Can love really become less?

Yes, you can love less. If you commit yourself in an relationship and the other person keep on doing things that make you unhappy then the love became lesser and lesser until it eventually turns to hate. It is good that she left at the lesser time.

M very sorry to hear that buddy Wat i think in this matter is that somethin like this can happen wen there's some continuous dis-agreements goin on over petty issues or some real bad views given by some common guy. N may be also coz of some communication gap or lang time wthout communication. There can be many issues for this buddy..So it IS possible..Decrease in the love. Tho i'd say its jz a passin phase n you shud've strengthened ur partner n evoked their confidence in you. Tc

Wow...this is spitting image of my current situation. If you read my posts you will see. I know exactly what your ex means by loving less. I've never thought about that way. I've always said that my love has changed or I don't love you like I used to. But love you less is perfect. My ex never betrayed me either and really wants to work things out but I think I've reached a point when I needed to do this for my self. I think he is the sweetest thing and it kills me to hurt him like this but it is what I needed to do. It is hard when you notice your feelings change and you can compare your old feelings with the new. It is not fair to you or my ex to continue with a relationship where the love is not 100%. There were things that happened through out our 3 1/2 year relationship that really affected me deeply had me question our future. It actually scared me thinking about marrage and kids. That is FOREVER. I don't want to feel like this forever. I want to be absolutly carefree with the relationship and our love for each other and I am not there. It is extremly hard for me to stick to my decision because I miss him and everything that we had but I think this ship is sailing.....I think I should read this to him. I've never put all this into words before and I feel like there is a bowling ball in my chest as I write this. But to answer your question...yes it is possible to love someone less. p.s. Ours also happened in a flick. That flick represents something that has been brewing in the back our minds for a long time.

from somehow, I think it's true. Because somebody evey said it to me. I accept the fact.

No, Love can never become less...it only GROWS. I have been married for 8 years and Our Love has only grown and not become less. Altough we take each other for granted but that doesnot mean we love each other less. Love has to be kept alive by doing small things for your loved one (write love notes and leave them in his/her clothes, compliment on his/her clothes, food he/she has cooked etc... If she says her love has become less that means she never loved you or maybe you never reciprocated properly. Many a times people consider comfort as Love...I mean if you are comfortable physically and mentally, being with that person takes care of all needs. But this is not true love. I wish that you get true love soon.

It sure can. I have already came to that point on my previous ex. You can't say it's a betrayal cause you have never tried to cheat or do something to end the relationship but if it just doesn't work, you can't force the relationship to work. Every relationship should have 2 people to work it out, not one but two. It just sad that there are some people have less love or worse lose the love for some for reasons. But that's what life is, we should live with it and learn from it.

i think it can become less in the sense that the person is not feeling the same intensity. true love never fades away. but it was something taht may be was one sided from you i guess.

yeah it's true..sometimes partner really get tired and the love he/she have for the partner became less..i don't know how can i explain fairly and clear..It really happens

Love never ends. It just changes intensity. Maybe that's what happened with your girlfriend. We can never really control other people's feelings, nor try to explain how and why they behave in such ways. It's different for each person. For some, maybe the change was because of something they did that piled up or wasn't forgivable, but for some it may just be because the feelings of the other person were just not enough to begin with. Maybe there was confusion about the intensity at first, but as time went by things became clearer and a decision had to be made. But whatever the reasons are the fact still remains that you're not together anymore. It's high time to stop thinking about what happened and think about what will happen. There's so much ahead of you. Whatever made it reach to the point of a break up does not matter now because you know that you gave her your best and that you never betrayed her trust. It was out of your hands. Go on with your life, the burden of the break up is not with you. You'll never know, but people usually find out how important other people are to them once they're completely out of their lives. I hope this makes sense. Take care okay?

For me, what she had for you is not true. Yes, in my opinion, if its true love it won't happen. Yes, it is true a person may love you less as time goes by. Reasons could be, you became a boring perosn, you are not as interesting as before, you are not as lovable as before, or you love the girl too much that she needs space and your love almost choke her. I still love a man now, he said he still loves me but not like before. he doesn't have any relationship now. What happened is, it's like our spark just sudden dimmed. His love for me wasn't true for he has measurement or basis in it. My love for me has no basis, I just feel it. Take care =)