If you don't like me, remove me.

Friend, I happen to be one of those who keep friends who do not respond to my discussions and I do not respond to their discussions. I only respond to discussions which I have something to say or those which I can respond immediately after reading the topic. The main reason I still keep these friends because there may be one discussion I can respond one day. I do not lose anything by keeping the friend.

If someone is posting discussions, even if they post some I don't care for, I don't respond to them. I haven't found anyone yet that posts that I haven't responded to at some point.

Rant on KB rant on! I dont keep ppl on my list that I dont care for and for that matter I try to NOT add ppl that have serious differences to me in the first place since chances are high that I'd end up deleting them due to those differences.

I completely agree. If you don't like someone, don't hassle them, ignore them! There is no point to create problems when it's simple enough to remove someone from a list.

I agree with you 100%. Instead of people being mean in other people posts and saying not nice things, just delete my freindship. It will sting a bit but it is better than all that negative stuff that goes on. And, no reason to reply to any post if we cannot be nice in our opinions and not talk one another down. Have a great day! God bless you.

that's stupid!! he removed you from his friendlist just coz of an opinion!!?that's very childish... then he shouldn't have asked or said anything from the beginning! I wouldn't do anything about it, an opinion's an opinion. and i don't like wasting my time for ignorant people...

The old adage springs to mind here my friend, you can please some people some of the time but not all the people all of the time, I hope that's right, but you know what I mean, some people are just fault finders, they have little or no self esteem themselves so they start picking on others, they find fault where there is no fault, they might not like your avatar because they are jealous that you have a great avatar so they will put you down, they might not like your attitude, your culture, your way of life, your views, your opinions, basically with some people you just can win, but then again why try? if they are true friends they take you warts and all. We are not perfect, we can't metamorphasize into someone you are not just to please someone who is not worth pleasing in the first place. We have all different opinions and a difference of opinion is healthy but when you try to ram something down someone's throat or start attacking them because you don't share the same common ground, well that's not needed here. At the end of the day people who don't take you for who you are ain't worth knowing and it's their loss not yours, you have so much to give, if it's not enough for some then they it's they who lose out not you.

I don't believe I can ever become friends with someone by just mylotting. I keep members of myLot in my friends list only if they are useful to me in my goal here: earning money. I keep you in my list because you post a lot, and from all those posts I must find some that are worth responding. If that wouldn't happen there would be no reason for me to keep you in my friends list. Your opinions are your own and you are free to speak out. If I am not interested in one of your posts, I am also free not to respond. That's how I see myLot and that's how I behave around here, without feeling offended by people's opinion - it's their opinion to have.

fair enough!!i dont delete anybody on my friends lists whether they are in active or not or their line of topic is not good or whatever... if i dont like their discussions then i will just ignore it and proceed to another one and if the nexttime i like what they posted then i will respond to them...no bad bananas for me here...i respect others opinion i guess..

I deleted a whole lot of non-friends quite a while ago. I do find however that in order to get a response on one of my interests, I have to request friendships with those I would not normally do. Now I go to the myLot digest and I answer those and I should answer those of my friends, but sometimes I miss them. The way to find out if you should make that person a friend unless the above example of getting enough to answer on a particular interest, is to find the subject that you are passionate about and for which you will always defend. For me, that is Christianity and pro life.

i dont get it. people have different personalites and opinions, so if it contradicts with what you think,it is very NATURAL but deleting someone from your friends list just because you didnt like what he/she said evwnthough it wasnt offensive was a bit overboard but at least he/she was honest. although it was obvious and the person that was deleted will probably get hurt or bothered by it, coz the dislike was made known. so yeah, i have to agree that if you take the word "friends" too seriously even in the online world, so yeah, do away with the hypocrisy and just delete the ones that you dont like. well, i did that to my former chatmates on yahoo messenger, i deleted all the ones that i didnt personally know. not that they offended me or anything, i just want to. i dont want any more "strangers" in my list. LOL

I hope you got it all off your chest, kbourgerie. It is not a nice feeling to know that someone has removed you from their list of friends because of a difference of opinion but it does happen. It has happened to me in the past and I was hurt by it. I have only removed someone from my friends list a couple of times when they have made blatant remarks that go entirely against my ethics and morals. Friends should be able to discuss practically anything without fear of being judged unfairly. Much of the time it is our differences that adds flavor to the friendship.

Well, first of all, don't be upset about this. I heard of people mention this for a couple of times on mylot, even though I haven't met these people myself. It's great that my friends are kind to me. As to this friends issue, I totally agree with you. And that's why I always try to reply to my friends' discussion if I am interested in that discussion. Just be joyful

what i want to say is that diversity contributes to our development.the further we can tolerate other's behaviors,the stronger we are!we are strong because we can accept what we don't agree.

i am sorry for your situation at this moment. it seems that you really upset with someone in here. either my self, also don't understand the people who doesn't remove someone in their friend list although they don't like those person in the discussion or response that they made. perhaps they have some reasons which can't be understand by our ownselves, dear. if i am just in your position, i will still move on as like before. cause i really enjoy my existence to be here and not take big deal with people as like you mentioned in here. have a good day for you

Well I like you or you would not be on my Friends list any more as I do not have People there that I do not like or that take the time to try and be a Friend and not just think that they have to have a lot Friends to have more responses and earn more Those People have no place on my Friends list

I definitely feel the same way. No point in keeping me around if you don't like me or what I have to say. However some people like keeping people they don't like around so they can make fun of them or see what kind of 'crazy' stuff they come up with next. It gives them some kind of strange entertainment.

I understand what you have said and agree your view.As you said ,each of us in the world has the freedom and the right to decide our action or speech.But when we say something ,other people's feeling must be taken into consideration.If you you respect other person ,they will give you the same respect ,and vice versa.In fact most of people can not pay attetion to others' feeling and do much damage on them which is not a good phenomonen.Only if people can care for each other and respect each other ,our world is filled with harmoniom.

There doesn't seem to be allot of point in continuing a relationship that's negative, I must admit. The great thing about a community like MyLot is that you can pick and choose who you communicate with, and about which topics. Sometimes having differing views on a subject makes a discussion more interesting, so I wouldn't consider views that oppose my own as a reason to avoid someone. But if you find that someone is bothering with negativity, then I can understand how that must irritate. Surely though, if you ignore them they'll get bored eventually and go away?

My dear I understand you. Why keep on your list those that you don't like, and why would you keep me in the list if you don't like me. I welcome your policy! Maybe really, we get offended when get ousted from the list but we really cannot control other people with their actions and decisions. So, if a friend of yours decided to keep you out, then so be it! It's sad but don't let it affect you for long because there are so many worthy people around here that will add up to your list of friends sooner or later. We here at Mylot are supposed to enjoy our discussions, to share and to learn from each other and gain friends as well not to mention the earnings. We do not let the others here to steal our enjoyment. We have our respective views and thoughts and we ought to respect each other here despite our differences. Yes, sometimes we may debate and disagree on some issues but that is healthy and in fact gives more excitement and fun. Let us not allow the discussions to come to the point of being personal. But sometimes really there are those who are already becoming sarcastic, senseless, and would sometimes try to ignite you to the point of anger, and had nothing good to impart, then when you come across those people my advice is to just ignore and don't let them affect you... stop discussions with them and don't go to the point of striking back. Don't go down to their level. Don't answer the folly of a fool lest you become fool as well. Better go to other sensible Mylotters because there are a lot of them that are more deserving of your attention. And going back to our point of discussion.... exactly Yes, remove me when you don't like me and I will also remove anyone that I don't like before it affects my happy disposition.