I'm going to stay single forever! (Warning-Rant ahead!)
By Tianna2
@Tianna2 (1273)
United States
June 1, 2008 6:12am CST
Hello friends! Let me start this by saying that I work as the head cocktail waitress at a local night club. For some reason, almost every Saturday night/Sunday morning I go home hating people. I have guys hitting on me all night, pinching my butt or rubbing up against me every chance they get. Women are all looking at me like I'm trying to steal their dates(if only they knew how rude their dates can get). I guess this is what I get for dropping out of high school. I know by morning I'll be better but I just had to get this off my chest. Thanks to everyone that took the time to read this!
Love you always, Tianna!!
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12 responses
@viking_srk (283)
• India
1 Jun 08
Heyyy....u dont have to stay single forever.....hope u meet ur guy very soon.....
And as for the nite club....there'll b better times....
best of luck....God Bless You !
@Tianna2 (1273)
• United States
2 Jun 08
Hi Viking, Its kind of hard to think about getting involved with someone when your surrounded by the worst society has to offer. I know I'll meet someone someday, I just hope I'm ready when he shows up.
Thank you for the encouragment Pergammano, I know that people think when you work with the public that your working for them personally.
Thank you both for responding, I'm better now, but I think I need a vacation for a while just to clear my head.
((((HUGS)))) to both of you, Tianna
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@viking_srk (283)
• India
2 Jun 08
heyy....be positive and love will come to you....
n enjoy ur vacation darling !!
take care !
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@pau_79 (790)
• Philippines
29 Sep 08
Hi there, no offense meant but what if you quit your job? this is just a suggestion. Try to apply in a regular restaurant Im sure you have enough experience that will qualify you.
I think men can be nasty esp when they are drinking so you have an option to quit your job or continue to feel bad coz you cant do anything coz they are a paying customer
.
Also try to research more on the internet
--you can stop working if you learn how to earn effectively online--but this is just a suggestion.
Take care -ok
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Also try to research more on the internet--you can stop working if you learn how to earn effectively online--but this is just a suggestion.
Take care -ok
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
13 Jul 08
Hey Tianna! Sorry to hear about the jerks
on your job.
Guys are so rude sometimes.
OK! Most times they're rude.
Except when they think their dates
are looking.
I'm sure something better will open up
soon if that's what you want.
OK! Most times they're rude.
Except when they think their dates
are looking.
I'm sure something better will open up
soon if that's what you want.
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@Tianna2 (1273)
• United States
13 Jul 08
Yes they can be! I acually wrote this a while back after a particully bad night. Its not always that bad and sometimes I kind of like my job but I should get out and find something safer and something that pays better.
Thank you for your response, Tianna
@Tianna2 (1273)
• United States
7 Jun 08
Hello Sid556, I actually started this discussion last week after a really bad night at work. I am feeling a lot better now and I have no intention of giving up on men. I do think that any of my future relationships with guys will not include any ahcohol and I have never dated anyone that I met at work-never will!
Hugs, Tianna!
@dragonfly242 (1060)
• Bahamas
1 Jun 08
I'm sorry to hear that your job can get rough, Tianna.
Sometimes people can be rude, and most of the time they think they can be rude to employees of any company, not just waitresses.
Your dropping out of school may not have been the best choice, but that does not give anyone the right to disrespect you even if you work at a bar.
Forever is a long time lol.
Just dont judge all men by the same standards of those idiots you encounter at your job, they are not all alike.
And i have a feeling after you cool of you'll feel diffrent.So keep your head up.
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@selece (2357)
• Philippines
5 Jun 08
Wah? I hate guys with no manners... like those people. I have a deep respect for women and I hate it when guys treat them that way. If I were superman I'd beat the crap out of those guys for messing with my friend, Tianna. ^^
Take care of yourself. You won't be able to stay single forever, that's a tough one. Hehe.
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@Tianna2 (1273)
• United States
7 Jun 08
Hi selece, I would let you beat the crap out of those guys too! I really dont want to stay single, I just had a bad night at work and had to rant. Maybe I got a bit out of hand with my comments about men but when thats what you see all of the time, it gets hard to have much trust in them.
