how old is your kids when you separate them sleeping with you?

I bought my son a single bed and put beside our master bed and let him to sleep in it at the age when he entered nursery class. It is nice to have our kid to sleep in the same bedroom as we could take proper care of him during nighttime. I was used to read him children fairy tales during his bedtime every night. From the stories he could acquire lots of teaching and proper ways of life. I believe when the kid has grown up to a certain age, when he feels that he needs more privacy for his own then he automatically would ask to stay in a separate room. So I think there is no any fixed age for this aspect. Anyway the parents should guide the kid so that he could be independent gradually by himself.

Hello dear marketing friend. My son used to sleep with us till he reached age, seven, before he was given a special bed to sleep in. But very often he loved to sleep together with us until he was eleven before he finally gave up sleeping together with us in the same bed. This is my son. Now he never sleeps with us as he is old enough to sleep alone. hehe. He is fifteen years old and will be sixteen soon.

I think all the answers to this discussion have been balanced and fair and lovely! I expected to see some things to disagree with, but I think the mylotters have outdone themselves. I am 62 now, and my grandchildren are now on the scene. But looking back, I would have my babies in the bassinet in my room until they were old enough to graduate to a cot, at which time they went to their own room. but they were always welcome to hop in alongside me and my husband if they awoke feeling "needy". the thing is, if you give your little ones plenty of love and attention, and don't fob them off and push them aside, they will grow to be self-confident individuals. The more love you can give them, the better. You do NOT "spoil" babies/children by loving them. You give them a solid basis for future integrity. Case in point... my 18½ year old grandson. (the oldest) He has been the apple of my eye since I first met him at age 10 min. He has been loved by many. Still is. Everyone who meets him sees him a wonderful. I see his calm maturity, his accepting nature, his huge intelligence, his warmth and empathy, all as a result of getting lots of love from the word go. I am not sure how my daughter managed his sleeping habits, but I recall a beautiful photo of him, age about 9 months, sleeping alongside his dad, who was also asleep. I am convinced that giving plenty of love to babies and little ones, and that includes loving sleeping arrangements according to what is convenient for the family concerned, really lays a solid foundation for future emotional health!! My profile pic shows my youngest grandson, the little brother of the lovely 18½ yr old I mention. Circumstances have not permitted such a closeness with him as with Harri ... but he is lovely too at 8 yrs of age!

It takes time for him to adjust especially he was use to sleep with you, I have several friends who start separating their kids as early as4-5 years old. They will just check once in a while but it's a good training for them to be independent in bed!

Hi Marketing, my son was nearly two before he even had his own bed and even now at the age of four he will wake in the night and sneak in with me. It doesn't bother me as I am on my own so it is nice to have a cuddle but as there is you and your husband I would try to encourage as early as possible. I left it too late really myself. Both my girls were in their own cots, then beds from day one really. It is up to whatever the individual feels comfortable with really. Ellie :D

My children only ever sleep in our bed when they are ill and need that comfort. I dont think they need to sleep in bed with us any other time as they have their own beds and they have to learn to sleep alone. Not just that but me and my partner bed is our time to have some alone time even if its just talking about the day and what we did we need that time and I dont think thats selfish to expect a little time alone from our children.

Some people are going to hate me for saying this but a child should not be sleeping IN your bed - the risks are so high. The chances of SIDS goes up & rolling over & suffocating goes up too :( Unless you're meaning sharing a room then this is different again. They should have their own beds & rooms as early as possible, remember the longer they're in those habits - the harder it is to get them out of that habit. Our daughter was in our room for 6 months, while in the bassinet, then she was moved in to a cot in the room right next to ours - she settled in REALLY well & we never had any issues, when we moved her to another room (so we could sproos up the nursery for the new baby) she went in to a big girl bed & everything has been perfect since then. I guess everyone parents differently but i didn't want to sleep 'with' our daughter just because i was scared of the bad things that could happen & i figured that since she loved her new room & cot & slept in there ok, there was no reason to have her in with us any longer.

I have no idea. My mom never had us sleep with her everynight but when we felt sad, or scared or lonely we would sleep with her. I'm 24 years old and still from time to time sleep with my mom when I'm really upset.

My little one is 17 months old, so I have not reached this decision yet. He sleeps in his cot in our bedroom at the moment and some nights if he wakes up, I move him into our bed. I am thinking about moving him to his own room within the next 6 months or so.