Would you like...
By ZephyrSun
@ZephyrSun (7381)
United States
June 1, 2008 4:03pm CST
Your husband to be the home maker? Maybe just for the day to see what it is like to walk a mile (or more like 10 miles if you are a home maker) in your shoes? Some times it seems like there are a lot of men out there that think women just sit at home on their butts all day doing nothing. Like the fairy came and cleaned the house and took care of the kids.
This guy at my husbands work his wife was in the hospital most of her pregnancy and wasn't allowed at all out of bed. After the babies were born he sent out pictures and a letter explaining how life had changed, how when she first went into the hospital that he couldn't understand why his laundry wasn't coming back after throwing it down the laundry chute. I have met him and he does seem like he would actually believe that life worked like this next statement that I am about to make which were his exact words "did you guys all know that my wife does the laundry?" Apparently for the seven or eight months that she was in the hospital he had many rude awakenings. He thought they had a cleaning lady lol.
Do you think your husband knows how much you do every day or do you think he would benefit from doing your job for a day? I don't think that my husband would benefit because he does help a lot, but I keep reading where women that are stay at home moms like myself do everything. How do you do everything? I couldn't do it.
3 responses
@mrspace (60)
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1 Jun 08
I think that there should be an equal sharing of responsibilities. That's what we do at home. We both help with everything. And we do our best not to take advantage of each other. There is more respect for one another that way. That's just my opinion.
@ZephyrSun (7381)
• United States
1 Jun 08
In my opinion that is the way that it should be, even if the one parent stays home with the children. I think it's very hard work have three demanding boys and I know I could not do it all. Great to hear how you two are!!
@mrspace (60)
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1 Jun 08
Thanks. Granted I should explain that we are just starting out. We are getting married in 3 months. But we've been together for 7 years and have been living together for a year. There are still times when we fight and have arguements, but we work hard on communication and respect. It's made it much easier.
@leatherandlatex (295)
• United States
3 Jun 08
I think that's the way it should be. That is the way mine and my husbands relationship is anyway. We probably wouldn't still be together right now considering all we have gone through if we didn't respect each other and communicate. Marriages work a lot better with communication than without I think...so iv'e noticed in our relationship.
@leatherandlatex (295)
• United States
3 Jun 08
My husband? Do a simple task as laundry or dishes? You have to be kidding me! My husband knows how to do the dishes and he knows how to do the laundry he just acts like he doesn't so he never has to do it. When I was pregnant I cleaned the house top to bottom almost every day. I would be in so much pain and I would still do the laundry and at that time I had to walk outside across the yard to do the laundry because we lived in apartments. I still do all the chores, but I love my life and I wouldn't change it. Except maybe move back to those apartments. Those were great. :)
@ZephyrSun (7381)
• United States
3 Jun 08
I was laughing so hard at your comment about how he knows how to do it he just acts like he doesn't so he doesn't have to do it. My son is the exact same way. I am really surprise that some men don't help more than they do. I'm sorry to see your husband acts like he can't.
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
4 Jun 08
At one point i would have thought my husband might benefit. but now i'm not so sure. he can't seem to handle being around the kids for more than a few hours so i don't know how he would do 24/7. He thinks because he can get stuff done in that time i should be able to and then have plenty of free time. but when he does it he completely ignores the kids. he doesn't have to make breakfast then clean up breakfast while finding the kids favorite cartoons and breaking up fights over toys. then prepare lunch and while doing that feed the baby and try to pick up toys. and get drinks and break up more fights. for awhile i thought he got it but now it seems like he forgot what it felt like to be in my day. I wish i could find a good paying job so he could be here sometimes and walk in my shoes.
