Do you have more male/female friends?
By Ms Michelle
@lenapoo (678)
United States
May 31, 2008 9:20pm CST
I personally can say that I tend to have an equal amount of friends being male and female. I usually don't talk to my male friends as much as I used to because I'm married now and the majority of them just sort of faded to black. Do you feel that having alot of male friends and being a female is not a good idea? What about the situation being reversed the male having alot of female friends?
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15 responses
@painkiller77 (2073)
• India
23 Jul 08
since you are married, i think you should feel for your hubby as well. the fact lies that a male is inherently of a bit jealous nature. so if his wife has a number of male friends, he won't like it. i personally have a lot more number of male friends as compared to females. sorry, i am not married. so can not say about females' or for that matter, my to-be wife's mentality. happy my lotting and may the lord be with you.
@Dusty249 (8)
• United States
10 Jun 08
I have about equal amounts of male and female friends. Although, when I have some really close guy friends get married, the friendship kinda loses some of its closeness. As far as it being a good idea or not - when you are married I would definately take in to account my spouses feelings and would have to have some clear boundaries. I would hate to lose some of those great relationships, though.
@decaobr (343)
• Brazil
1 Jun 08
Guy i man, and the biggests part of my friends is man. To be honest i dont have female friends, all girls who i know is in potential my future girlfriend. With i talk with one girl its because i interested in she.
@tardistrek (17)
• United States
2 Jun 08
I have more female friends since im single i hane more female friends. one though my dance partner was cool. my dance partner is pictured with me in n my home.
traved with one but i cane be a total vagatarian, but she has no idea on how to be passionate. 2 were passionate but 1 had ni idea ti leat stuff alone in the car , ans one stole. 2 were resoectable a passionate but got married but were still friends. Another one gonebut she was bipolar. another one is done with guys but just a friends.
@Some_dude (86)
• Canada
1 Jun 08
I have more male friends. Most of the girls I know are the ones that you don't want to be friends with. Most of my female friends that I know I met them on my own.
@cherylpan (79)
• Singapore
1 Jun 08
when i was younger, maybe when i was in secondary school, i have more male friends as i feel that they are less likely to backstab you when you do something.
however, now that i have gone to another learning insitution, i hardly have friends and have no time for my old friends.i feel that having male friends when you are a female is alright as you will be able to see things from a guy's perspective.
but the thing is that they will not be able to relate with you when you are having a bad day or just feeling moody..
and whats up with guys who keep asking whats wrong when we say "nothing"?
ok...so most of the time we do have something bothering us...
but it is just private!!!
ok...
to make it more painless for you, i will start saying...
yes, there is something bothering me but i dont want to talk about it to you.
will that be better?
i just feel that they are making a whole story of nothing!!!
thats what pisses me about guys at times...
but for girls, having many girl friends when you are a guy is ok...
i guess...
except that some other people may call you a flirt or a gay...
thats all...
@yogeshdhusa (2236)
• India
1 Jun 08
I have both friends male and female, but if i consider who is close to me or dont have to think before talking are boys not the girls.. When girls are arround i have to control my words.. enjoy:)
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
1 Jun 08
I have more male frenz in real life as compared to female frenz.. BUt in mylot, i've got more female frenz than male frenz.. hehe ^_^
In a way, i can relate better to my male frenz about everything, and money and gals.. BUt i will find to harder to relate to my female frenz..
@kenzie45230 (3560)
• United States
1 Jun 08
When I was a kid, a young adult, and later after divorcing, I always had more male friends than female. I've always hated that women tend to gossip and put each other down.
Now that I'm married again and over 50, I find that most of my friends are women between 35 and 70. I have a few women friends in their 20s and a few older than 70 too. I don't have a best friend, though. Sometimes I wish I did.
@acbllr (43)
• Philippines
1 Jun 08
It is not a bad idea to have more male friends than female or male having more female friends than male as long as it is really friendship. When you got married, i think you're male friends just stayed only in the background out of respect to your husband. Not all man can fully understand the situation unless he was already a friend of yours and knows all your male friends. The situation was no longer the same because the joke and the flirtatious things of friends may be misinterpreted. It's a good thing that your male friends knows when to make light of things...But i know they are still there for you, they are maybe just waiting for you to say hi to them. Just involve your other half on matters with your friends so that it wont cause any problem in the future.
@yanna1027 (248)
• United States
1 Jun 08
Hi. When I was single, I have more or less the same number of female and male friends and was close to all of them. We always go out together as a group and it was really fun. We were like a huge family. I noticed that since I got married, my male friends have keep their distance but it might be out of respect for my husband or maybe for their wives as well. I remained close with my girlfriends.
@ZephyrSun (7381)
• United States
1 Jun 08
I have mostly male friends and as yours mine sorta faded away too but probably my closest and dearest friend is male and we are still as close as ever. My husband had to adjust to this after we were married. He has as many female as male friends and I don't care if he has female friends that doesn't bother me. I think it helps me understand my husband better asking my male friend why is he doing this, or why did he act this way. But, my best male friend is in California and that probably makes it easier on my husband lol
@Timothy31 (649)
• United States
1 Jun 08
I have many more female friends than i do male friends. I tend to get along better with women. A lot of guys just seem to really annoying me with stupid things they do.
@Arphoe (50)
• China
1 Jun 08
i have more girl friends than boy friends before, but when i have a girlfriend, i alienated them, because my girlfriend is jealous of that
@Mirenia (199)
• United States
1 Jun 08
I have a ton of male friends and hardly any girl friends. Sometimes it can be a bad thing to have a lot of male friends (since I'm a girl) because they tend to get flirtatious at times and since I'm in a relationship it gets my boyfriend jealous and at times upset. Other than that I dont really see a problem with having more male or female friends over the other. Also, I dont really get along with girls too much. I'm somewhat of a tomboy like girl and the girls that are around me are too girly for me.