Thank you for your words of encouragment!
Hugs, Tianna
@AmbiePam (93984)
• United States
1 Jun 08
That must get depressing. I guess a lot of girls dream of a white knight (I use the word 'white' loosely, lol) coming to save them from their lives, at least I think a lot of girls do in high school. I never wanted to be saved by a white knight, but I sure would like to meet one! It sounds like you could use one too. And then he could beat up all the men who hit on you, and carry you off into the sunset...OK, I'm getting carried away now...
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@Tianna2 (1273)
• United States
2 Jun 08
Hello AmbiePam, I gave up on my white night a long time ago but I still have hope someone will come along someday. Its hard to think of being in a relationship when you see people at thier worst. Its like "would I really want to be involved with someone like that", one word-YUK. I know tat one day someone will sweep me off me feet one of these days, hopefully, real soon. I would really like se share that sunset with someone! LOL
((((Hugs)))) Tianna!
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@applefreak (3130)
• Singapore
13 Jul 08
wow this is pretty heavy stuff. makes me wonder if all guys behave the same way. i'm single too but not for the same reason. i have a partner but he doesn't behave like this (at least not in front of me). but i cannot believe those women. they have eyes right? they should see that their date is the one hitting on you and not the other way round. if my date ever dare do that in front of me, i'd most prob smack him across the head and leave.
take care tianna and hang in there.
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@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
15 Jul 08
Tianna2....so glad the picture isn't so bleak today! Truly glad you are much more happily spirited!
Please do not blame yourself, or your job, for the "faults & bad behaviour" of these trolls. Sadly enuff, these dragons appear in many work forces. I am a "Tiler" by trade....and many of the crews I work with are totally disrespectful to women, and these guys aren't even drinking! I can't imagine what they would be like if they are drinking! Be proud of yourself....and who you are....I find that when I don't re-act, they eventually leave me alone. Rainbows to you, you have risen above!
@Tianna2 (1273)
• United States
13 Jul 08
Well, most of the time they are okay, this was just written after a particularly bad night about a month ago. No, I dont think all guys are like that but when you work in a night club, you get to see them at their worst. Usually drunk and out of control. As for the ladies, I guess they see what they want to see, and yeah, I wouldnt stay with a guy that did that around me!
Thank you for your response, Tianna
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@ramyashreesk (1021)
• India
19 Jul 08
Hey tianna don't stay single forever.
I wish you get the best guy in this whole world. You need a companion my dear
friend!
Take care and have a great weekend!
@leealice67 (221)
• China
5 Jun 08
That's really an awful thing for you to have to carry out your jobs. But I don't think you need to stay single forever. There are many good guys out there. The only thing is you haven't met anyone yet and I guess you don't have the time to go out for good guys. But why not consider changing your job? I am sure there are better jobs for you if you try very hard to find one. And things will be better when you have a better job. Don't worry to much about your education. Many people have dropped out of high school for this reason or that, but there are many evening classes and classes the like there for people who want to learn something for a better job. Just have a try. And try to find a happy life of your own.
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@libranavi (11)
•
9 Jun 08
hi tianna it seems that the job which u are doing is not fit for u doing it might b ur big problem but think do any sweeper wants that he will do this job enjoying but the life goes on. there are only 2 ways either u do the job which u feel like or think positive that i must overcome my problems and no longer i would b alone jesus makes match for everyone
bye.
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@Kemboi (341)
• Eldoret, Kenya
22 Jul 08
No you cannot limit yourselve my dear, I wish you were in my county especially my culture you could not speak the way you could not speak that way you have spoken. Because from the experience some ladies who worked in the clubs, their days will never be frustrated they end up finding a guy for her future. So don't limit yourselve one day you will rejoice with me, because I am hopping for you the better bright future because you are the only person in the world nobody is like you. You are rare and you cannot be found in some where else and you belong to somebody.
