Dutiful wife

Hi dear to me dutiful wife is one who care for his husband and try to deform as per his desires, take care of his home, kids, wealth, prestige duing his absent. dont cheat. and like wise hubby do the same, care for her mutual concern is always good

Oh Mayka - this type of husband sounds like one who lords over his wife. That isn't a healthy relationship at all. No, this is not a description of a dutiful wife, but rather one who may have a husband who doesn't see them as a real person, a special, precious helpmeet. A dutiful wife is one who takes care of her husband, household, and children (if she has them), but also takes time for herself too. A good husband is one that will take his wife into consideration and love her and treat her as a precious jewel. She has to allow him to do so too though. Wow, the more I think about this discussion, there are so many facets! I hope you find the answer for which you are looking...

Appears somewhat tricky and difficult question to me. However, I'll try to be impartial. The who takes care of her family (including herself) and the one who is always concerned about her partner and kids. The one who know how to run her house-hold affairs, with skills and the one who knows how to maintain social relations with near and dear ones. The one who sometimes becomes little bit selfish to enjoy herself. The one who cares about her beauty too. I think the above qualities and some other will make a woman a dutiful wife and I can tell you that my better half has luckily all the above qualities in her, besides she is a working lady.

hahahaha...I can't be like that mayka! I guess it takes two in a relationship. We don't need to set rules and stick to it but we can always talk about things and always willing to volunteer to do stuff when we can see one is busy or doing something else.It is give and take to be successful. Not that one partner would like to take all the time or give all the time. I can still be dutiful without being demanding to my partner nor being slave to him! At least I have a very wonderful and open-minded partner...I hate to be treated like a remote!

Those things you mentioned are a dutiful robot. Husbands and wives should be equal in everything. A dutiful wife does his responsibility so as the dutiful husband - a give and take relationship. I don't need to enumerate those responsibilities as it is already known to every mankind. The question is how it is being done? the answer showed in a happy face of her husband.

I have to say that I'm just a wife. both my husband and I will do everything together. He works, I stay home do what needs to be done at home and take care of my mom(78 years old). When we go to the market we both go shopping. When we need to wash clothes, we both do it. I have to say, that he is one of a kind. When I do go out with my sister or daughter, he doesn't get mad. He tells me to go have a good time. When we go out, we have a good time also. He is my best friend, We are able to tell each other anything. (don't get me wrong, we have our fights and have gotten close to getting a divorce)But things seem to always work out. And if he needs to eat and I'm not home, he'll make himself something to eat.

The thought of understanding how can you be a good wife is already hard for me to think of right now. Maybe because I still have no desire to be one. Anyway, I guess a dutiful wife is the one who loves her husband unconditionally. Serve him for the rest of their lives. Respect him for whatever he does and think. Guide and be with him if he needed her. Stand by his side no matter what happens in order to avoid failed marriage. I don't think it's to be taken literally as what you've mention in your first few sentences. It's not about following orders only to impose the word dutiful. Why did you get married if you only needs someone to follow your orders right? You should have hire a helper/maid.

I would say this is a culture difference, but I see this a lot in American men, too. To me, a dutiful wife is one who is faithful, considers her husbands likes and dislikes, who contributes to the family welfare. I think women who choose not to work should keep the house and children well-cared for. Women who choose to work, or have to, have a right to expect more help around the house. But the women who caters exclusively to her husband, without any thought to her own pleasure or things she enjoys, is going to be an unhappy wife. A husband who is not considerate of what his wife wants or needs is a poor husband.

All I can say is, I'm not one then! My hubby of 37 years, has never expected or even wanted me to be like that. As he's worked away a lot he's encouraged me to have a life outside of the home and doesn't expect me to change my routine. I have dinner with my daughter after our weekly shopping trip and if he's home he has to get his own dinner. He usually makes something cheesy or curried both of which I rarely cook as I hate the smell! If I'm working I'm out at meal-times so he has no choice but to make his own, and makes mine too because he knows I'll appreciate it! What you are describing is my JOB not my marriage! I'm a care-worker and when in someone elses home I'm there to be at their beck and call. I have most of the duties of a wife to perform to someone I'm not married to and don't even know who doesn't really care what I like or dislike! They don't have to! I expect them to treat me like a servant, I expect my hubby to treat me as his equal.

