If you were an adopted child would you want to know it or not?

I would want to know, I think. I mean, I think if I grew up not knowing that I was adopted, and found out later, I would probably be very upset. But if I grew up knowing that my mommy and daddy had adopted me because my birth mother could not care for me, I would feel much more secure in my relationship with my parents.

If I were adopted I think I would like to know about it and maybe get to know my parents and why they gave me up. Some truths should be learnt even thought they would be painful I guess....

Of course, I prefer not to be adopted. Being adopted is so hard as you may think that something is missing from you. If I am one, I would definitely find my real parents and be with them for quite a while. It depends on the situation really.

If I was an adopted child I would prefer to know all about it rather than not knowing because it feels so unfair not knowing where you come from and who your real parents are.

Well there are two sides of this coin, I guess if I didn't know I would never know that I didn't know. So it wouldn't bother me. However, there may come a point in that child's life that they may need to find out. Perhaps they get an illness and need marrow from a blood relative or some other type of medical issue. Perhaps that child's biological mother, father, sibling, or grandparent try to locate them. It would not be a good way to find out that you are adopted that way.

No , I would not want to know . Maybe I am saying this because I came from a good family and was very happy.I think It would confuse me at first If I found out at a later age. I then would have to find out who my real family was to get answers. My friend was adopted and he just had a feeling he was , kinda like he always knew . His parents dont him when he was a teen. He met his real family and never grew close with him , he just need peace .

Thinking back on when my mother told me who my real father was, it would not have mattered if she had told me or not because I always knew that my step-father was not my father. I did not look like him and I did not behave in the manner that he did. I knew my step-father was not my father. My step-father also used to do horrible things in front of me. I was glad to find out that he was not my real father.

I would want to know. Just because it would be nice knowing where I came from. I'd always consider the people I grew up with my parents because they raised me and gave me everything I needed and what they could of what I wanted, but a part of me would want to know about the people that I could have grown up with.

I don't want to know the truth. As I will be sad why my own parents didn't want me. This is not pleasant to learn the truth. I love China

I would definately want to know if I was adopted. But I think when the time is right. I would not have liked to find out under the age of 12 years old as I would be too young to comprehend why my biological parents may have adopted me out. Even 12 may be a bit young to understand. But I would really want to know as one day I would like to find my biological parents if I was adopted just to find out why I was adopted and also to find out history of my family etc. However I would always think of my adopted parents as my real parents, as they would have been the ones that have loved and supported me my whole life! Great topic for discussion.

I hope your friends do tell their child they he/she is adopted because they have the right to know. I know I did. I am adopted as well as my two brothers. All three of us are from different families. As soon as I understood things at an early age, my mom and dad took time to explain adoption to us. When I was 22 I registered to meet my real mom and I did. Before I did that it was like a peice of the puzzle missing or like picking up a novel and leaving out the first chapter. All in all I do think the adopted child deserves to know.

If I am one id like to know who my parents was. I want to know where they are. Have some time to talk to them and ask them why they have to put me in adoption. And if ever putting me in adoption makes my life even better i might say thank you to my parents and I'll forgive them on giving me to my poster parents. Their reasons must be very understandable and very reasonable to me because if not I might not consider them to be my parents anymore.

i would not want to know if i was adopted...i wud truely believe them to b my parent who bought me up, taught me abt the ways of life, and stood by me through the ups and downs of my life....why wud i bother abt the parents for whom i never ment anything...who did away with me on any pretext...i wud not look for anyone..why complicate things..

i'd prefer to know about them because all of a sudden you need to face them, ask why d give you and i think most of parents are prefer to answer this because of some reasons and i know it will painfully to them..some child can understand this when they reach thier maturities and it will explained by thier adopted parents..

This is a difficult question. I'd have to know first that I'm adopted before I can answer whether or not I want to know. :) I don't think I'd want to know because if I do I might feel a little bit of resentment towards my biological parents. I'm not sure if I'd be able to understand and accept their reasons. This might also create a tension between me and my adoptive parents. They might think that I'd love them less or even leave them. On the other hand I prefer them to tell me rather than knowing by accident that I'm adopted.

I would like to know, but for me, i wouldn't care if i'm adopted or not... i'm so blessed to have a parents like my parents, and i wouldn't want another one... If i'm adopted, i will thank my true parents for giving me away to such wonderful people...

i feel that i will not want to know as i feel that if you put me up for adpotion mthere has got to be a reason why... and that is that they wanr to play but dont want responsibility and so i feel that i will not want to know who are they.. if i adopted a child i will tell her that she is adopted when she is old enough... maybe when she is 10 or eleven.. but when she ask why someone dump her, i will just tell her that she was borned out of love but the parents are not able to look after her.. i will tell her that i adopted her because i love her and she is the most important thing to me. but if she wants to look for her parents she may... its her choice...because if she is not allowed to she may hate me...like i am depriving her of something. and if i allow her, i will have a smaller chance of losing her. i feel that i should support her and let her parents whenever she wants..but i will advise her to limit herself... oh... i will tell her that i love her everyday!!! thats the most important thing....

yes i would want to know