my son was suspended from school today for biting.

You should talk with the school administration and give them the other side of the story. The school must be fair here and should hear both sides before giving punishment. Disciplinary actions should be fair too for both children or else better look for another school that teaches values. You should take immediate action to be fair with your child.

This doesn't sound fair at all. Of course you should ask for him to be unsuspended. Tell the schoolhead about the bullying and that others have not been suspended for the same offence. What really angers me is that nothing has changed over the years. When I was in school I was suddenly attacked by a girl I didn't even know. I had never seen her before. What do you do when you are ambushed? You hit back! The little so-and-so actually bit me in the arm during this tussle. It was horrible and I had to get a tetanus shot. But what happened after that was even more amazing. My mom had to come to the school with me and we were told off1 And the real perp was not suspended nor did she get any punishment of any kind. This was years ago and is basically the same thing. I'm sooo angry that it is still going on! So please get up the guts to say something about it and don't forget to let us know how it ends!

Well... I think that after talking to your son... and having the whole story... I would ask to have an appointment with the principal... or who ever suspended him... and give him your side of the story. That's about all you can do. Sadly in this life... the weak is bullied and is always the victim of the bully. And the way the law is structured... the law punish the victim to defend itself from the bully. My way of thinking today... is that if you are attack by a bully... send him to hospital. If you are going to be punish for defending yourself... you might as well do a good job of it.

i don't think your son should be suspended, granted that he had bitten his classmate he should be punished but not suspension. the school could scold him but they must investigate to let the truth come out, your son only did that to depend himself and so he is not the only one at fault.

My baby is still too young to go to school... but i know that she is extremely shy... and if this sort of thing would happen to her... i will certainly go to the school administration to air my side... the young bully should not just go scot free... or else... that would sen the message that it is okay for him to bully others... his parents should be made know of how their son is treating others...

I dont think he should have been suspended, I dont know how old he is, my grandson went through a phase of biting if he was protecting himself he seems to have got out of it now. Once again I dont think they should be suspended they should be punished, my son when he was at school he has left now when his friend got suspended he loved it time of school. I would want it investigated and like you said a child bit before and was not suspended, and if I was not happy with out come at school I would take the matter further, which I have done with a school in the past. Kids are a pain we were in a play area 2 days ago when one child protecting himself bit another well the mother made such a thing about it and it was her son that was the bully, that is what annoys me they think their children should not get hit back.

Children especially during their younger ages shoudl be taken care off very well a sthis is teh age tehy do so many mistakes in life and will definitely need parents guidance and parents also need to give enough time also to their children constantly keeping aslo in touch of tehir school things

Actually, I think you should talk to the school b/c not only should your son be punished for biting (to learn that it's not appropriate) but the other boy should be too (to learn that bullying isn't appropriate either). After all, what's to keep him from going after another kid? **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~

You're right to be upset. The child who has been bullying your son should not get off scot free. If he does he'll just keep bullying others and who knows sometime someone he bullies may end up doing worse than just biting him. If I were you I would also want to know why if there was another incident with biting why in that case the child who bit the other didn't get suspended and now your son does the same and he gets suspended unless it's a case of maybe school policies being changed in those 6 months between the two incidents. It seems like schools are changing policies and rules so much anymore that they're hard to keep up with. Luckily my children were never suspended, but my sister's daughter was several times.

How old is your boy? I would most definitely be talking to the school about this. Your son does deserve punishment for biting but so does the other kid for bullying. These are the types of situations you later will see on the news with someone getting seriously hurt. ONe of my girls got suspended once for shoving a girl. I knew the girl and there had been an ongoing battle between the two. I also knew my daughter altho very quick to react was not a violent person by nature. she would get frustrated when provoked and handle things perhaps wrong. This girl had been taunting my daughter for months and had gone so far as to punch herself and put bruises on herself and report to t he police that my daughter had attacked her. I got called out of work for that one. Luckily my daughter was with a friend of mine and no where near where this girl said the attack occured. When she got suspended, I told the school the history of these girls and they actually ended up suspending the other girl as well and then had a mediater step in and work with both girls on how to handle their dislike of each other. They actually had in-school restraining orders on them. They were not allowed to interact at all in anyway. Simply suspending your son and not getting to the core of the problem is not going to solve anything. I would push the school to be more pro-active in resolving this. I'd also want to talk t o the other kid's parents.

