What if your younger sister don't respect you and your mother?

@k8cath (341)
Philippines
May 26, 2008 9:16pm CST
I have this problem since I cannot remember. Though I love my sister, I am really very disappointed with the things that she always do to us whenever she's wrong about things and stuff. There would be times that my mother would be hurt because she doesn't have respect for the older woman (my mother and I) like she would respond to us irreverently. Also, she would tend not to do the chores even if she's the one who is assigned to do it. :( I want to help her but she doesn't want to help herself. Got the same picture in your family? any comments?
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@tholitz (1127)
• Philippines
30 May 08
I think this is typical with the young generation. They don't want to be scolded or commanded what to do. I think our youth today have become so liberated and wanted to do the things in their own way. Though I really don't know the root of her behavior towards you and your mother, I feel that an open heart to heart talk will break the barrier and hopefully solve the differences. Also, we could treat her disobedient and crazy manner reversely, by being patient and more understanding and let her feel how important she is in the family. Maybe this could make her think and eventually change her way.
@tholitz (1127)
• Philippines
31 May 08
God always use somebody to test our faith and patience. Maybe the inner changes that Christ had made in our self could be a great testifying factor for your sister how Christ works in our life. God bless and don't lose hope
@k8cath (341)
• Philippines
2 Jun 08
yes, I would think of that as what God would want me to be and my sister would be the best test for this faith and Christian conducts. thanks for the comments still. I suppose you're also a brother in Christ! see you around ;)
@k8cath (341)
• Philippines
30 May 08
It's actually crazy to have them talk heart-to-heart because my sister would actually choose not to open her heart to these things and she doesn't care about OUR feelings. She just does whatever she feels like doing. Though I want her to change and to be better, there are things that really hinder me and instances that makes it look like we don't have a choice but to leaver her alone. Someday, we would want her to also be one of the followers of Christ.. Hope that could help - the reverse psychology..
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
27 May 08
how old is she? is she is old enough like 18 years old and above i will kick her out of the house. i have two more sisters. one older than me and one younger one. my mom is a widow for 12 years already and we all love her so much. maybe we have times when we have misunderstandings but not at the point where one will be disrespectful.
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
28 May 08
i think having a loving family comes from having a loving parents as well. i am not blaming your parents having a sister like that but, maybe they spoiled her in a point so that she grows up to be like that. did they spoiled your sister when she was much younger? i am a single mom of four children and my children are 16, 15, 13 and 12 my first born is a boy and i have three girls but they help around the house with the chores. of course like all teenager sibblings the have mis-understandings but they are never disrespectful to each other. i dont like kids who acts like they can live alone. dont let her do that to you, dont let her do that to your parents. she has no right ot be bossing around. thanks for the best response
@k8cath (341)
• Philippines
27 May 08
My sister is turning thirteen already this upcoming July. :) Wow, since you love your mother and all, that must mean that you come from a very loving and caring family.. That's what I also would want whenever I am about to have my own. :) Of course, I could attain that with the help of our God, right? :)
@k8cath (341)
• Philippines
30 May 08
I thought so too..I think you have done a good job being a single mom, and I can tell you, I would want that loving family too. As of my family, we do love each other, and she really is full of love, unlike me because when I was an only daughter, I have been under the care of my mother's relatives and not like her that my mother resigned from her work just to take care of her..
• Canada
27 May 08
I wonder if this is a cultural thing. In North America, age doesn't matter as much. Family members need to have as much respect for those younger than them, as they should for those older, as they should for themselves. I am the younger sister, and my mother and my older sister don't trat me diferently because I am younger. We are all equal.
@k8cath (341)
• Philippines
27 May 08
Yeah, I think because people here in Asia tend to seek more honor and respect from younger ones especially that it is one of the commandments from the Bible, even in the new testament, there are many passages in which the children should obey their parents..When you watch Koreanovelas, you can see clearly that they are not the kind of people who would want to hurt their parents so they respect them and keep them not to be upset with their behavior (grades in school are not included. XP)
@k1tten (2318)
• United States
27 May 08
My sister is the exact same way. She says things need to be done but isn't willing to help at all. She expects everyone else to do it for her. All she cares about is herself. My family has tried to support her in everything but it's getting harder and harder to support her when she treats us so horribly.
@k8cath (341)
• Philippines
27 May 08
Yes, I think we really have the same kind of sister! How old is she now by the way? Mine is turning 13 on July, and she still doesn't know how to treat us accordingly and seems to become another pain for us, adding to the agony of bills and payments needed to be accomplished/paid. XP
@k1tten (2318)
• United States
27 May 08
Mine's 19 unfortunately. She really doesn't contribuate anything to the family.
@k8cath (341)
• Philippines
27 May 08
That's really harsh. People in other countries doesn't seem to mind those who do things for themselves - I think. I hope it could always be like the scenes seen in movies in which children are more behaved and are inclined to making their parents and grandparents and all those others happy and proud..
@naseeha (1382)
• India
30 May 08
children should be taught at a very young age to respect their elders. When they reach a certain age they will not listen to you aand they would start disrespecting you. Maybe she is a teenager. teenagers never listen to what their elders have to say. try advising her well through someone whom she respects very much like an aunt or a teacher. Wishing you the best
@k8cath (341)
• Philippines
30 May 08
Yup, that's really what parents should do because the children's attitude at that time would determine how would they respond to future circumstances and other things..actually, she's going to be a 13-teen at July. I think there would be no one that she will be willing to respect very much though sometimes there are people she would want to listen to yet not the respect given as a child to a parent.