Do you have relatives that act this way?

Yes my dear every families have them I for one just ignore them. You must tell them that what they are doing is hurting you. Some times it is best to be honest. I am very outspoken so whenever they do things to hurt me I make them know about it.

I have that kind of relative. In fact most of them are. They always say all the bad words you an think of saying to a person. They always saw my family and me as nothing important. They even talk as if we are the one who support all our needs and as if we can't live without them. Honestly, I feel for them because they don't know what they are doing and saying. They are so mean and sinful. (Atleast for me and my family) They may have all the material things in the world but they don't know how to treat a human being. Or they are not humans and that's the reason. LOL What I do to these relatives is I always put them on my prayers. I always pray and ask for God's help to cure them. When they are in our house I make it a point that I will be civil to them if they say something wrong I always ignore them and told myself "here we go again." That's the only thing we can do unless we want a huge fight over them which my family does not like.

My goodness, are we related???? LOL I actually had that problem years ago...I've been a stay at home worker myself all these years. Well when my grandmother was alive I had to contend with her as she lived with my mother and I. She was of the "old" school that the only way one earned money was to go OUT of the home and go to a job...she constantly berated me, told me how lazy I was, etc. (Often when she was drunk, which loosened her tongue quite a bit)--but like you..why else would the apt. been spotless, why would they (my mother and grandmother) be getting excellent home cooked meals from scratch, and how would one explain those checks I was getting from photos of mine that were published. Even my mother was a winner...she made it quite clear how disappointed she was with me that I hadn't gone to college and become a female Einstein since I had always been a science geek, but instead was a Drama Major...My grandmother also thought I was "acting" due to my panic disorder with agoraphobia, and didn't believe it existed...oh, then why was I seeing a therapist to help me overcome it?? How did I put up with it all? No idea, but did somehow...I had no real alternative but grin and bear it, as I just didn't have the money to move out..if I had...zoom...I would have ran out of there so fast, you think a hurricane wind had gone through the apt....LOL

I definitely have some like that. I have learned how to turn the other cheek and take what they say with a grain of salt.They are entitle to their opinions, even if they are rude as heck in the way they express them. I will speak up if I feel they are wronging someone though. Sometimes people pass judgement without all the facts. They only make themselves look foolish when they spout off about something they don't have all the information on.

I actually have an aunt that like that. It seems like when I see her she always has a remark about how many kids I have or about me being overweight. She really is no bette than I am though. She has 3 kids and didnt take care of them. And she is a lot more over weight than I am. I have stopped visiting her. I do not need someone in my life that brings me down. After all whats it to her how many kids I have. I take care of them. And so what if I am a little over weight. I am happy just the way I am. I think they do that because they are unhappy with themselves. so they have to try to make other people feel bad like they do. LOL! Sorry this was more of a rant.

I have an uncle like that. I used to dislike him but he helped us out in a very tight situation. SO I guess you can do nothing about such people because they were made that way. We have to put up with their banter and forget all about it soon after

I have one gossipy family member that annoys me. I mean, I love them, but I do get sick of the gossip. I feel like if something doesn't concern me, it doesn't concern me. She tends to get things wrong too and that makes it even worse. I just try to change the subject. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't.

I've got friends who do that and I'm not excempted from their topics. It feels so bad listening to them. As if everyone is goofy and they are the mighty smart ones. The funny thing about is that when I go visit my other friends' house I hear them talking about my other friends. Well, I hate gossips, rumors, and other silly talks. I can't stand participating with any of it. I don't think of myself as smart but I always keep this sage in mind: Small minds discuss people, Average minds discuss events, great minds discuss ideas. I may not have lofty ideas to share or discuss with, nor am I updated with the most recent events but I just can't stand talking about people.

I try to ignore it, but it really hurts. Around certain people, not just my relatives, I can't do anything right. Even if I do something they wanted me to do, it is still wrong. You just can't please some people.

sounds like my mom. I just have to grin and bear it as much as i hate listening to her all the time i have to.

my brother and his wife are like that. they think they are better and always have and really do not bother with the rest of us because of it. their children are turning out to be the same as them. not fun to be around them and i avoid them as much as possible. we only see them about once a year now which is fine with me.

Oh dear!! I think everyone does have one like this. It drives me crazy when I hear them cannibalizing others specially in the dining table. this is the time when everybody is around the the best time also for them to talk about people. Oh!! it make me feel sick. O really dont's like it.

yaa yaa i have so many relatives acting like this ... i am from a.p and i have so many relatives who always come to home and stay at home and more over my father is sick..so it is so hrrible to stay with my relatives at my home

honestly, i do have relatives like that. and i cannot stand them. they rant and rant and speak ill of others without looking at their own crap. they think highly of themselves as if no one is more superior. it's very irritating, and am in the verge of bursting my bubbles, but then my voice would be so tiny that they would just disregard it. no matter how hard you try to talk them into reforming, they would just change their ways. old habits die hard. it just makes me more frustrated.

These circumstances usually happens when we have our yearly reunion on my mother's side. I'm not really close to my cousins on both sides. Especially on my mother's side. They're not that bad but some kids grew up in what we call 'luxury' so when we get together they act like they're on top of every each around them. On my mother's side, there's not-so-poor-not-so-rich class and there's rich class. Those rich class acts like the one I mentioned. I feel like they're trying to emphasize tgheir status to those whose got nothing but their family and a little money and I just don't like them. Anyway I just don't give a d*mn. I don't even even mix in both sides whenever I attend such gathering of my clan. I usually talk to older people. They're more fun and interesting to talk to because they relate their old days.

no i dont,im lucky that my family are all lovely,although my mums firey,she would give you her left arm if you needed it.x

wow! I also can't stand about that. I remember my mom's sister is like that, she will visit us in the house and bring all these news what is happening to our neighbor, what's the latest update there and here, We never like it and I also don't like to offend her so most of the time, in the middle of conversation, we will always change the topic to get her attention. It's not fair to be judging people and I believe, we are not perfect too and we just need to focus our lives rather than criticizing others!

hey are we related it sounds like my hubby's family they lucked out an were born with silver spoons in there mouth an say things that they don't think is nasty but is about my mom who works hard for eveything she has

I have a sister-in-law like that. She comes to the house after she gets off from work and talks about how every other LVN up there is lazy and she is the ONLY one wh odoes anything. It gets rediculous, but she is my sister-in-law. I just ignore her most of the time. There is not much else I can do.

Yes, unfortunately i have...actually she is not my relative, she's my husbands sister...she thinks she has everything and thinks she is on top of the world...that she knows everything...but in fact, she had what she has right now because of her husband earnings and in-laws that is working so hard in the U.S.... without even thinking that without them she will not have everything that she has right now...that, she can't even work for her child...she's just seeking help from the people around her...