You can't get mad at him for protecting himself the best way that he could dealing with a bully in school. I think everyone goes through that faze and it's not fun. You deal with per-pressure from a young age and your son just took up for himself. Now when he goes back to school the next problem will be if the kid keeps messing with him. I hope that he doesn't but you make sure that you stay on top of it.

all school bullies should be reported and dealt with by the school authorities at once. you do havethe right to see to it your child is not bullied at school and to tell the school authorities about this.I have never come across this problem with my children when they were little thank Goodness.

thats not fair. the authorities should have investigated before punishing

Yes biting is bad bad but in your case it seems your child was bullied so badly he was terrified and a person not just a child just like an animal will use whatever means necessary to protect themselves yes even biting. Schools these days are just terrible when it comes to bullying they do nothing but if you defend yourself because they won't you get in trouble. I am going through the same sort of thing with my daughter in JR High. She was hit by another girl and yes she fought back in self defense and both were suspended. No she is having trouble with another girl and rumors were spread that my daughter was going to start a fight. When in actuality my daughter was going to go talk with this girl when a gang of kids surrounded them and someone shoved my daughter into this girl but no fight started. She was taken to the office and intimidated by the teachers. They called me at home and told me that if she was to et into a fight she would be arrested for assault whether she started it or not I told them to control the other girl and I will control mine but that mine has a right to defend herself and if she gets suspended or arrested for it I will sue the school. The schools need to stop taking sides and see bullying for what it really is and stop it.

You are right both boys should be punished as your child should not be being bullied. My son got held by one kid and kicked by another and when we reported it the kids inolved got recess taken away for 2 days. I thought it was a weak punishment for the damage they did cause they kicked him hard. But it did work these boys have not done this since and they are now trying to be friends but I dont like them coming around. I hope it all works out for you and your son.

I would call the school. We had a problem with something like this at our school as I saw one girl grab another girl by the hair when getting off the bus and then take a swing at her. The girl swung back to get away and the school said that because she did neither would be suspended. I called the school because I know that there is a bullying law going into effect this next school year that has been handed down by the federal government. I also did not have a child involved so felt that I was objective and let me just say I let them hear exactly what I thought about allowing a child to bully others and when the kids lash back they shouldn't be the ones held accountable. I did remind them about the anti bullying law and it finally came to pass the girl that started it was suspended not the other girl. Look up what your state dept of education has listed as the date this law will be demanded by the school and hit them with it. Good luck and know you are right!!!

geez, i would be calling the principal for a meeting asap. Maybe suggest your son receive counseling in lieu of being suspended (don't schools have guidance counselors?) the other kid should equally be punished for being the instigator. I think suspension for biting is a little harsh...wouldn't detention be more appropriate? I think if you talk to the principal and explain the situation (especially since all the things you're son has been through!) and that you think it is inappropriate in finding a solution for the problem (which would be reducing bullying and teaching kids how to respond to it properly or learning better social skills) that the principal would open up his or her eyes. Of course, I don't know all the time about what schools and teachers think - they don't ever seem to know what's really "best" - they just get caught up in their procedures. Good luck with it!

i haven't heard of anyone being uspended for biting.. but i was bitten a lot when i was a kid. i don't think suspension was the answer though.. counselling would have fit better in situations like that. so that we can understand what's really going on.

I would talk to the princeaple for your son was only trying to protect himself while being cornered by the bully. Yes we try to teach our children that biteing isn't nice but when they have no other defense but to quickly think of that out of reaction then they feel they have to do just that. I feel the other kid should get suspended for what he did and starting the whole thing not your son. It's not right for the one's that start things like bullying to walk free they should have to be punished for their actions as well. I hope this whole situation get's resolved for you soon. I wish you and your son the best of luck take care.

no,i don't think your son supposed to be suspended.Aparantly it was unfair,the child that bullied your son should have taken the prime responsibility,although your son did sth. wrong ,he just wanted to eacape being hurt.