Potty Training

I have always thought that if you make it a game and if you sit with them and then when they go make a huge deal out of it..act silly..make them laugh...this will make them want to go on the potty again. As far as underwear...let her pick out her underwear. At the store and everyday. Good luck.

With my first son I had to strip him down for a few days. I would not let him wear a diaper, underware, or pants. He freaked out because he didn't have anyplace to go and he would go all over himself. It only took 2 days and was wanting to go on the potty. I didn't do this with my second son because it was the middle of winter. I tried everything with him just like you. For months we fought. Then one day I decided just to give up. I put a diaper back on him and told him if he wanted to be a baby forever then that was his decision. I just stressed to him that he couldn't go to school or do other big boy things if he was wearing a diaper. Then I dropped it. I think it was a couple of weeks later that he started using the potty. It was just a power struggle thing with him and once I gave up, so did he. Hope you can figure it out soon!

She needs to realize that potty training is for her own benefit, not yours. I had a friend whose son refused potty training, until they told him they were going on vacation soon and if he weren't using the potty by then he would be staying with grandma instead of going with them. He potty trained himself in a week! My five-year-old granddaughter was still having frequent "accidents" although I think she knew what she was doing! Sometimes it becomes a power struggle between the child and parents, this is one area they can control that the parents can't. She was still having accidents when she started Kindergarden, they would send extra clothes to school. After the first few times she found it embarrassing to have "accidents" at school, and doesn't have them at home any more either. Like I said, they need to understand that it is for their own benefit!

I just wanted to respond because I am having the same power struggle with my just turned 5 year old son. I had hesitated to start my own discusion about it because I was afraid I'd get blasted for having an un potty trained 5 year old...but now I see I am not alone with this problem. I did try not putting pants or underwear on him once...he hid under the table and pottied on the floor...and it wasn't the wet kind...ugh, what a mess! I'll be checking back to see if anyone else suggests anything I haven't tried yet...sorry I don't have advice for you, this is my 4th child and the older 3 trained easily, and #5 is trying really hard too.