ears piercing
By aztcgirl
@aztcgirl (267)
United States
May 28, 2008 4:17pm CST
my mom took my daughter to get her ears pierced a few weeks ago with out my permission. a few weeks went by and her ears got infected really bad to the point where part of her ear was going over the ear ring, my father in law sent me an link on children and their ear pierced, first off it read that when you get you get your ear pieced metal matter she got sterling silver not gold dot like thy are suppose to get. because it wont get infected and cause problems. second my mom took her to clairs she told claire she was the legal guardian and they accepted it, thats not right couple people have told me to sue claires i talked to an employee at claire even though my mom lied who should be responisble if my mom complains about her ears im just going to say first you didnt ask permission, second that is an added responsiblity on to me with out my say so, i have already got problem with my mom in the past forging my name on an insurance check when i got into an accident when i was over 18 when i got into the accident. what should i do my father in law and husband say dont sue it not worth it and other people are telling me to sue because they say it not worth the trouble i ahve an call in to the corporation regarding this matter and im waiting for them to call me back. they should be like walmart and have the so called guardian have the paperwork or at least call the parent to confirm or deny the request.
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15 responses
@jenn760 (1)
• United States
29 May 08
I agree with the first response...its not Claires fault..they didn't know if your mom was the true legal guardian or not and they just took her word for it...I would however talk to the manager and see what you can have done to make sure things like this don't happen to someone else..not sure how they can do that though. Confront your mom and just tell her you don't appreciate what she did and would like it if she could ask you for you permission and if she can't then don't let her take your daughter out by herself anymore.
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@tessah (6617)
• United States
29 May 08
well claires isnt responsible for your mother lying. she told them something, and obviously your daughter didnt refute it, so unless shes too little to have said anything otherwise (you didnt say how old yer daughter is??) she also contributed to the lie. also.. if your mother has already proven n the past she cannot be trusted.. why on earth are you leaving your child in her care in the first place ? also.. it doesnt really matter what material earrings are made of, unless there is an allergy problem that causes a reaction. the problem is in the care of the peircings themselves.. and to have the skin be growing over the earrings like that.. YOU neglected to tend to them properly! they need to be twisted twice daily in order for that to not happen, and antiseptic applied each time this is done for approximately 6-8 weeks before they are fully healed. so yes, your mother lied, and did something with yer child she shouldnt have. but, you didnt remove them when she came home after having this done, you didnt tend to them properly, therefore you are the one responsible for them being infected, not her. attempting to sue claires is rediculous.. they didnt do anything other than the job they were hired to do by yer mother.
@aztcgirl (267)
• United States
29 May 08
thats all good advice thanks , to answer you guys question my daughter is going to be 8 in june, second i have stopped contact with my mom and she ppulling mind stuff say im pulling away from her, lol she doesnt realize she doing it her self. as for tessah, why should i have to tend to my daughter ears when i didnt approve of it i should have to have an added responsiblity added on to me that i dont need or want .i have had my ear pierced 3 times so i know the routine you need to do.and my family wonders why i scream and yell at them.and i have tried to tell me mom and talk to her before and she mdoesnt listen very well she say yes im sorry then a few week later goes back to the same thing, i have cut contact with my mom and she dont call me either. good. lol
@tessah (6617)
• United States
29 May 08
that has got to be THE most assanine reasoning i have ever heard in my entire life. because you didnt approve of her ears being peirced.. you let your baby girl suffer and get infections.. YES as a mother it IS your responsibility to tend to your child, PERIOD!! whether you approved or not.. she suffered at YOUR hand and you honestly dont see the wrong in this? your neglectful attitude is sickening.
@irishidid (8687)
• United States
24 Jun 08
You didn't take care of your daughter's ears because it wasn't your idea? Now I've heard everything. Then the infection was your fault. Good lord!
@loujac3 (1188)
• United States
29 May 08
This is similar to a problem my sister pulled. She took my older sister's daughter out and had her ears pierced without permission. One was off center and of course it made my older sister furious. My younger sister does things like this all the time without thinking about the feelings of others. The bottom line is, she is a control freek and it pushes all of us away. We find it best to avoid her and not to include her in anything that she might cause a problem with.
None of us want to get into long term conflict with our relatives. But, there is a point or line that must be made clear to these offenders. They need to respect our rights and not take it upon themselves to control our lives or our worlds.
Good luck with your relatives.
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
4 Jun 08
Your mother should have asked your permission first, but by no means should Claire's be held responsible because of this. However they should have known better then to put sterling silver earrings in for new pierced ears. And for that reason they could be held responsible. Though that is up to you.
My sister had something similar happen after we got our ears pierced years ago. My mom had taken us to one of those piercing places in the middle of the mall when we were about 11 and 9. Getting our ears pierced went smoothly enough, but when it came time for our second set of earrings, my sister picked out gold shells. Well the woman that worked there put both the earrings in for my sister, though one was tighter than the other. My sister complained about it to the woman but the woman insisted that's how it's supposed to be and to keep it like that. I don't remember how much time lapsed, but one day my sister couldn't take the pain anymore and my mom rushed her to the hospital. The ear had grown over her earring. Ouch! My mom didn't sue the shop, but at the time she wanted to, she was so furious.