For me dutiful wife is someone who does all her best to make good out of her family. Someone who's faithful and always thinks for the welfare of her family. She may not do all the housechore but knows what her family needs. Someone who checks her children and her husband.

I think being a wife doesent mean a slave sentence! infact the more you hover around him the more suffocating it becomes for the both of you.Going out with friends helps to put new ideas in your mind that you can in turn share at home with him.Its about time us ladies began to interprate marriage as a partnership and not a personal maid,mabe we will get more respect.

A dutiful wife doen't mean that she always obey her husband and always be in a secondary position in the family. Husband and wife should have equality in family life. They are the two sides of the coin and both these sides are equally important. A good wife should listens to her husband in the same manner a good husband listens to his wife. Both husband and wife can share household duties. If the wife is also going out for work or some other necessary thing, the husband can make dinner if he is free at home. There should be sharing - give and take - in all matters with out debate or arguement. Both of them should understand the likes and dislikes of the other.

I have been married for 26 years. From day one I regarded my wife as a partner, someone who chose to live with me, for better or worse. It has'nt been a bed of roses, there've been good times and bad, if you can't fight with your best friend, who can you fight with. Heck, if you don't regard your wife as your best friend, what did you marry her for? A dutiful wife? what's that? If she chooses to pick up things you like in the shop, thank her, for loving you enough to think about pleasing you with something you like, don't chastise her. get her some scent, some roses, something that tells her YOU have been thinking about HER, for a change Well, I would'nt want someone at my beck and call, I don't want a slave, I want a close friend, someone who knows me better than I do, someone who is there with me, who does things with me because she wants to............and I could go on and on and on.....................

A dutiful wife is not a slave or martyr like you just described. If you read Proverbs 31:10-31, you will read about a virteous woman. Is she a dutiful wife? You can answer that after you read the Scripture. But, any man is blessed to have a virteous wife.

That isn't a wife. That is an automoton. A wifes duty is to be faithful. Anyone in a relationship (especially marriage) should not have to worry about being cheated on. Other than that a wifes duty is to Take care of herself, so she can be a happy well rounded person who adds to the marriage. If a husband wants the latter, let him find a kit and build it himself. Wife doesn't equal giving up of ones self.

A wife is a partner in almost everything and not a servant who follows a masters' order or wishes. A wife is also an individual who has her own needs, wants, beliefs and right that should be respected. For me a dutiful wife knows not only how to love her husband but also herself since herself is the only thing she has that he can offer freely to her husband. She must bear in mind that she is not just a wife but also a woman that needs not only to serve and love her husband but a partner that criticizes, has her own stand and beliefs and someone who never give up easily in times of crisis but serves as a pillar of the man she chose to be with forever.

Thats a very difficult question ...being dutiful to your partner can only really be taken so far!!..I think you do things for your partner because you love them,and thats a very good reason for doing them,but to think that you have to continually do things out of duty makes you more of a doormat than a wife...I know that maybe sounds a bit harsh,but we are all equals now...and there are some ,if not many things that i would do for my partner willingly,then he in return must be willing to do things to please me too.To ask a hubby to make his own meal now and again is no crime,we cant possibly be there all of the time,that woudnt be realistic.

I believe a lot of the things you mentioned do make for an amazing wife. In my mind, the perfect relationship is one that is completely selfless. If I am only thinking of someone else it is because I truly love them and want to make them the happiest I can be. But on the other hand you do have to make yourself happy in order to make other people around you happy as well. But I would hope that I am capable of doing everything my husband will ever need from me. A lot of people take this to mean that I will be his slave but if you have the right man who is as selfless as you are then you should never be asked to do crazy things.