is it cheating?

Honestly, i'm not into a long-distance relation.. but, it depends with the two of you.. there's so many way to continue that relationship.. we have internet, you can email each other, we have cellphones, and telephones.. if you think there is still something with you and your boyfriend, well you are cheating.. you should try to find a way to have him contacted, and tell him how you feel.. it would really unfair for him, he should know.. :)

I think there is something wrong with the relationship that you're in. You and your BF should somehow get in contact every now and then. There are plenty of means you can do that if your not techie enough you could always use the snail mail but saying that you and you're BF doesn't communicate at all is not healthy at all. First of all, I advice that you clear it up with your BF what is your status with him. You should establish at least some kind of communication by all means that is very important in a long distant relationship. As for you question, well I do not see that as cheating unless the guy your dating is already courting you and you are also getting into it already.

I am wondering why you don't have any communication? we have emails this time or cellphone, if he is not exerting effort to talk to you, i don't think so you have to continue depriving yourself for happiness. It's time to makde a decision.It is nor cheating for me as long as you will open up to him that you are dating someone this time!

Well you don't want to end up liking two guys! lol. It'll suck when you really have to choose between them. I don't think you're cheating, not yet. But I think you should choose now x.x Try and get in contact with you boyfriend asap...You really should only be dating one now. But choose, who are you happier with? How long have you been seeing your current boyfriend?

I think that you really should try to get in touch with your boyfriend before you make anymore decisions to see this guy. Don't get confused on anything and end up feeling really bad about something that your not even sure of.

Yes. You dated this new boy without telling your bf. You cheated accept it.The only way to save face is for you to immediately come clean w/ ur bf and let him know whats going on before you let this get too far. I can see your young and didn't know. but remember, ur integrity is all u have. Goodluck!

i think i must say its some tkind of. but there are vaklod reasons. you are feekling lonely. when just a date its harmless. still your BF may feel bad if he come to know of it.

I dont understand the term "we don't have the communication to continue the relationship." If its like that you both have not communicated to each others for long time and it has put a communication gap between you and if you have treated it as end of relationship then I must say you are wrong. You should atleast talk to him and try to bridge the gap and then decide further. If you have communicated to each other that your relationship is ended then no problem, enjoy with the new guy.

Are you still commited to your boyfriend even if you haven't talked for months already? If you really like a guy then you need to tell your BF that you want to move on with your life without him... I really can't say it is cheating since you have waited so long for him to respond to your calls or emails before you actually allow another guy to ask you out.. and as you've mentioned on the previous replies... you made it clear that "you are both in friendship level" so it is not cheating. It will be if you like the guy and date him while with someone else so better talk to your man :)

I think that it's cheating when you are already feeling something for the guy and still not telling your boyfriend. This would be unfair to your boyfriend. But I understand that you don't have any communication right now. I think that you should make things right first with your boyfriend until you start a new relationship with this guy.

My dear my opinion is Yes you are cheating because you are still involved with someone and even if that is only a date and you are not yet getting into a relationship it is very clear that your date is the start of it. My advice is that if you feel that you relationship with your boyfriend is no longer worth keeping then do break up with him the proper way. Write him a letter or call him or what ever possible means. Make the break-up formal and final so that you won't feel guilty if you want to try another relationship. As I could see there is something wrong with your relationship because there is no communication as you said. Is it because you, or your boyfriend, or both of you are already falling out of love with each other? I'm sure if you still love each other you will do all means to communicate because there so many ways to do so despite the distance. Now if you don't really feel the love anymore then go and break up with him first and pursue the new relationship without any guilt.

Yes... As long as you haven't broken it off one way or another with your boyfriend but you go on a date with another, I would consider it cheating... Sorry to be so blunt but I couldn't figure out a way to say it nicely

Long distance relationships are waaaay too hard. dang! I've been there. and i once went through what you're going through. I had that stab of guilt before. I also asked myself the very same question "Am I cheating?" I thought I did. I know dating doesn't mean you're eager to start anything with a casual guy, but still I know I'm doing it behind my boyfriend's back. It's complicated especially if you and your boyfriend ain't talking and you don't have a clue about your relationship status. You may be in your wits end, dear. You may need to reassess whether you still wanna have anything to do with your boyfriend or could you still put up with your situation. If you feel that you are bein taken for granted too much, you may need to find a means to break the news to him so that nothing is holding you back in your singlehood. goodluck girl, you can do it.

for me its cheating.... why? dating a guy w/ out your boyfriend's knowledge can be erroneous and why do you date a guy? for friendship? it's just not right.... friendship can also be achieved in different ways

YES, you are cheating and shame on you! You know perfectly well that you're in a relationship and part of that is knowing that you don't go out with other guys, even when he's out of town. Some people might try to justify what you've done and placate you by saying its ok, but it's NOT. How would you feel if your boyfriend went out with a girl in Dubai? And worse yet, that he wanted to see her again? You would feel betrayed and hurt, wouldn't you? Same goes for your boyfriend. If you can't handle waiting for him to come back, then break it off with him and tell him the truth. If you're adult enough to be in a relationship, then you should be doing the right thing instead of playing dirty and trust me, you ARE playing dirty.

Time to clear things with your BF, chechuva. The mere fact that you have a distant relationship, lines should be open for communication. I don't think it's cheating since you don't have a relationship with that guy you're dating. That mixed emotion you feel is the result of unhealty relationship with your BF. If ever the feelings is strong for both of you and your BF you won't even thought of dating another guy even if its just a friendly date. Ask yourself first if you still love your BF or just excited for this guy because he gave you importance you need. All i can say is follow your heart.

I would consider this cheating, I would never go on a date with someone while being together with someone else. How come you can't communicate with your boyfriend? Surely they have computers in Dubai. How long until he comes back?

how much do you feel for your boyfriend in Dubai? that is what you should think about? I do not know if this is really cheating if the other guy is just a friend. I guess it would depend on what you really want. do you love your boyfriend or is it more just like? if he asked you to marry him would you do so, or live together? You are young yet and maybe this other guy is the one.

In my opinion,I think we should follow our heart because life is once for anyone ,so no matter in which way we spend it,it's still a kind of waste.What have happened these days in our China make me rethink our lives,just value what you have now for we don't know what will happen the next minute.

Simple answer: in my opinion you're not cheating at all! Having a new good friend whom you like isn't the same as cheating..