@aztcgirl (267)
• United States
4 Jun 08
i had contacted claires to see if they could change their practices and they said they arent allowed to ask for documation of proof of guardian ship they just have to go by what the person who brings them in say is the truth and they said i should take it up with my mom or take my mom to small clams court. and it against the law to ask for documatation for proof of guardian ship that think that is stupid
@22angel22 (450)
• United States
5 Jun 08
I find that claires not being able to ask for an id of both the child and adult is insane. Working at a REAL piercing studio and tattoo shop, we are required by law to have an ID of both the parent and the minor. Doesn't matter then age of the minor either, they could be 2months old. We still need a state issued ID card. Also, the guardian has to sign a form stating that they are the legal guardian of the minor. If they lied on this form and the real parent came to us and wanted to sue, we would not be held responsible, but would have documentation that this person lied and take the lier to court. So far this has not happened in my shop, but has in another one on the other side of my town.
@Elixiress (3878)
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29 May 08
I don't think that you can blame Claire's completely as you did leave your child with your Mam knowing that she was not trustworthy. Do you not think that it would be a bit extreme to have to fill out the same amount of paperwork to get a child's ears pierced as it does to get a passport? Most people just take people at face value in these types of cases. As for calling the parent to confirm or deny the request, your Mam said she was the guardian that implies that she looks after the child not the parents, so if that was the case why should they have the say. Personally I think it was your Mam that was in wrong not Claire's.
@myhairbow (48)
• United States
29 Jun 08
i wouldnt sue eithor because clairs really cant be responsible since all ur mom said was shes her guardian.ur mom is the one to blame but if u sue her u and her will loose whatever u have.and as far as it getting infected.i bet its b/c its fake so to speak.i am the same way.if i put fae jewlry in my ears they get infected.i would tell ur mom since u wanted to pierce her ears well now u can go buy her the gold ones.im sorry im not really much help.i pierced my girls ears myself when they were babies.
@deebomb (15304)
• United States
29 May 08
My question for you is if you didn't approve and didn't want the added responsibility why didn't you just remove the studs and let the girls holes grow shut? If you had there probably wouldn't have been any infection. Your mom may have taken your daughter to get her ears pierced but you didn't have to let them stay pierced.My thought it is your fault that she got the infection not any one else's. Take responsibility for what you allowed to happen and don't sue any one.
@mikeyr6000le (2123)
• United States
29 May 08
I think you should at least sue them for any hospital bills you may have to get your daughter fixed up right. It sounds like they did wrong on two parts. One, with the kind of piercing they did and not knowing that your mother was the legal gaurdian. Also never let your mother watch your child with out you there. Then something like this can't happen again.
@magrylouyu (1627)
• United States
29 May 08
That was wrong for what your mother did. I dont know if sueing Clairs is going to prove anything but then again they dont have much "proof" of who is or isnt the "gardien". I would just show your mother how upset you are with her. If that was my mom, I would "punish" her. I would not call her for a week or nothing! For an entire week. Good luck with everything.
@bitoffun (203)
• United States
29 May 08
I don`t think it would be worth suing over cause it would take a looooooong time and could cause lots of probs with your mom. i think what she did was very wrong. Grandparents should ask first for things like that. I had something similar happen about 2 months ago with my 17 yr old. A friend of ours gave him two tattoos without my consent. To say I was upset is puting it mildly. I think my son could hear me screaming at him all the in NC where he was. I was and still am very upset with the guy that did it. I`m not gonna have him arrested or anything but he knows I am very very upset. What is with people? We are the parents . We decide when they are minors what they can and cant do.
@mikeysmom (2088)
• United States
29 May 08
i cannot believe your mom did this without your permission. that is really nervy. i am not sure how i would handle this except to say that i would not allow my mom to have my daughter alone anymore and i would do as you are doing by contacting the corporation. i doubt you will get anywhere without a lawyer though. good luck to you.
@Palmerhusky (843)
• United States
29 May 08
definately sue. your inlaw took your daughter without your permission to have something done that you should have been with her to do in the first place. on top of that it seems it wasnt even done right becase of the infection...which im sure you brought her to the doctor to take care of. your inlaw should have known better and she should be held accountable for what she did, cause quite honestly she put your kid in danger.
@ItsMePammy (27)
• United States
29 May 08
I don't think you should sue anyone. It seems like any time something goes wrong in life--no matter how small-- there are some people who want to jump on the "sue" wagon. I do think Claire's should require some kind of verification to make sure the adult is the legal guardian--but I don't think it's something you should sue over. I would just take the earrings out, keep her ears clean and keep your mom far away from your little one.
@twallace (2675)
• United States
29 May 08
This was the first time that i have heard someone getting infection from getting their ears pierce. I thought no matter where you went they always put in gold post studs. That was not an option to the customer. I know you were not happy about that at all. But just a thought you could have had her studs changed to regular gold post studs. And kept putting anti ointment on them until they got better. You know when they get pierce they use studs that are large to create the hole and keep it open but once you put regular studs in the hole gets smaller. So don't be to upset it could be corrected.
