do you feel guilty when you buy yourself things?

I don't think it's a mom thing, because I'm the same way. I've gotten better about it over the years, but it used to be that even when I needed something, I would resist buying it until I absolutely had to. I still prefer to buy things for my fiance, but he always tells me to get something for myself instead.

I think it is a Mam thing as my Mam says she feels bad when she buys stuff for herself, however I think that this excludes cosmetics and skin care products as she buys a lot of them. Basically I think it is just clothes that she feels guilty about lol. I don't feel guilty about buying myself stuff as it is my money and no one is relying on me to fund them other than my boyfriend at time, but I can do that and spend money on myself at once.

just little bit. if i buy something for my own self without buying anything to my husband, i will just feel little bit uncomfortable. i don't know why does it happen since the money that i spend out comes from my own paycheck not from the money that he gives to me and i bet, if i have children someday then i will just gonna be as like you then

I don't think i feel guilty about buying myself things but i don't do it very often either so that could be why i think it's fine to do it. I also tend to buy myself little, insignificant things (not to me though) that are inexpensive so there's no need to feel guilty anyway! You need to splurge on yourself sometimes, you cant always be buying for everyone else & never for yourself, that's just not a fair deal i don't think! I find myself buying everything for our daughter (almost 2) & the coming baby & even things for my partner but my spending on myself doesn't happen often - could be because i'm fussy & even though i know i need certain things, i can never find anything i actually like so that os probably the reason i buy less for myself! Try putting money away especially for yourself & then go on a spree - spend all that you've saved, soley on yourself! You'll love it!!!

I don't feel guilty at all. I don't buy much for myself so when I do it is usually something I need more than a want. But even if it is a luxury, I don't feel the least bit guilty. Feeling guilty is not doing anything positive for me and doesn't help anyone else so, for me, it's a wasteful emotion in this case. Just my opinion but you're welcome to it.

Me too!! I hardly ever do it and my husband yells at me. BUT it's sure easy for him to do it!! Why is that? I guess as moms we feel like we're the ones more responsible for everyone in our families and no matter how hard we work for them we don't think we should be spending anything on ourselves. I think the last thing i bought myself was a pair of flip flops and that's only because the shoes I was wearing were hurting my feet. Of course I looked for the cheap $2.00 pair. If I would have spent more I probably would have thrown up, lol.

It is not a mommy thing, it is a woman thing. It comes from when you were a girl, and if you bought something, you go the "do you need that? There are starving children in Africa," yet your brother or brothers never got that lecture, because they were boys and boys were allowed to buy toys because they would eventually grow up. It does get worse when you marry and have children, because you are supposed to be buy things that are necessary because your husband worked so hard, It is probably harder for women who work inside the home and were not told that housework and housekeeping is an honored occupation.

I don't hardly ever buy myself anything either. My husband usually has to talk me into even buying myself clothes when I need them. Usually when we go out and buy stuff for ourselves (like for birthdays/Christmas), I end up getting things for my kitchen or other things that the whole family can benefit from. I'm running out of kitchen things that I want, though, so I don't know what I will do then. :) I think it's just because we always want to make sure that our family is taken care of. My son has a lot more toys than he needs, and he has enough clothes to wear a different outfit everyday for about a month, but I still look at toys and clothes for him a lot more often than I look at things for me.

yep I will go in the store and see a blouse or something that i really like and put it in my cart, farther down I will see something I think my hubby would like or needs or an item for one of the grandkids,and there is just enough money for one, so I put mine back and get for the other, and you know this sucks, when does it come our turn to pamper ourselves, we always think of the other person. Is it the mother instint yes I think we get so involved in seeing that everyone else is taken care of we forget about ourselves, I declare tomorrow as buy something for your self day.

Well,i dont think it is right to feel guilty bcuz mom also need her things too but if every time you buy for yourself and not for them then it is wrong.I think so.

Nope. Since most of what I buy is usually for one or both children, when I buy something for myself I actually feel pretty good.

I feel guilty sometimes, too. I don't buy myself much, because guilt stops me. I am frugal by nature and by necessity, which also prevents spending on myself. I usually spend the most on my son, then my husband, then me. I think maybe it's a mom thing. We tend to put our children first, because we love them and want them to have everything.

Yes i do my partner is always moaning at me for this. He says i should treat myself more. I will see something i want and then spot something the children will like so ending up buying stuff for them instead of myself. I believe it is a mum thng as i know lots of mums who feel the same way.

I agree with you. Most of the time I dont buy for myself and when I do it has to be really necessary

I always feel guilty if I buy something for myself! When I do, I usually make sure I buy something for everybody else, too. Obviously, I don't buy anything for myself very often, even if I need it... it's too expensive to buy for everybody!!! I think it is a mom thing.