real sore because she had only been out of the hospital a few days from having a hysterectomy. Her husband was working on the in-laws air conditioner.
She just wanted to get out of the house for awhile. She told us that her daughter actually came to the hospital and asked her when she was coming home because she needed her to watch her kids, these kids were little too.
I felt so sorry for this woman, later I realized though that the only reason this selfish daughter pulled that was because this grandmother didn't put the skids on this behavior when it first started.
There is nothing wrong with saying 'No'
@Elixiress (3878)
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27 May 08
That never happens in our house as my parents admit their favourites, I am my Mam's favourite because I am clever and my sister is my Dad's favourite as she watches TV with him.
