What if you have an unromantic life-partner
By leealice67
@leealice67 (221)
China
May 31, 2008 2:34am CST
I have an unromantic husband. We have been in loved for five years and we just got married a month ago. He never sent me even a rose. And I am sure he will never do that. All my friends are so surprised about this. And I am surprised myself. Actually, sometimes I do like to get a rose from him. But... What should I do? To ignore this or to argue with him? I have argued with him for countless times but arguement didn't work at all.
5 responses
@mrspace (60)
•
2 Jun 08
I think that you'll find that your life-partner has other ways of expressing their love and affection. Maybe you just haven't picked up on those little subtle things. I'd talk to them about it. Communication always helps. In my opinion at least.
@leealice67 (221)
• China
2 Jun 08
You are right. Communication is always important. It helps me a lot. And now the first thing I would do is to talk to him as peaceful as I can when we are having an unpleasant talk or something the like. But this is true that when you are together for too long, you will easily neglect the other's good things and get picky.
@leealice67 (221)
• China
4 Jun 08
Yes, I'm doing better and better in communicating with him. It really helps us a lot. Hope you will always communicate well. Keeping in love for 7 years is not an easy thing. Many people can't do that. Best wishes to you and your love.
@kassdaw (591)
• United States
31 May 08
Don't argue just talk to him. Tell him you want to go on a date. And you want him to take you to dinner and he should get you roses. Once he sees how happy you get he will probably do it more offent. Me and my husband have been married for a year and the best why to get something from them is to let them see who it makes you feel when you get what you want. They just what us to be happy and feel loved, some guys just don't know who to do that. They need help sometimes. Good luck
@leealice67 (221)
• China
31 May 08
Thank you for your advice. But the fact is when we go out to dinner he gives me the wallet and the dishes I like instead of roses. I've told him that it would be romantic that someone would sent me roses and he just ignored me.
@leealice67 (221)
• China
31 May 08
That's a good idea. I can't wait having a try. Thank you for your excellent idea. Have a good day!
@Dorislee (209)
• China
31 May 08
If so, then make yourselfe use to it, that the way if you do real love your unromantic consort. My hubby is also a man without any romantic minds, and we often were unhappy /brawl when we two went out for shopping or walk together, it seemed there are so many things we holding different opinions, but we still love each other much, so we are just trying to use to it.
@leealice67 (221)
• China
2 Jun 08
It seems that we have met the same kind of man. We used to be unhappy each time we went out for shopping. There were always different opinions and arguement. I have tried for a long time to get used to it. And now we have less arguement. And if I realize that there may be unhappiness, I keep silent. That works.
@leealice67 (221)
• China
31 May 08
I am sure most women like compliments, especially those from her husband. You know why? We want to make sure that afte marriage we are still the sweetheart of the man. Thank you for your advice. I think I'd better have an open and sincere talk with him.
@leealice67 (221)
• China
31 May 08
And if the talk doesn't work. I will be very happy to take kassdaw (192)'s way. :)
@patchmypal (344)
• Philippines
31 May 08
Am not married but if i were in your shoes, i'd rather buy the flowers and may be that will show him how important it is for you. There are a lot of small details that will really make and keep the love alive for both of you, no matter how "unromantic" your husband is. Have fun leealice!
@leealice67 (221)
• China
2 Jun 08
Thank you. I am now trying buying flowers myself and I don't know whether it will work or not. It needs time and effort.
