I thought I had plenty time
By martindale
@martindale (163)
United States
May 30, 2008 10:42pm CST
When I was young, men used to ask me to travel with them, but I always thought it was just so they could sleep with me, so except for a few small trips with boyfriends, I always said "NO". I thought I had plenty of time. I never planned to have children and offers rolled in all the time. Then I got pregnant accidentally and then I got married stupidly. I love my children. That's right, I had another 19 months later than the first. The divorce started 6 months later and the marriage was just under 3 years total. Now, 11 1/2 years later, I surprisingly still get offers to travel and now I don't because I don't want to set a bad example for my girls. 2 months ago, a male friend offered to take me to Amsterdam on a cruise for 3 weeks, but that was too long to leave my kids, plus we've never even kissed. 2 days ago, he offered to take me to the mountains of Colorado, pay for all my massages that I would miss, buy me clothes for the trip as it's still cold there compared to Texas, board my dog, which I got from him, and pay a sitter for my kids. Of course it was too short of notice. My youngest daughter is almost 12. Is it possible that my offers will be gone by the time I'm free to go. Incidently, he even offered me my own room. Am I nuts? Will I be too old and unattractive when I get my freedom? Have I held out for the wrong reason?
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@greenline (14838)
• Canada
31 May 08
I can sense you area very wise girl. One ofcourse needs to give good thinking to plan one's life path. One has to be aware of people taking the advantage.
Best wishes to you.
@gunslinger (184)
• Philippines
31 May 08
I think you'll still be able to travel because you have the means to do it. Why don't you take your daughters with you? You don't have to do it every year or every summer and it doesn't even have to be too costly. But I'm sure your daughters will cherish those moments in their young lives. And for kids nowadays, it would be a better option than playing all those online games. They even get to bond with you during vacation.
Hope you get all the best!
@martindale (163)
• United States
1 Jun 08
I took them to Disney World at the end of 06' thru the beginning of 07'. Wow did they argue. The vacation for them was just like home for me. I guess it was fun, but that was a time I needed a man's hand to help keep peace. It was really stressful for me. Thanks for advice. I wanted to take them to the Grand Canyon, but only one wants to go with me. I can't seem to get them both onboard to do the same thing and I don't want another stressful vacation.
@sisterjinx (1135)
• United States
31 May 08
All I ever wanted to do was travel. Anywhere, everywhere. I never wanted to be in one place, stable. But I too got pregnant early in life and ended up having three in a row. I got married to a wonderful man and the father of my children. We are still together. For the children's sake we stayed fairly stable. Yes there were moves here and there but for the most part we remained in one place. Now all of our children except for our youngest have gone out on their own. My youngest is 15. My husband, myself, and our boy are traveling. We bought a camper and we are full time RVing. It's amazing.
I don't know how old you are but I don't think you are ever too old to live out your dreams. You are never too old to travel. I think it is admirable to remain there for your kids until they are older but someday you will be able to live out your dream.
@martindale (163)
• United States
31 May 08
I'll be 51 when my youngest graduates. I really hope it's not too late. I too never wanted to be in one place. Before my kids, I never even lived anywhere more than 11 months. I've lived all over the suburbs of Houston. Most of the time I didn't even keep 6 month leases. Now, I own my own business and have been there for 9 years. Before, I never had the same job over 4 months. Maybe there's hope.
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